Wwyd re: playgroup

3003girl

What's your playgroup like? The only one I've found around me is at a church and the ages range from 9mos to 4 years old. My lo is one of the younger ones at 12 mos. None of the mothers are very "ap" and I don't really have much in common with them otherwise either. Usually the older kids run around and play like maniacs until one of them does something wrong, and then one of the moms yells at them or threatens a time out (and rarely follows through). The little ones play with toys. The moms talk to each other, generally disregarding the kids until they do something wrong. most of them have known each other for a while.

it's the only consistent interaction with other kids that my lo gets right now. But imwondering if it worth it, or even good for her/us.

Sinafey

I'd probably find a different playgroup.  I've been trying to find one that we really gel with, and it's hard, but I think it'll be worth it in the end.  I've found that meetup.org is a good resource for finding local groups.  Good luck!

anna7602

The AP thing wouldn't bother me, but I would probably find a playgroup with a closer age range. 9months-4 years is just too big a difference. Also, it sounds like there are a lot of kids running around, which could easily freak out the youngest ones in the group.

Ilumine

Make your own playgroup.  You can create one on Meetup.com or post something on the wall at your local library, gym or even that church.

I have created my own play group at each base I have been stationed at.  And here, I have two different ones, one through the chapel and one through my DH's squadron.

 

RunningGal900

I'm sort of going through this right now. DS is little, so the playgroup is mostly for me now, but it is frustrating. I'm having a hard time finding moms that I gel with. If you and LO aren't having fun, I'd leave the group.

jen5-03

I'm on playgroup #4. The first 3 just weren't right for me. Nothing wrong with starting your own group, even an AP group. A lady I met at playgroup #1 started playgroup #4, which is an AP group. We're not strict though, so it's more like an AP-friendly/AP-ish group. But it works for us. Playgroups for babies are really just mom groups, so it's important to find people you at least get along with and hopefully you'll find ones you click with.

The age range thing... when I had one kid, the age range was a big deal. When I had kid #2... well, I can' t leave one kid behind, so anywhere I go it'll be 1-4yo and a mixed group gives me that. Actually, age range was a big part of why I left group #3, there were just too many new moms and while the ages were great for DS, there were very few big kids in the group, so at any given meetup we were very lucky if there was even one other big kid... which made DD bored. And a bored 3yo is not a pretty sight.

3003girl

Thanks for all the input. I really don't see myself being friends with any of these people. Its not that they are not ap, they just arent the type of people i would hang around with at all. Except perhaps one or two - so I may try to start my own playgroup. We'll see - I would have to find someolace to have it or perhaps rotate houses or something.