changing ob/gyn during pregnancy

hana_07

Before we started trying to conceive I changed ob/gyn because of location.  I am now 13 weeks pregnant, and am not happy with the 2 appointments I have had with her.  I had some issues at the beginning of my pregnancy, surgery and meds, and was concerned with the affects on the baby.  She dismissed my concerns.  In addition, they do not tell me what is going to happen at my appointments, they don't tell me what tests they are running.... I had to point blank ask her my due date (even though I had figured it out on my own).  All the info I received, like about why they test my urine every time, came from the receptionist.  Also, at my second appointment she didn't even remember that I had surgery, and proceeded to ask me all about it again.  I know that every doctor is different, in how many u/s they do, but I haven't had one.  She checked for a heartbeat with a doppler.  My sister-in-law told me that when she had a molar pregnancy, an over-production of placenta and a non-viable pregnancy, it had a heartbeat..... so a doppler won't alert them of this.  Also, my husband has a niece with developmental issues (nothing common), when we told my ob/gyn she acted like we didn't say anything to her and she kept asking us about autism.  I was informed that when my sister-in-law was pregnant she had an extra u/s at 34 weeks to check the brain for this developmental issue.  From the way it seems, my dr doesn't plan to do anything extra.

Am I right to want a different dr?  Or am I just a paranoid 1st time pregnant woman?

stefanieleigh

I changed 3 times during my first pregnancy. You have every right to want to change and I think it is important to find someone you are comfortable with and connect with!

melkolb@yahoo.com

I think if you do not feel comfortable with your OB then switch!!! It will put your mind at ease!!  You don't want to be going through your pregnancy and still have to stress about your doctor.  Good Luck!!!

avalovesart

I think it's fine to switch. By the end of this pregnancy I will have been  to 4 different practitioners. (1 PCP, 2 OBGYNs, and 1 midwife) (Mostly due to insurance reasons combined with personal choice.)

pinksweetpea2

I really don't understand why people are so scared to change care providers when they are pregnant.  You are paying these people for a service and if they are not doing it to the level you would expect, you should find someone who does.

I switched from a hospital based MW practice to a homebirth MW when I was pregnant with my first at 25 weeks and didn't look back.  Heck, I wish I had done it sooner because it was a night and day experience.

You owe your doctor nothing and should find someone you feel comfortable working with.  Having a care provider you trust is one of the most important thing when giving birth IMO.  

   

greeneyed_bride

If you're not comfortable with her, I'd switch. After all, you're going to be seeing a LOT of your OB over the next 6+ months. I think that it's probably good for you to switch sooner rather than later, so now's a good time to start checking out other OBs.

aldarr

I would switch now.  I switched after my first ultrasound and am much happier. A few people told me I shouldn't switch during pregnancy because of insurance issues but I haven't had any problems.  I think it is important you feel comfortable.

Lizzama

I agree with all the above.  Switch if you aren't comfortable.

Not to be on the OB's side but just maybe to rest some of your worries.  With my first, my MD (I went through family practice) didn't do any early u/s.  I had one at 21 weeks and then actually had an extra at 36 weeks because we thought maybe my son was breech.  That was it.  He did tell me exactly what tests he was doing and why though.  I was able to deny things I thought were extra (I didn't have any genetic testing done).  I wonder too if she wrote off your concerns because the pregnancy issues you are talking about were you sister-in-law's and not your sister/mom (not direct blood relation).  Just a thought.

I personally would switch.  I have to love a person that is going to be that personal to me. 

avalovesart

Lizzama:

I wonder too if she wrote off your concerns because the pregnancy issues you are talking about were you sister-in-law's and not your sister/mom (not direct blood relation).  Just a thought.

But isn't it possible that the SIL is of blood relation to the baby...as in the case of DH's sister? Wouldn't that be important?

hana_07

Thanks for your input.

Whenever I wrote about a sister-in-law or niece or whomever, they are blood relation.  I wouldn't bother to include people who are not relevant to the pregnancy.

MamaVantobe

I had my first appt. and ultrasound with a new OBGYN and decided I wasn't comfortable with him delivering my baby.  I will be switching to a highly recommended one for my next appointment.

Lizzama

avalovesart:

Lizzama:

I wonder too if she wrote off your concerns because the pregnancy issues you are talking about were you sister-in-law's and not your sister/mom (not direct blood relation).  Just a thought.

But isn't it possible that the SIL is of blood relation to the baby...as in the case of DH's sister? Wouldn't that be important?

Could be.  It was just a thought.  My doctor's office only worries about direct blood relation (mom, sisters, grandmas).  I'm not saying anyone shouldn't be concerned, just being the devil's advocate.