What are your thoughts on a Jack and Jill shower?

Redsoxchick

My mom and sister are already talking about my shower and my mom asked if I'd want to do Jack and Jill. Most of my friends are guys, and they're the same guys my DH is friends with(we met through friends) and we've known them all for years. My DH really doesn't have any family except his sister so he thought it'd be nice to have the people he is close with there. What do you think?

jason&robin

#1, my ILs threw us a bbq shower. It wasn't "showery" except we had a cake and opened presents. It was fun.

SassyPants150

My best friend did a J&J shower for our big wedding shower and I'm sure she will do the same for the baby shower.  Now for the wedding shower we had beer, barbecue, corn hole, etc.  Not sure that we will go that whole route for baby, but I'm sure she'll plan a lot of stuff so that everyone can have fun.

I think its great being able to have DH be involved...get his friends involved (since most of our friends are couples anyway).  DH is a part of this too...I want him to have fun and feel like he is a part of it too.  I'm a big fan of J&J showers!!

BFab11

We had one and it was a lot of fun!! I have guy friends, and we're close with a lot f DH's coworkers and their wives, it was nice to have everyone there.

christina627

I know someone that did this.  I think it's fine, especially if your DH wants to be involved.  I love the idea of a BBQ or something, but add cake and presents.

NiniJ55

I had men at my shower -- I have actually never been to an all female shower.  I don't see the big deal.

Waiting4Fred

I would want a J&J shower... My DH and I are so close, and we do everything together, it would feel a little strange to me to celebrate the babies without him there!

babesbabs

We were thinking about one also. One of the funnest showers I have been to was co ed. Just as a side note, something that made it extra fun, was the men were the only ones who were able to play the games. Quite entertaining! Beer from baby bottles etc...

DEBBIE33CASEY

if it's going to be traditionally baby showerish then I wouldn't make the guys suffer and come

But if you do it like a party then it's okay.  Except it could seem a little gift-grabby if you do a bbq baby shower with guys and girls and do it expecting gifts.  That would be the one thing i'd be careful with.  But if you can do it tastefully then do it!

brianamah

They drive me up the wall for wedding showers but I totally see the appeal for baby showers.  Dad doesn't want to be left out!  That said, I still think the tradition ladies-only showers are such a nice time to bond and get all that good female energy to encourage you as you move forward.  

 

Oatoa

I already expressed my preference of having a Jack and Jill shower.   I had to go to the silly bridal shower by myself and I am not the only one who should have to suffer.  He didn't come at all even to help with the gifts because he had a fantasy baseball draft that day.   I want a chilling party with my DH to celebrate a new member of our family.  Is that so much to ask?

pharmacygirl

Ours was a family shower. Men women and children. We still did some traditional shower stuff while the guys hung outside and the kids played in the moon jump. It was fun. Everyone had a great time.

michaelaskedlauren

Ive personally never been to a J&J baby shower, but Ive already told DH (and my family) that this is what I would prefer to have (complete with beer and a BBQ).  Im not a fan of "traditional" showers (I find them boring and dont like the cheesey games). 

I cant wait to see my MILs face when she learns that our baby shower will include beer and hamburgers! (although since my parents and in-laws dont get along I have a feeling there will be 2 very different showers thrown...)

califorever81

Both showers I have had were J&J. My closest friends are guys and I wouldn't want H left out. Come to think about it, if I were to have a female only shower (I'm not having a shower this time anyway) there would probably only be one non-family member there, and she doesn't like my family lol. What a boring shower.

Pezi

We are doing a J & J shower. We are gonna have a big cookout with a wiffle ball game for the guys. And same as other PP, we have a lot of mutual friends so it works:)

MAMAxB

I've never heard of this!

We had a traditional shower for DD and the my DH came when we opened presents so he got to see everything/load the car haha

Then he had a "Diaper Party" (cookout, keg, football) with his guy friends/brothers (everyone bring a package of diapers versus presents.

 

I thought it was GREAT! I agree that guys don't want to sit through baby showers but having traditional one with dumb games/decoration was fun IMO  

rachie17

We plan to do a J & J as well. It will be more of a BBQ/hang out than a shower, I don't want any games or anything just all the family and friends together having a good time. I think it is a good way to get DH involved in the baby stuff.

PitterPat11

Obviously no shower this time since it's our third. But both my previous showers were all women. I prefer it this way, I have been to a Jack and Jill and I think they are more of a get together than babyshower, but I see no problem with them. I'm a total girly girl, so I like to do the whole babyshower thing the traditional way. Tea, Coffee, Punch, finger sandwiches, quiche, pasta salad, cupcakes, cake, desserts. More of a Tea style, which is totally not a guy thing. And DH didnt ever mind, he liked to go through the gifts with me afterwards!

Thinkerbelle80

I think its a great idea. YOu should do it.  I wanted to have guys there for my bridal shower and just make it for both of us but my maid of honor throwing it thought that was a terrible idea and nixed it.  So, we had only like 13 women there.  I've been considering inviting men to my/our baby shower but no one has stepped up to throw it yet.  

willows mama

Not really my thing, but I don't have an issue with other people having them.  I've never attended one, and I am sure they can be fun. 

I'm pretty sure DH would rather stick pins in his eyes than come to a baby shower.  In my circle, the husbands usually show up at the end to hug and kiss all the ladies and thank them, and load the gifts for MTB.