My FFFC

Strunella

DH and I were just discussing last night how one of my best friends from college (Matron of Honor in our wedding) kind of dropped the ball with DS.  She's been promising a visit since he was born...that was 7 months ago.  She is out of state, but is one of those million-miler travelers so all of her travel here would be free. 

Setting aside the lack of a visit...I get people are busy...her gift to us for DS's birth was 2 pairs of socks from a trip to Italy.  Two pairs of socks?  I've been to Italy and socks are socks are socks.  I sent her a box filled with baby items for both of her DDs when they were born.   This is one of my closest friends, she makes $300k a year and she sends me 2 pairs of socks for the birth of my baby?

I recently read something that really stuck with me, and now I am repeating it (and repeating it and repeating it). "We get what we get, so don't get upset."   Ha, ha!  Well, I'm still annoyed!    

ateytelb

At first I though that maybe she doesn't have kids. Childless women sometimes have no clue that they are supposed to give gifts when their friends have babies. But she does have kids so she should be familiar with etiquette. I have friends who couldn't use their full potential in this country and currently make very little money (I am originally from Russia myself), but they all gave me elaborate gifts when my babies were born. (I felt bad taking the gifts from them but had no choice.) With this friend, I would be upset too because this means my close friend desn't really care about me at this point.

vanverth

No flames here,  I am still irritated with my BIL.  He missed M's first birthday party because he was with his and his wife's girlfriend driving to her son's (the girlfriend's) high school graduation because she was worried her exhusband would do something.  This is a woman that they have only known 2 to 3 months at the time. 

Peppernut

No flames here.  One of my sisters has given Margaux absolutely NADA, ever.  Not even Christmas, and we were visiting her area last year.

stever

I totally get where you're where you're coming from. Not getting much from someone who doesn't have the means or that you're not particularly close to is one fine, but being ignored by someone you're tight with and who is wealthy sucks.

And yes, The Knot etiquette gurus would find this appalling, but it is what it is :P

Strunella

Unless, of course, these are special socks that will teach DS Italian...

::runs to look at socks again::

Daisiesinmygarden

stever:

I totally get where you're where you're coming from. Not getting much from someone who doesn't have the means or that you're not particularly close to is one fine, but being ignored by someone you're tight with and who is wealthy sucks.

And yes, The Knot etiquette gurus would find this appalling, but it is what it is :P

This. I know it's *wrong* but my SIL is very wealthy and she gave Maddie hand me down books for her bday. On the one hand, they were super cute books and I was happy to have me and don't mind getting hand me downs, but for a bday gift??? WTF!? Tacky!!!

I know it's the thought that counts, but when people who could, don't, it seems it's a matter of "there was not thought and you (your LO) doesn't count". It's not so hard to run to Kohls or Target and get a cute little outfit or toy.