People have no idea how rude they can be...

GoMommy

My best friend (well we havn't been very close since I got preg w/ DS but) has been trying to get preg, for about 2 years.. They havn't done IVF yet, but have had a few things done.  We will call her Sarah.. But I hate when we are at an event with other ppl and they always ask when they are "going to get on it" and have babies.. Sometimes they ask me, and sometimes they ask them.  But when they ask me, I just say I don't know and change the subject. 

The last time it happened, we were hanging out at our campsite and a friend of ours was talking to me, and asked when Sarah and H were going to have kids.. saying they needed to get on it since we have a kid now and going on!  I stopped her and said, I didn't know, but also didn't think it was our business and saying I hated it when ppl asked me that.  Sadly, "Sarah" heard it all, and since then she has been in a pissy mood.. ugh.  People are dumb.

Lucky_Dragonfly

I hear you. People think that because a married couple doesn;t have kids that they are not trying t have them when there could be issues in getting PG. A friend of mine was the same way. trying for over 2 yrs, but she refused to see a doctor about it. Her H finally said enough and they found out that she O's irregularly. First month on meds she got PG.

sewdivineb

I can 100% feel for your friend.  I have been there since it took us 13 yrs to get LO.  We had 2 IVF done neither took by the way it is very high $$$ where I live and insurance does not cover it.  Had a m/C and people that knew this still ask us.  And then DH had cancer is good now but people then would look at us all said and say thing like I am sorry you never had kids.  And all the time I had gone into a shell and refuse to feel anything again.  But GOD has his plan it will happen in his time.  Because we got pergo with no help from doc or meds.  And doc said I would never get pergo with out help I have PCOS and DH had just finished chemo when I got prego.  So she need to just let them know first it non of there business and it will happen in GOD time.  Will say a prayer for your friend I can feel her pain.

 

Jennabug25

sewdivineb:

I can 100% feel for your friend.  I have been there since it took us 13 yrs to get LO.  We had 2 IVF done neither took by the way it is very high $$$ where I live and insurance does not cover it.  Had a m/C and people that knew this still ask us.  And then DH had cancer is good now but people then would look at us all said and say thing like I am sorry you never had kids.  And all the time I had gone into a shell and refuse to feel anything again.  But GOD has his plan it will happen in his time.  Because we got pergo with no help from doc or meds.  And doc said I would never get pergo with out help I have PCOS and DH had just finished chemo when I got prego.  So she need to just let them know first it non of there business and it will happen in GOD time.  Will say a prayer for your friend I can feel her pain.

 

 

Wilma is that you?!

sewdivineb

Sorry no.

 

meheron80

Sorry your friend is upset. 

I have/had a very close sorority sister that was in my wedding last year.  Her and her H have been trying for about 3 years now w/no luck.  After my wedding in May we laughed saying we were going to have a honeymoon baby and wonderful for us we did but me announcing my pregnancy in such a short amount of trying really hurt her, though not my fault.  She came to my babyshower and sat in the back, very quiet despite other sorority sisters chatting with her and her mother being there (she was a close mom to me in college).  Since the babyshower we have spoke 1 time and haven't spoken since Madison was born.  I have only tried a few times to contact her as I don't want to "bother" her if she is not wanting to speak with me.  I never said or did anything other then get pregnant to upset her and it hurts.  I do speak with her mother via facebook weekly but my SS is so distant now.  Its really sad, I wish her luck and hope all the time that she and her amazing husband get pregnant and get to share the joys of being parents. 

kmh2201

So true.  I've had a few friends have a hard time TTC, so I no longer ask anyone about when they are going to have kids.  Unless they want to talk about it, I don't bring it up.  No need to bring up something that may be a sensitive topic to them.