alright WTF

GracieMaeLovey

Went to pick up DS today, per usual, and see that he is sitting in the lap of the owner/director.  He's smiling, she's smiling, everyone is happy.  My favorite gal & I begin talking about his day, again per usual, and she hands me the "daily sheet" and proceeds to tell me that they gave F 1.5 ounces of water.  What?  Why?  Cannot compute.  I immediately turn to the owner and asked in the most WTF tone/facial expression I know how and she tells me that it's helpful while they're teething.  It's a blur, but I seriously asked 3-5 times 'why'?  Still not understanding and in disgust, I reach out for F and say we're outta here.  I'm so mad at myself for not being able to process and tell her exactly how I feel so quickly w/o coming across as a lunatic.  They really caught me off guard- we've had a pretty good experience thus far.  How would you feel if your DCP did this?  I asked DH if they ran this by him and he said no, so what gives?  Not cool!  I called the pedi to discuss water at his age- they were closed.  I know I've read that EBF babies (don't know about FF) get all the water they need from BM.  I know it's not life threatening, however, it just really grinds my gears that they think they can make decisions like this- WWYD?  I'm def planning on talking to them about it- just want to gather my thoughts first. 

Jenniferk08

I EP and was told to give MJ a little water at night when he was out of control cluster feeding.  Giving water now might be because the cool water soothes the gums without adding extra feedings. 

GracieMaeLovey

Yup- she mentioned something to that nature- soothing of the gums.  I don't know- it's not so much the water that bothers me, it's the fact that they thought it was okay to do so without reaching out to us first.  I'm not going to get all paranoid (too late?), but it just makes me wonder what else they do/have done w/o our knowledge.

sarag0116

I can understand being frustrated by the fact that they didn't run it by you first.  I would calmly explain you would always want them to run it by you first before adding/changing anything.  I would even say that they could call at any time about stuff like that.

Honestly, I don't think giving water is a big deal.  But, like I said, I think you need to stress the fact that YOU make those calls, not them.

monica96

My pedi said no water right now. I FF. She said it's not needed. I do give him a few sips when it's hot and to play around with his sippy cup. I would be totally ticked if my dcp did this. That was a good thing maybe you didn't say much today. Tomorrow I would go talk to the owner and say something like that should be asked first. Some pedi's and parents are totally against it, some aren't. They should have checked.

mocknine

I'm with you on this one.  I would not be happy.  However, maybe this is how they operate with the other parents and so they didn't think you would mind.  I would just lay down the law tomorrow and now they will know from here on out.

vflipo

For me, as long as my kid is alive and in one piece, I can be calm about them doing something I wouldn't. I would just tell them that you don't give water, and that it isn't necessary. If they do it again after that, I would look for another DCP.

nae87

It would probably freak me out too.  My pedi said no water at this age.  But, I'd be freaked out if anyone gave something to my daughter without my permission.

liladelphia215

Meh, I was given the ok for small amounts of water. In fact, when our central air broke yesterday I was giving LO a few "sips" of water out of a sippy cup every half hour or so. It probably only amounted to 2-3 ounces. In my opinion, they documented the water, they told you about it and didn't hide it, and it was only an 1.5 ounces. It's not like they gave him a lot. It definitely wasn't anything life threatening or worth getting up in arms about. It warranted a calm and rational talking about if it really bothered you, but I don't think anything more than that. I am also pretty relaxed though, so that molds my opinions about these things. There are only certain things that would piss me off, this wouldn't be one of them. 

I will say, however, that if you now explicitly say "No Water. Period." and they deliberately go against your wishes, you may want to look into a new DC. 

GracieMaeLovey

Thanks ladies for the input, as always.  I talked to the director on Friday afternoon and all is well with the world again. 

ETA- b/c I sounded like a b*tch.