Very personal question

ameliahedlund

I had a bad post way in the beginning of Feb'11 board, I think it said something like; "All these miscarriages are getting me down."  I was referring to the fact that I understand that miscarriages are very common but I swear every day someone left the board.  I have also suffered three miscarriages, and have two living babies.

After reading the pregnancy poll and someone (sorry OP, can't remember who) said they are going to start trying sooner than later because they have had miscarriages, it got me thinking.

Have you had a miscarriage? If so (if you are comfortable) how many?  I hate that it is so common...

Ameliahedlund-3 miscarriages, and 2 living babies. Hoping for at least one or two more babies! 

Lilleybug

1 miscarriage, 1 living baby.

ETA: Hoping for 2-3 more babies (probably start trying in 3-6 months). 

IntheSpring10

I've had 1 loss. 

I was stunned because I did not know how common early m/c was until I saw so many posts on the pregnancy boards and then did my own research.  The Dr told us that though women are born with millions of eggs, they are not all viable and so early m/cs are common   Although DH and I understood this from a biological perspective, it was still a painful experience. 

But we tried again and had DD )

kmares

1 miscarriage, 1 late loss and 2 living babies

oops34

1 loss, 1 living baby, pregnant now

RileyGrace

1 m/c, 1 baby

I've also got IF, and based on my dx I was told to be prepared for more losses when we start trying again.  Because of that and my age, we'll start trying again sooner rather then later for #2. 

ms12345

I have not, thankfully, but was one of my biggest fears during 1st Tri especially since I'm not exactly the picture of great health. Because of that, combined with knowing several people who lost early, we held off on announcing until about 12 weeks or so. (That includes MIL, who lost at the very end of 1st Tri when MH was about 13.)

I know logically that it's incredibly common and not the mother's fault, but I don't think that would be much comfort at the time if I went thru it. I may not have miscarried, but I don't take that for granted because of how common it really is.

AppleRidge

Yeah, I remember that.  I think I tore you to shreds.  

Three miscarriages in a row before this LO.  Our history is just one of many reasons why we're not going to have any more.  If we were, I'd be afraid to start trying too soon because it is known to lead to an (admittedly slight) increased risk of m/c.

magdalina.h

1 preemie infant loss 1 living baby. We hope to have 1 more

Remember it seems so common on here because we are all here for the same reason, babies. The statistic is still small, but seems so much larger on a baby centered message board. 

wvdreamchick212

1 m/c and 1 healthy baby boy that i thank God everyday for

mldain

3 m/c 1 lo and its gonna stay that way

theprincessPAT

2 losses and one living baby. But not in that order. The risks of something happening to me or the baby are so high that we are probably done.

momyof22b

4 miscarriages, 1 living baby and pregnant again

Lucky_Dragonfly

I didn't have a loss or a MC, but when I was 15 I chose to terminate. My mom did push me towards that decision, but also at the time I was just too young and there was no way that I was going to be able to raise the baby( we had very little money to support ourselves. My mom was a single teen mom) and adoption was not for me. I do think about that child from time to time. I would have been due in January. I know that i would not be where I am today. I would not be with MH and I would not have my 2 living children. For a long time I had alot of guilt over it.

christyp80

I feel really lucky reading through this post.  I've never had a miscarriage, and we got pregnant with DD the first month we stopped preventing.  We hope to have 2 more children, and will only start trying again when we are ready to be pregnant immediately, even if it takes a little longer than that.

chemmom

I have not posted in a long time but I wanted to reply to this post. I have four living kids, 5 losses. I am so thankful for the babies I have. I know this post will make people nervous about loss but it should also remind you that you are not alone if you do have a loss.

Erin

catycate

1 termination, 1 loss (and for a long time, I blamed the loss on the fact that I had had an abortion at a young age) and 1 LO. I hope to have 1 or 2 more, but would also be happy with just DS. If I had another loss, I would probably say I would stick to 1.

