NMR: Vow Renewal

cashandjack

I need your guys suggestions. DH and I wanted to get married at his family's farm this summer, then we found out we were pregnant with twins so we had a little wedding at my dad's farm in my home town. Not a lot of his family got to come, but we had decided to renew our vows later with a big wedding when we could afford it.

So here is where I need your help. We will be at his family's farm at the end of August and a lot of his family will be there to meet the boys for the first time. I was thinking of surprising him and renewing our vows then. What do you think?

We just celebrated our 1 year anniversary last week so would this be to soon? His grandma, mom, step-dad and siblings couldn't be there either but they will be with us in Michigan at the farm.

klr210

would you tell your in-laws what you were thinking so they could help with planning or organizing/inviting?

i don't think it's too soon to renew your vows, but i don't know your husband so i don't know how he'd feel about surprises. he might find it sweet you want to give him a ceremony or celebration in front of his family. i think a low key ceremony with champagne and cake and photos would be nice on a day that the whole family was planning on being together. especially if you could include the twins, maybe make up some programs that stated something to the effect that it was always important to the both of you to have his family be a part of your celebrating your new life together, and even though your surprise blessings changed those plans you still wanted to use the chance you all had to be together to celebrate your new family.

BeccaLandes

here are my thoughts- do you think he would be happy to be surprised about renewing vows? i know my husband would not be pleased if i sprung something like that on him, he would want to be part of the process, but i don't know your husband or your relationship.

i would probably talk to your husband, see if that's what he wants to do, and if he does, make some plans, for what to wear, what to eat, etc.  i don't know what the usual timeline is for vow renewals, but maybe you could just have it be a 2nd wedding celebration if you feel it is too soon to "renew."