Keeping a secret:/

OldFasionedKindOfLove

My partner and I have decided to keep our pregnancy a secret until the first trimester is over. Ive had M/C before and wish to wait till we are out of the woods. Also, we are unsure of the reactions we will get to our news and are really nervous about them. This is supposed to be a hapy time but my family always brings us down. I dont know what to do. Ive been thinking of distancing ourselves from them but it's very hard to even consider that.

mamaofboys

We kept it a secret from most people until a couple of days ago. We told our family and a couple closest friends earlier. But you have to do what feels right for you.

Regarding distancing yourself, I would say (without knowing any of the circumstances) that doesn't sound like the healthiest thing for anyone. Grandparents, aunts & uncles and cousins make a richer life for baby and I imagine they might want to be involved in the baby's life. Obviously, there may be reasons for distance, especially safety but if its just a disagreement or different viewpoints, I would think it best for everyone to make a mature decision to be civil if close isn't possible.

BriLJL

Do you think their reactions would be negative? I'm sorry if they wouldn't be more supportive, especially if this is something you and your partner have really wanted. As far as not telling yet, that's perfectly normal. We wanted to keep it under wraps until after our first tri, too. We told our parents and a few close friends in the beginning. The news isn't all the way out yet, and we're keeping it that way for just a few more weeks. 

awantoch

DH wanted to wait, but I couldn't help myself so we told family and close friends.  I know what you're going through though... being nervous about their reactions and all.  DH's family was overly excited, but my mother made my cry... and not happy tears.  She's okay now though. Good luck!

harveyb1

Finding out our pregnant is a Joyous occasion we tend to want to scream from the rooftops!! At least i wish i could. I have had 2 M/C before I had my Son so this time I'm a little weary on shouting it just yet. We did tell a few friends and family just because its our first pregancy as a couple and we couldnt keep it a total secret. I wish you the best of luck, H&H 9 months!!