having a hard time

Proud adoptive mom 6.11.09

I posted last week that my husband and I were looking into special needs adoptions. We spoke with Family Support Services of North East Florida this morning and we are going to update our homestudy in Jan. once we complete our move. We already have an adopted teenager.

This is were I am having a hard time. Since we have adopted DS we have also adopted 3 dogs. All well behaved and up to date on shots and things, but I keep telling myself we wont be re approved because we have dogs. We have a lab a border collie and a besenji, so they are all decent sizes.

Another reason why I am having a hard time is because this coming weekend is SIL baby shower, She is due in Septemeber, She got married in May because she was pregnant and everything has been all about her and this baby. I am hurt because everyone says well its her day so there for there should be no crying from me or well maybe she was meant to have children and I wasnt.

how do you deal with such situations? Has anyone else adopted with pets and had no problems?

vanceke08

" I am hurt because everyone says well its her day so there for there should be no crying from me or well maybe she was meant to have children and I wasnt."

Who says these awful things to you?!! That is one of the most hurtful things I could ever imagine hearing!! That is NOT ok. I know that sometimes we think we are being crazy, or overly emotional, but NOBODY has the right to say those things to you!

(hugs) I am so sorry you are dealing with that!  I can't imagine how i would handle that, but I think words like "dignified" and "class" would not describe it. 

We have 2 dogs and got approved. they really did not ask or seem to care about temperment or anything, their only concern was them being up to date on their shots. good luck!  

Dr.Loretta

Dogs are definitely not a problem. Many people here have dogs and have adopted successfully.

As for your SIL, well, in some ways it is her day. That doesn't mean your feelings shouldn't be taken into consideration, If you're having a hard time with it, you don't have to go. And I would *** anyone who said she was meant to have kids and I wasn't.

I hope things look up for you soon, and that your family throws you a huge shower for the child who comes to you!

JanieJones

Proud adoptive mom 6.11.09:

"or well maybe she was meant to have children and I wasnt."

I hope that conversation ended when you stuck a pen in that persons' throat?

Holy crap.

 

Take time for yourself and try to be excited for SIL even if it's not easy (you get to be an aunt!).  If it's too much don't go, but don't let anyone else get you down.