done having kids

lemen99

Well, we're done having kids.

 We always said we wanted 2 or 3, but since my body doesn't like being pregnant (ha), I think that pretty much seals the deal that we're done having 2.  We're so happy Elliott was born so close to term, but we're not willing to take that risk again.  We want to be thanfkul for the 2 kids we have, and quite truthfully Andrew is really keeping our hands full and continues to challenge us.  I feel like we need the energy to give him the attention and help he needs.  And I don't think I can physically or emotionally handle another pregnancy.

Dh is getting snipped soon so that we can move on and enjoy our little family without the worry of an "oops" high risk pregnancy.  I am glad I got to experience having a healthy little baby for our 2nd, and am thankful for my 2 boys.

It's bittersweet, I guess. Just thinking outloud here!

beyoga

Brad had a vasectomy in May.  His first sample came back negative for swimmers.  I totally understand how you feel.

If I had better pregnancies we would have liked to have a few.  I'm still supposed to be as close to bed rest as I can get and I found out Thursday I have GD.  I'm winning!  LOL

Sorry you are in the same boat as I am.  Glad you have 2 wonderful children though. 

bhilyer

DH got snipped in April after the boys were born in March.

MrsLee22

Although we're going to wait a few years before we do anything permanent, we're more than likely done, too. This makes me so very sad, I was one of those annoying girl who loved being pregnant and I definitely still feel the sting of my only pregnancy being cut as short as it was. BUT, we got incredibly lucky with both babies coming through being as healthy as they are, and our family feels pretty complete. As MH says "leave well enough alone!"

str8ota

I understand how this is hard because even though you are making the decision to be done it's not the way you wanted to make this decision.

DD was my 6th pregnancy but only baby we got to bring home, all the drs and specialists felt very strongly that during my c-sec that my one remaining tube be tied so there would be no other pregnancies because I had gone from high-risk to life threatening (and it's a good thing because I'm psycho enough that I would have already started ttc 6 months ago!) and I still have days where I have difficulties with it because though I'm blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby girl it was not how I wanted to be done though I knew it was for the best.

It's wonderful you recognize that this is what's best for your body but also know there's nothing wrong with being sad about it too.

Mrs. Alice

It must be a bittersweet decision.  Hopefully with some time you will be completely at peace with it.  My crazy butt is already thinking about my next pregnancy - not that I want it to happen any time soon.  MH has been pretty traumatized by all this and said "no more", but I'm thinking in a couple years he may change his mind.  My preterm delivery was because of identical twins complications and there is no higher chance of me conceiving twins again.  With that I don't forsee another high risk pregnancy in my future.

mariposa_atl

I understand.  We have one baby and I am pretty sure we are done.  I had HELLP syndrome and there is no way to know if it could happen again or to fix it if it does.  I can't see risking my health when I am already fortunate enough to have one beautiful daughter to parent.  She and my DH need me.  I loved being pregnant and at one point, thought I would have 4.  We are all set now thouh.

lemen99

BostonKisses2:

I can sympathize with how you're feeling.  I wish my H would get himself snipped - I'm so paranoid that we'll have an oops before he makes up his mind.

I'm glad that Elliot's doing well!  How's Andrew doing? 

 

All in all, we are doing well.  We are still doing a lot of things to get Andrew's kidney stone issue checked out - and I think he's getting sick - but nothing I guess I should complain about.  His bloodwork came back normal now we have to wait for the analysis of the stone and urine.  

ChickensFive

We are done as well, although, for us it was more that we only ever expected/hoped to have one child because I'm old (39) and it took three years to get pregnant. When we found out we were having triplets we quickly made the decision to have my tubes tied during the c-section (If I wasn't having a c/s DH would have gotten a vasectomy).

katie4253

I had an IUD inserted because we didn't feel like making the decision to be 1 and done when Gabe was in the NICU was a good idea.  That said, when this puppy comes out in 5 years, H will likely get a vasectomy.  I don't think I'm a strong enough person to go through another pregnancy (with the worry I would have).  I also know I'd have another c-section and have to deliver at 36 weeks because my uterus was so small with him that anything past 36 weeks will put me at huge risk for rupture.