whats the first step?

aniceucchik

so I SAH and have no money whatsoever and really dont want to go back to my mothers house, but im done with this marriage. What was your first step and how are you making it, financially?

sweetie0228

Gather ALL finanicial documents: Bank statements, his paystubs, 401K, investments, mortgage documents, tax records and make copies and put in a safe place outside the home.

Take some money out of the joint account and open a new account in your name only at a DIFFERENT bank. (other wise some "helpful" bank employee will link all your accounts together)

Open your own credit card in your name only.

Go to a laywer for a free consultation and find out your rights.  How much of the home are you legally entitled to, if you leave first do you by your actions reliquish your rights to the home b/c you abandoned it.  Ask as many questions as you can for the 30 min appointment about the steps you need to take to get out of this marriage, with your child/ren and still be as financially sound as possible.  Ask how you file for Child Support and are you qualified for Spousal suppport. (PA still has this if you marriage is longer than 5 years and you make significantly less than your spouse such as a SAH situation)

File for CS and Divorce, let the courts serve him and ask him to leave.