Will just miss being 2 under 2.. but...

jhenry1204

I have a question.

DD was born Decemeber 8, 2009.  She will be 2 years old this year.  My due date for #2 is Decemeber 15, 2009, however, due to having to have a repeat c-section they want to schedule that for December 8th.  I've requested that it not be done on my first daughters birthday so now we're looking at Decemeber 13. 

My question is about birthdays.  We celebrate Riley's birthday Thanksgiving weekend because of my inlaws... however, I really don't want to have my kids birthday party the same day.  I was thinking about continuing to do Riley's Thanksgiving weekend, and doing #2's in January.  But everyone is telling me this is a bad idea. 

I know I'm thinking of this way far in advance, but I've really been thinking about it a lot lately, and have no idea what to do.  Thanks ladies!

CaitlinJ22

DS's bday is Dec 15th and we celebrate it around the first week of december/last week of november with friends. We do a small gathering on his actually bday or that weekend. 

If I were you I would do your older childs on the thanksgiving weekend (or the one before that), and do the second ones the following weekend or the next one. I like having DSs bday 10 days before christmas bc in my opinion if its after christmas, it gets lost in the excitement of christmas (from what I hear from friends). We just celebrate earlier and he has no clue now

kcisthebombdotcom

My LOs also have close bdays-DS was born 12/20 and DD was born 1/11. We plan on having a joint party in the beginning of january after the new year. I do think a joint party is a lot easier in terms of planning/finances. With that being said, I think when people are saying it's a "bad idea" is because you have to go through all the work twice in a short period of time. If you would prefer it that way and can afford 2 parties back to back, go for it! I dont think there's anything wrong with separate parties, I just prefer not to do it (unless for milestone bdays-those we will do separate).

jhenry1204

CaitlinJ22:

DS's bday is Dec 15th and we celebrate it around the first week of december/last week of november with friends. We do a small gathering on his actually bday or that weekend. 

If I were you I would do your older childs on the thanksgiving weekend (or the one before that), and do the second ones the following weekend or the next one. I like having DSs bday 10 days before christmas bc in my opinion if its after christmas, it gets lost in the excitement of christmas (from what I hear from friends). We just celebrate earlier and he has no clue now

 I didn't even think about that fact.  I just feel bad because it's so close to Christmas, and our close friends and family would be buying each LO a birthday gift followed by a Christmas gift.  I want the kids' birthdays to be special while not making my friends and family feel the burden, KWIM? 

CaitlinJ22

I know what you mean. I have a friend who's daughter is the 29th of dec and she doesnt like it because people are so over buying gifts after christmas you know? If you were to do it in Jan you could use the argumemt that people dont want to spend anymore money you know? Just see how things go. Thankfully you have a full year to plan the second baby's 1st bday. I would do it before christmas if it were me. As a kid I hated when my bday was celebrated too far away from my real bday. but you never know who she/he will feel as they age. A joint party might be worth trying the first year and see how it goes maybe? GL!

caymanbride

My boys are 2 years 2 days apart -- DS1 is July 25 (turning 3 tomorrow -- eek!) and DS2 is July 27. We are doing joint parties because 2 days is SO close that I think it would be silly to make people come to 2 parties in such a short period. Our first joint party is next Sat

norbert5

My DH's birthday and his sister's birthday are one week apart, along with their assorted cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc. there are over 10 birthdays in a 3 week stretch.  My DH shares his birthday with 3 relatives.  In his family you were lucky when you didn't share your cake with at least a few other people.

However his sister and him did share parties when they had them.  They also did a small family thing on the day of, mom would cook their favorite dinner and dessert.  The both will tell you that they like it and it didn't bother them.  They are two years apart.

My birthday is Dec. 19th and we always celebrated it around my birthday.  Growing up we tried after Christmas and that was usually a fail because people are tired of celebrating and it gets lost in the combo of the Christmas/New Year time.  If you do it after New Years people are worried about Christmas Credit Card bills showing up in the mail and ruining their new years resolution on the birthday cake.

So if I were you I would combine them.  Just plan one party for the two of them.  My girlfriend is doing that in a few weeks and she is doing a Mickey/Minnie themed birthday.  It is really cute, we only have to set aside one weekend day for their family, and they only have to plan one party.

Sorry this got so long winded.