Embarassed

Snickerdoodle11611

The place where I work sends out little personnel updates and when they announced my pregnancy they said something along the lines of "We would like to announce[me]'s pregnancy.  [me] and [XFI] will be getting married on [wedding date].  We wish them the best!"  So since then my wedding has been called off, which HR knew about and in this month's employee newsletter they had a listing of all the couples expecting babies (there were 7 or so)....everyone was married and had their spouse's name and then there was mine which just had my name and no mention of the father.  I'm mortified, it looks like I don't even know who my child's father is and this went out to the entire company.  Have you ever felt this way?  How do you deal with it?  I literally just broke down crying out of embarrassment.

CPA04

I'm so sorry you had to endure that.  I understand that the company sees it as a good thing, to celebrate milestones such as this, but it sort of shot itself in the foot with this one.  ((Hugs))

UnderAtree

I'm sorry too. They don't ask for permission before they post anything?

Snickerdoodle11611

I mentioned to HR that I was upset and to ask next time before putting my name in the newsletter.  However the damage is done, its gone out and its posted in all the break rooms.  I have to look at it for the next month  

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HeavenlyExcitedBride

I am sorry you are going through this.   I would have been upset since they posted this without inquiring with you first.

You have no reason to be embarrased about your status or your situation.  We have no control over what other people are thinking but chances are, they are probably not thinking that you don't know who the father is and rather probably think you are having this baby alone. It may not be the plan that you wanted but there is defintly no shame in that.

 Am I learning as I go through a separation/divorce right now and only at the beginning stage, I think we need to rewire or rethink our mind to change our thoughts to be more positve as hard as it may be but it does make a world of a difference.  For an example, I could cry thinking I was not worthy enough to be loved by my husband...but I wont because he lied to me and gave me false hope.  He portrayed himself differently than who he was so he is the one that reflects bad character.  I stayed truthful the whole time and I can say I am truthful person and be proud of that.

 

I hope your day go better and take care of yourself and your precious baby.

Snickerdoodle11611

That was such a sweet and dear response- thank you to all of you ladies who helped make my bad day better!   Hang in there as you go through your divorce, be gentle with yourself and know that it will get easier.