Does it make you sad that all the baby-ness is going by so fast?

hellopoppyseed

I know that infants are hard and a lot of work but they are also so precious. If you had your babies back to back, does it make you sad that this time of your life is going by quickly? I realize you have the same amount of time that your children are infants no matter how far apart they are but in years, it goes by quicker when they are close together. Does that make sense? Sometimes it just makes me sad that I will not have a baby again (after #3) and it all went by so quickly. How do you feel about this?

rgtsmom01

Not me, I am soooo not a baby phase fan and I can't wait till my youngest starts walking.  Then all of the fun will start

roundtheworldgirl

I don't think I've had much of a chance to mourn baby-ness, since I keep getting pregnant!  I definitely didn't mourn DD1's growing up because I got my BFP for #2 when she was 4.5 months.  I did get a little nostalgic a couple weeks ago when I realized how soon DD2 will turn 1 ... but I guess I'm no longer concerned about that.

I think I will miss it, later on, when they are no longer so eager to cuddle with me.  But I will say that, although we definitely did not plan to have our kids this close in age (any of them!), I am so happy it worked out this way.  It is just such a blessing!

kcisthebombdotcom

Nope, not at all. I dont enjoy pregnancy/newborns, so I'm excited to get it out of the way quicker.

I love big kid cuddles with kisses and "love yous" much better.

ShannonSky

YES!!! I tell DH all the time how much I'm going to miss having little ones around the house. I'm pushing for a 3rd for this very reason (probably when DD2 is around 2), I just can't fathom being done having kids by 25!!!

CaitlinJ22

yes, sometimes I think spreading them out further would let me enjoy the baby of them each for a longer time. BUT I also like them close for many reasons. I do love the newborn stage though and love all the first smiles and laughs. I love how little they are and that they cuddle on my chest for hours if I let them. I love nursing little babies and I love that moment when they come out and I fall instantly in love with the member of our family. I love it all. 

That's why we aren't done, and I can't see being done after #3 either. I hope I will feel "done" at some point  

PhilsWife07

I feel like that too. And the second one seems to grow up even faster than the first. 

caymanbride

Yep, my baby turns 1 today, and I can't believe it! I love everything about the baby stage, too (minus the sleeping thing) and I will be very sad when I have no more babies. It's SO bittersweet. My boys are 2 years apart almost exactly, and one of the reasons I want to wait a bit for # 3 is to enjoy DS2's babyness a bit longer, and spread out my enjoyment of having a baby, and not do it all back to back!

JDWNYC

I am one of those people not so in love with the infant phases while living it (although in retrospect I have very happy memories of it with DS, even thought I had hellacious PPD), so I will be pretty stoked when the baby-ness has passed.

mayowife

CaitlinJ22:

yes, sometimes I think spreading them out further would let me enjoy the baby of them each for a longer time. BUT I also like them close for many reasons. I do love the newborn stage though and love all the first smiles and laughs. I love how little they are and that they cuddle on my chest for hours if I let them. I love nursing little babies and I love that moment when they come out and I fall instantly in love with the member of our family. I love it all. 

That's why we aren't done, and I can't see being done after #3 either. I hope I will feel "done" at some point  

I couldn't agree with this more.

cjsbdl

Yes. I am trying to soak up every last moment of DD's infancy and every, single day I look at her and mourn the fact that I'll never have another itty, bitty baby to snuggle. They're so sweet and precious and they don't talk back.

Seriously, I could do the infant stage over and over and over again, but I'm old and we're done.

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Mrs.Christie

Yes, and I think that's one of the drawbacks to having them close in age though I don't think I'd chage anything. Partly because of this I'm pretty sure I want to have more and in some ways it seems like waiting a few years and then doing 2u2 again might be nice. I don;t think DH will go for that though and I'm not even sure he'll go for a third so we'll see.

karatechrissy

I feel like I'm missing a lot personally. I feel sad I can't enjoy either of them fully bc I'm always tending to something.

bturner13

Wow I just really started thinking about this too last night! I have a 13 month old son and almost 14 weeks pregnant with number 2. I am starting to realize that these last few months will be my last alone with our son and he is such a mama's boy. I can't wait to have number 2 but I really enjoyed all the firsts with our son and how much fun he is right now. I have so many different emotions of sadness and joy. It will definitely be a fun experience having 2 soon!

moonfaerie

mayowife:

CaitlinJ22:

yes, sometimes I think spreading them out further would let me enjoy the baby of them each for a longer time. BUT I also like them close for many reasons. I do love the newborn stage though and love all the first smiles and laughs. I love how little they are and that they cuddle on my chest for hours if I let them. I love nursing little babies and I love that moment when they come out and I fall instantly in love with the member of our family. I love it all. 

That's why we aren't done, and I can't see being done after #3 either. I hope I will feel "done" at some point  

I couldn't agree with this more.

All of this (except I may feel done after 3.....However much I love newborns, is how much I hate being pg.) My youngest is only 8 months but I already get sad about how "grown-up" she is.