going alittle crazy (vent)

huntingwife9509

my shower is Sunday, which I didn't have to get much ready for, but still alittle crazy. I don't like being in the spotlight too much.

the nursery is completely torn apart, no drywall, insulation hanging all over, totally not liveable.

work is starting to stress me out. i have no ambition to get out of bed and drive an hour to work to sit there and have people tell me how small i look for carrying twins.

my husband is going through this little stage where he wants to party and get all of his younger years out of the way so when the girls come, he won't want to do that anymore.

my house is a complete mess, i don't have the energy or the drive to vaccuum or do dishes.

my dog is making me crazy, the past 2 weeks she has been sooo needy. she barks to go out, barks to come in, barks for food, barks for water, barks just to hear herself bark.

i don't know if this is possibly a wall i have hit, or if this is just what the 3rd trimester is about. i have the countdown on my phone from when the csection will be scheduled on 9/16.

jdancer5

I can only imagine how tough this must be for you! By that time in my pregnancy, i wasn't working, certainly wasn't remodeling the nursery, and my husband was running around in circles making sure all the housework was done. So... You definitely have a legitimate reason to vent. Take deep breaths, and try not to overload yourself. You're doing a lot of hard work already on the inside! I certainly hope you can enjoy your shower as a relaxing day with your friends. Hang in there mama! You're doing awesome.

AlishaMay

I can't even tell how exact this post is to what I was feeling around 24-28 weeks!  The only exception being that I was on bed rest. Incomplete nursery...check.  Absent and immature DH...check.  Disaster zone of a home with no energy or ability to do anything about it..check.  Wacko dog...check.  

This was the point where I came to terms with the fact that I had no control over how things were going to be.  The only thing I could do was sit back, take good care of myself and my babies, let that be my priority, and roll with the punches on the rest of it.

If you have family or friends to employ to help out around the house in the absence of your DH, that helps too - on many levels.  I asked my mom to come over and help me clean, and she brought my step dad along to help do some things in the nursery.  I didn't tell DH, and he came home from HH after work to find my parents picking up his slack.  I told him I understood that he needed to get some things out of his system before the babies showed up.  But that in the mean time, there were still responsibilities in this house that needed to be taken care of, and I was glad that I could rely on my parents to be there for me and the babies.  It was just the right amount of understanding and guilt to whip him into shape.  

Good luck, and remember this too shall pass.  Keep your eyes on the prize and the rest will fall into place.  Take care 

 

huntingwife9509

thanks for the reassurance i'm not the only one!!! DH told me just to relax last night because my feet and ankles hurt so bad from being so swollen. (he texted me this from the bar) i told him the girls can come anytime, he said he understood. I did have my dad and BIL come over and do some things in the nursery.

i just need 2 healthy happy baby girls.