Another 30 days

LJF1218

His lawyer requested another 30 day extension to provide financials and determine CS. 

He was served with the initial paperwork in May.  Then we did the paternity test, which took another month with the back and forth with the lawyers, etc.  Then they filed an extension so their responsive pleadings and proposed CS would be due July 25th.  Now they want until August 17th.

My lawyer filed an objection to the request for additional time.  The hearing for that is scheduled for next Friday, and we already have a hearing for an order for temporary support scheduled for August 8th in case we could not come to an agreement prior.

So what is the point in continuing to push it off?  He will owe the back CS.  He will have to pay a temporary amount after August 8th while he continues his stall tactics.  Why?  I honestly can see no reason for him to do this other than to punish me.  He doesn't want custody or visitation.  There is a simple form for Child Support calculations - let's calculate the amount, start support, and move on with all of our lives.  Or not, let's waste our time, money on lawyers (you'd better believe I'm asking him to pay my legal fees for dragging this out), take time off work for hearings.  Yes, this punishes me.  It also punishes him.  Honestly, can anyone think of a legal reason why continuing to stall is an advantage to him?

I'm trying to keep calm, remember that eventually support will be determined.  Dr. Wonderful will have to literally pay for this whole mess, Barrett's support, and he doesn't have Barrett to make any of it worth it like I do.

achase123

Ugh, hang in there!  It will hopefully get put in place sooner, rather than later.

sweetie0228

By stalling and dragging it out, he's hoping you'll drop the case and go away by deciding it's not worth dealing with him.

He has to deal with it all sometime and the judges won't keep granting a continuance.

Just hang in there.

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lurkylulu2

LOL

LJF1218

Thanks, Ladies.  He should know I'll never fold.  No, I don't like dealing with him or this mess, but his support will provide the things my child needs and I'll fight forever if it ensures Barrett will never be without.

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

lurkylulu2

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

LJF1218

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

lurkylulu2

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

LJF1218

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

Well, it's too bad that you don't get to make parenting decisions for everyone.  But you don't, and I'm a good mother to my son.  I couldn't have been assured that his adoptive parents would have been, so I think I made the right decision in keeping him. 

But the point of this post was frustration at his father's immoral actions, which continue despite my child being born.  My questionable actions have ceased, so get off of them.  The past has no impact on my parenting and it's completely acceptable for me to vent my frustration at his actions on this forum.  Your contributions to this forum, however, are not welcome as has been stated previously multiple times.  If you choose to continue to air them despite this (as I'm sure you will) don't expect further responses from me to them.

achase123

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

Psst, lurky, that horse died a long time ago.  Apparently you're the only one who hasn't realized it yet.

lurkylulu2

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

Well, it's too bad that you don't get to make parenting decisions for everyone.  But you don't, and I'm a good mother to my son.  I couldn't have been assured that his adoptive parents would have been, so I think I made the right decision in keeping him. 

But the point of this post was frustration at his father's immoral actions, which continue despite my child being born.  My questionable actions have ceased, so get off of them.  The past has no impact on my parenting and it's completely acceptable for me to vent my frustration at his actions on this forum.  Your contributions to this forum, however, are not welcome as has been stated previously multiple times.  If you choose to continue to air them despite this (as I'm sure you will) don't expect further responses from me to them.

Oh noes, the upset whore told me I'm not welcome here. How will I ever go on with my life? You, my dear, are trash and hopefully, by some grace of God, your son will grow up to be nothing like you or his father.

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carrieannew

The waiting sucks, no other way to put it.

Even over a year after I went to court the first time and I get garnishments now, I am still waiting. He has never paid a penny of daycare/medical and I now have a large sum he owes. I had to fill out all the paperwork and wait for them to receive. Then they had to mail him the paperwork and gave him 30 days to set up a payment arrangement. Shocker he never called. Now I have to wait 2 and half months for a court date.

Sadly the waiting sometimes never seems to end.

I think people need to get off your back. You are right poor choices do not mean you will not be a good parent. I think your doing a great job and you have learned from the past. That is all you can do. Move on and do right by your son. I don't agree that you should have put him up for adoption. I think some people need to find a hobby and get off the internet.

LJF1218

carrieannew:

The waiting sucks, no other way to put it.

Even over a year after I went to court the first time and I get garnishments now, I am still waiting. He has never paid a penny of daycare/medical and I now have a large sum he owes. I had to fill out all the paperwork and wait for them to receive. Then they had to mail him the paperwork and gave him 30 days to set up a payment arrangement. Shocker he never called. Now I have to wait 2 and half months for a court date.

Sadly the waiting sometimes never seems to end.

I think people need to get off your back. You are right poor choices do not mean you will not be a good parent. I think your doing a great job and you have learned from the past. That is all you can do. Move on and do right by your son. I don't agree that you should have put him up for adoption. I think some people need to find a hobby and get off the internet.

I think you're right that I just need to have the expectation that everything is going to take longer than I originally thought.  It seems easy - no custody or visitation issues, let's plug the numbers in, determine the amount, and move on.  But of course it's not as easy as I anticipated.

It does help to adjust my expectation of anything being done efficiently.  Doesn't make it suck less, but will cause less frustration I'm sure.

Jennis22

lurkylulu2:

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption.

And I think that your opinion about what anyone else does with their own child is bull.

 

EmreighsMommy

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

Lurking***** 

Lurky:::: Aren't you on the "BOTB" board, which usually means you don't even have a child? Not to be rude or snarky but I wonder why. People like you don't need to create offspring that are going to behave exactly like you. You and your little clique over there are like a bunch of 6th grade bullies. You are coming to a totally different board just to "pick" on her. You are hunting her down. Obviously you have no life. You're spending way too much time telling someone else how to raise their child and live their life because you don't have either one.  

goofyteacher

EmreighsMommy:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

lurkylulu2:

LJF1218:

Yes, Lurky, it is funny that a father tries to run away from financially providing for his child.  Hilarious.

You reap what you sow. Sadly, it's your child that is going to pay for your irresponsible behavior.

I have been nothing but responsible since I discovered I was going to have a child.  Why don't you go ahead and scold his father; he is the one punishing my son for our irresponsible behavior before his conception.  I'm the one who takes care of and fights for my child as an "Only Parent" so get off my case, you lunatic.

I still think you should have given your son up for adoption. He would have had a major better life. Plus, he wouldn't have had to learn that his mommy was/is a homewrecking whore.

ETA- I think his father is a POS too. But you should have realized that what kind of moral character he has when he was cheating on his wife with you.

Lurking***** 

Lurky:::: Aren't you on the "BOTB" board, which usually means you don't even have a child? Not to be rude or snarky but I wonder why. People like you don't need to create offspring that are going to behave exactly like you. You and your little clique over there are like a bunch of 6th grade bullies. You are coming to a totally different board just to "pick" on her. You are hunting her down. Obviously you have no life. You're spending way too much time telling someone else how to raise their child and live their life because you don't have either one.  

BOTB is quite a mix of people.  Some with one child, multiple children, TTC, TTA, etc.  I believe from previous posts she does have a daughter.