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WWYD?
I see a MFM and an OB. MFM for growth scans/cervical checks, and OB now every week.
I've been feeling good-minimal braxton hicks, no swelling, I can move around pretty good.
2 weeks ago at my growth scan it showed my cervix was funneling, but the length was still great. It had gone down from the previous scan (4.1 to 3.5), so we scheduled a cervical check for a week. MFM said no heavy lifting, and sit as much as I could, but that I would be okay with going back to work as long as I could sit.
A week later I went and everything was exactly the same-I'm holding tight at 3.5 with some funneling. MFM told me to come back in 3 weeks for a growth/cervical check, but because I was at 3.5, everything was okay.
I saw my OB today and when I brought up the funneling, she said I needed to be on modified bedrest. She said no cooking, no cleaning, no lifting over 20 pounds, but I should be able to go back to work as long as I can sit.
Now the problem-I have my baby shower scheduled for next Saturday. OB originally said no to traveling for it-it is about 4 hours away. But it is my mom's, I won't have to drive myself, and there are multiple hospitals with NICU's (including a Level 4).
I knew this was a possibility-but everything sounds so good, other than the funneling. We compromised on another cervical check, and after that she would talk about it with ALL the other doctors in the practice. I got in for a cervical check for Tuesday, and I'll leave on Wednesday if everything is ok. I also thought about asking for a fFN test to see what that showed.
Would you take the risk, or would you just accept that this is part of having multiples and not take the risk? I don't want to risk my babies health, but I have been looking so forward to seeing my family and being able to be there for the baby shower.
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Re: WWYD?
Oh, how I wish. It's my whole side of the family/friends, and they all live there. So it's either I make it or the hold the shower without me (and my mom did say they would do this!)
If you can't go, I have heard of showers where everyone brings their gift unwrapped. They go around and show it to the group (like in a circle). Then have a wrapping party and each wrap and decorate their gift then someone brings you all the gifts to open. I am not sure on the traveling, it is a hard choice. Our OB said the thing about traveling that you have to take into account is that if you go into labor and have to stop at a hospital, then they stop the labor successfully but don't release you, you might be stuck in that hopsital until you deliver... so you might be far from husband, family, home, etc. Or if the babies are born there and don't get released same thing. So is it worth the risk?
I know the feeling-I am 31 weeks and my sister gets married next week. The doctor said definitely no travel so I have to miss it. It sucks but I also do not want to be stuck in a hospital far from my home or husband.
Good luck with your decision- it is a tough one.
IMO not worth it.
i'm on br, not funneling but shortened cervix and on procardia. i had to miss my aunt's funeral today 3 hours away. heartbroken, but my babies come first....
why can't it just be postponed, or your mom bring the gifts to you and take pics of you opening each one and include a pic in your thank you ? i also like the idea of a wrapping party.
I don't understand why your OB would be ok with you working all day, but not sitting in a car for 4 hours. Have you asked her that question?
I had cervical funneling when I was at your point in my pg. I got permission to attend my shower (in a wheelchair) and I went downhill fast after that. I ended up in L&D 5x before giving birth at 35w and I was lucky to have made it that far. If there's a question of you being worse off b/c of the shower then please learn from my mistake and do not go. But at the same time, if sitting for 4 hours is bad then I would not work either. I was on bedrest from 20w on. It started out as a precaution and then became a necessity. Sitting made me get much worse.
Is the OB saying "no travel" because of the chance that you might deliver, and then the babies would not be in a local hospital?
That would make sense. But allowing you to work, but not drive in a car doesn't make sense.
It's a great question in regard to being allowed to work but not being able to drive in a car.
She said the biggest concern is being somewhere where people don't know me. And it's a valid concern- if my cervical length was less than the 2.5 it wouldn't even be a question. But my cervical length continues to be above where they want it to-enough that my MFM isn't requiring me to be checked for 3 weeks.
If something happened while I was in NY-we'd have my family, more so than what we have right now. This is the hardest part of having no family nearby-and I miss my family so much right now.
It's so freaking hard to be dealing with this-it took so much for us to even get pregnant, and it kills me that I'll be missing celebrating with everybody. UGH.
Thank you so much ladies-I know I would hate it if something happened while I was up there.
I went from over 4cm and funneling, to less than 0.5cm... in less than 2 weeks. And I was on modified bedrest during those 2 weeks. Luckily I was caught with enough time to stop me from going into labor, and to get an emergency cerclage put in, which allowed me to make it to full term, but many OB's won't do them as far along as you are.
Is it really worth the chance of having micro preemies, and 4 hours away from home at that, for a baby shower?
I'd also suggest looking closely at your insurance. If something does happen, you want to make sure you'll be covered at the samelevel you would if you were home.
But, at others have said, it doesn't seem worth the risk, IMO.
This. Exactly what I was going to say. I realize that those hospitals have NICUs but do you really want to be 4 hours from home when your babies are in for a long NICU stay? That process is bad enough... I wouldn't tempt fate.
I personally would not attend the shower given your condition. All of your guests will totally understand and support that this you're being medically advised not to attend.
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Thanks ladies-I will definitely follow my OB's advice. I already told my mom that there was a big chance, and we'll figure it out. Skype sounds like it'll be a good idea-I know with my brothers computer they could do it-if they have internet access at the place where they are having it. I know it'll all be worth it to have two healthy babies-I'm sure my emotions are not helping at all.
I think I just need better clarification from my OB as to what I can do and what I can't do. Sidelines.org has a good sheet for your dr to fill out regarding limitations, so I plan on bringing that to my appt next week to see what they say.
In the end, hopefully I'll be able to laugh if they hold the shower with me!
Just thought I would add my experience. I was in the same exact situation. Although, my funneling & shortening started at 22 wks and I had an emergency cerclage put in. I was 26/27 weeks at my shower. I, too, had a long hard road to get pregnant, and knew this was the only baby shower I would ever get to have. To miss it would have been devastating to me. I know this might not be as easy for others to understand. I was also traveling 4 hrs to my hometown (where my parents lived). I was having cervical checks every week, and had one right before I left. My OB and MFM allowed me to go. I laid down in the backseat for the entire drive. Stayed off my feet all weekend. And only stood up for brief periods of time at the shower - I sat for 95% of it.
I just wanted to say I totally know how you feel. If I were you, I'd get checked right before you leave town, and let your dr make the decision then. And, maybe you could stay for just an hour or so - say hello to everyone, wear your pretty dress, and open up a couple gifts. So you'd still have the experience and memories
Of course, your dr's advice comes first, but I know how badly you want to go. Hang in there & I hope everything works out for you.