Swan21

1 termination and 1 living baby.

bmp84

3 babies in heaven and one beautiful little girl here on earth

Aubs0009

I have one angel baby and I here with us. His is my whole world

TiffanyTheMom

I've had 2 m/c, 1 chemical pregnancy, and 3 living babies. It seemed to be a pattern: Loss, baby. Loss, baby. Loss, baby. I didn't have time to dream for the last two losses, but the first one was horrific. It was my first baby, and I'd made all sorts of plans and never even heard of a miscarriage. And when we had the scan, the doctor left saying 'I'm sorry' and I was so stunned I didn't even absorb what he was saying. And I still felt pregnant after we were told it was gone, and I felt like my body was betraying me for still making me feel sick and nauseated when there was no living baby in there. It was terrible. And it all happened just days before my birthday.

erbear

I feel incredibly blessed to have never had a m/c. I have Factor V Leiden and my ob was shocked to find out that I had never lost a pregnancy...apparently, it's common.

2 living babies, one of whom had surgery for craniosynostosis at 8 months.  We're stopping at 2.

mlkbride03

2 m/c, 2 living babies

Both m/c were before my first, and before it was realized that I had low progesterone.  Once I took progesterone I had healthy pregnancies. But, I am done.... no more babies for me!!

RumbleLina

1 loss, 1 living.

I am hoping for one or two more babies, possibly even 3 but with every pregnancy I think about the c/s concerns and it makes me a little weary.

mrsables

Hi sorry don't post very often but I would like to share as well. I had one m/c and one living baby. The m/c was very painful because my DH and I was trying for almost two years all the temping, charting, and prayers I felt betrayed by own body. Also I m/c a week before Mother's Day and on that Mother's Day I hid in my own house and cried and cried, needless to say it was the worst day ever.

myszko

1 mc, 1 healthy little girl. We want at least 2 more babies and plan to start trying in about 6 months. I'm really afraid of more mcs, but I hope if it happens again, it might be easier to deal with because I already have a sweet baby that I get to hold in my arms. I think that I will miscarry whenever I'm carrying a boy. I know it sounds a little stupid, but my grandma had 3 mcs and 3 girls. My mom had 1 mc and 2 girls, and my aunt had 2 mcs and 2 girls. Makes me feel like the same will happen to me.

MrsB0701

1 loss, 2 living babies

johannaknip

2 m/c, one perfect baby girl.

The Mr. would like to try again. I am 99% sure that is not going to happen.

sbuxsweetie

One chemical pregnancy, one healthy baby boy. The CP was just one positive digital HPT, followed by a bunch of negatives and then a REALLY heavy period. I only had maybe 2 days of thinking I was pregnant, so while it was an emotional time, I didn't have much time to think about it or make plans.

11Lemon11

1 miscarriage (at 9 weeks) inbetween my 2 living babies. We are done.

radak

2 loses 1 lo

vflipo

Yep. 2 miscarriages, 1 living baby.

blossomtg85

1 C/P, 2 babies - twins. Sometimes I think the shop is closed. Until I am packing up tiny clothes and start to get emotional. 

3jrsmom

I also haven't posted in ages but wanted to respond... We had one miscarriage and then 10 1/2 years later we had a pregnancy that stuck (baby girl born on Valentine's Day). In between our only two pregnancies we adopted three beautiful children and are so thankful that everything worked out as it did. We are done with four children unless we decide to adopt again (which is doubtful).

Sleep2Live

5 losses, 2 living children.

 One of those losses was my son's twin. 

~JamieLyn~

1 miscarriage and 2 living babies

celestej619

1 angel baby, 1 living baby

anavychick02

2 miscarriages, pregnant now

Symharmony

I also haven't posted in a while, but I wanted to answer this post.  I have three living children and no losses.  I had scares with all three of my pregnancies.  I had early bleeding with all three.  My third pregnancy was the worst with the bleeding.  I bled throughout most of my pregnancy.  I almost went into early labor at 24 weeks and again at 27 weeks.  I was happy to keep her in until almost 35 weeks.  My boys both went 40 weeks/1 day.  I always worried about miscarriages, because I had unexplained IF for 2 years before getting pregnant.  My mom had 4 miscarriages, and I wasn't sure if that was something that could be hereditary.

 I'm sorry for everyone's losses.   

3ltlones

I remember your post as well. 3 earlier losses, one late loss and 4 living children.

strimble26

1 miscarriage in between my two living girls.  Would love to have one more, will have to wait 2 years though