Hello all, new to your board, mostly just taking all of this good information in as I am a newbie. I look forward to picking up some of your tricks and advice over the next months.
I was wondering if people had asked any of you if you used fertility drugs to conceive your multiples. I myself am pregnant with twins, and have already had people hint, or just straight up ask. We did use fertility drugs to help me due to my pcos, and although I am not ashamed I don't think it's anyone's business. It's almost as if multiples sans "help" aren't as special...Not sure what to say to people... and I'm sure when we tell our friends and extended family this will arise again. Thanks
Re: Have people asked you...
Some people have asked if out twins are natural. Which I think is rude. Most ask if twins run in our family, which I think is just making conversation or small talk.
I think you'll get good at those who are just being rude/nosey and those who are curious or making conversation and mean no harm. Either way, get used to it and while I suggest you don't let it bother you too much, prepare yourself with a stock answer to recite so you can move on from that line of questioning. Some people favor the "why do you want to know" approach. I'm starting to favor the "they're a blessing and a surprise" and then change the subject approach.
I find it very rude when doctors askes me are my twins natural. Yes they are. I honestly would had expect what ever god would had given me. He gaved me twins,they are natural & healthy so im very happy with that. Its so annoying to have people just suggestion our twins arent natural. Beause they are. 100%
First, congrats on your twins!
Second - yes, people always ask if we used fertility meds (as we were pregnant with spontaneous/ "natural" triplets that we unfortunately lost at ~12 weeks prior to this pregnancy) so when we announced we were pregnant w/ twins, almost everyone assumes it was fertility medications. Which yes we did use Clomid this time around- but there was only one follicle, so we will have to wait and see if they are ID as they are di/di. When strangers ask if "twins run in the family" I just say "yes, there is a set on each side" and leave it at that (which is true but they are ID on each side and I know that means nothing as far as increased risk of multiples - but most people don't know that).
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yesterday, i took the boys to the zoo. a woman came up to me with a one-word question.
"Clomid?"
i just shook my head and walked away.
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Yep, some people do ask. I think it's just because multiples are rare in the general population (though not among those who have to do IVF to get pg, like us). We're pretty open, so I usually just tell people.
I think it's funny you think some people think spontaneous twins are less special, because I see people all the time "bragging" that they didn't have help to conceive theirs, like my twins are somehow different than theirs. Mine are just as "natural", two eggs and two sperm, regardless of what people say. Identicals are even more rare, but again it's not really that big a deal. But then again, I didn't anticipate how freak show some people think twins are.
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5 REs + 3 surgical hysteroscopies for septum/lap + 3 failed IUIs
IVF w/ICSI/AH & acu = BFP!, unexplained spontaneous m/c @ 8w2d (our little girl),
FET w/acu = BFP!, B/G twins!, lost MP @19w, dx w/funneling cervix @20w,
twins nearly lost to IC @21w, saved by rescue cerclage, 17P & 16w of bedrest
Our twins born @36w4d via CS when A came foot first
Thankful for every day
Congrats and welcome.
Yes, I get asked all the time if I'm alone. Not when I'm with DH..
Ours are spontaneous twins and it drives me nuts when people assume I had fertility issues. Depending on my mood, they may get different snarky remarks. (Start building yours now - this board will help)
We had sex doggy style and ended up with a litter.
They're not twins, just born on the same day and same time.
The store was having a buy one get one free sale and we thought, what the hell?
That not natural, they're supernatural!
They're like gremlins and multiply. We splashed water on one and well....
They're Bebe's kids. They don't die, they multiply!
We used IVF with our twins and I have gotten a few times already if Twins run in the family. No one yet has asked if they're "natural" but if they ever do or when people do ask if twins run in the fam...I just say "Yes, we have twins on both sides of the fam." (that way i'm not really lying, cause we do..and it's really not anyones business that i dont feel comfortable telling otherwise to).
The only person who has asked me was the same person who was hoping to have twins because her husband is an ID twin and thought it would be great to "get it all over with in one pregnancy."
People do ask if they run in the family, but it's always seemed more conversational than prying. Or maybe I'm just dense. I just say "not particularly. This was just a crazy fluke" and move on. Mine were spontaneous but it's not really anybody's business how these babies came to be.
90% of the time i would get the "do twins run in your family/are they natural?" question. it bugged the crap out of me, i would just say, yes they run on my husband's side. no one really realizes that doesn't make an ounce of difference, i just don't feel like telling someone i barely know about our infertility struggle.
that is my SIL, who has fraternal B/G twins. the first thing out of her mouth after she would tell ppl she was PG with twins was, "we didn't do IVF!"
i hope she realized what a jackass she sounded like a year later when she found out we would need IVF to even have hope at having one baby.
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This!
It's definitely an intrusive question.