NBR: What should I do?? (long)

whitney1170

This might be long, but I have to explain how this works for you to understand:

At my job there is 2 people per office. An Office Admin (me) and a Financial Advisor. There are a ton of offices around the country, and about 20 within 10 miles of me, just like ours. I obviously am not the advisor, not licensed, so my job is to run the daily things, not to "make the money". I am paid hourly, and make money whether or not the Fin adv makes money (commisions). The Fin Adv is not technically my boss, but the dynamics kind of make it that way.

Here's my problem, I'm in charge of his and my schedule. That's phone calls, client contacts he's supposed to make, paperwork, everything. He has a VERY hard time keeping with any kind of schedule we have tried. He whines and complains about having to do his work, even though that's the only way he brings home a paycheck. He even had me call another office to ask how they do it, then we used what they do, and he still didn't stick to it.

I come in the office this morning, and over the weekend, he's come in and totally rearranged our agreed upon schedule. We're supposed to have our weekly meeting at lunch today, and I'm torn on whether or not to just lay back and wait it out, assuming he'll whine about this one too, and end up not following it, or should I let him know I feel disrespected that he did it without consulting me? We're supposed to be a "team", and I think the new schedule is ignorant and I know he won't follow it. I'm supposed to keep him on track, but when he doesn't listen to me when I let him know the next thing for the day, I'm not his mommy. I can't make him want to earn his money and stay employed.

Should I keep my mouth shut, or do I tell him what's up?

tuluwen

I think you have every right to be upset at him, but honestly, I don't think it would be worth it (to me) to start something over it. If it greatly inconveniences you, then that's another story, and I would bring it up. GL!

babygator15

I wouldn't make a huge deal about it, but I would definitely let him know that what he did was disrespectful.  That's always a tough situation in that type of dynamic!

whitney1170

babygator15:

I wouldn't make a huge deal about it, but I would definitely let him know that what he did was disrespectful.  That's always a tough situation in that type of dynamic!

It really is! When there's tension, you can't run and hide, or avoid that person for a day or two to cool down. You have to keep going, keep talking.

MrsCase1

man can i empathize! i worked in the stock market for half a decade and the brokers had some of the most delusional expectations and inflated egos of anyone i had ever met-all while bringing home pennies but taking long lunches with the mutual fund salesman. you have my sympathy. for me it was like speaking to a brick wall (with a few exceptions, as mine was a large office.) i wouldn't waste your breath if it is 1. close to your maternity leave and 2. going to revert back to whatever you choose in a few days when he gets bored. i WOULD bring it up you feel you can't continue working with him without fighting the urge to strangle him AND you think something productive will come of it.