So disappointed...

SCasey32

We just found out that my 16 year old cousin is pregnant.
My Mom and her sisters were all teen moms,
But when they had us they drilled us everyday with the "it only takes once to get pregnant." and told us how hard it was to suddenly become an adult and take on the responsibility of taking care of another living being as well as yourself.
My mom made sure we knew that if we were going to get pregnant before we graduated that we were SOLEY responsible for those actions and we would provide for our baby, not her...
She also mentioned beating us senseless quite a few times. That's probably why I never had a baby in highschool lol.

My cousin is a very very self centered person,
When she doesn't get her way she throws fits. She doesn't even take care of herself, and I'm wondering how she thinks she will be able to take care of a baby?
She thinks babies are accesories, they're cute to tote around and show off...
but has numerous times said " I could never change a diaper full of sh**." and "Raising a baby can't be that hard."
She hid her pregnancy from her father (with the help of her STUPID mother) for three months now, until my Mom chewed my aunt out and convinced her to talk to her ex husband. She's already refusing to take her vitamins, or even eat healthy for the baby. She says she doesn't want to gain weight because then she'll be Fat.

She believes that this baby is going to keep her and her boyfriend together forever,
this will be their happily ever after.
Her mom said that he's already dreading the idea of being a dad.

It's like we're living on the set of that stupid TV show.

fluffybuns

She'll have to learn quickly! Hopefully she'll surprise everyone.

MrsD1

SCasey32:

She thinks babies are accessories, they're cute to tote around and show off...
but has numerous times said " I could never change a diaper full of sh**." and "Raising a baby can't be that hard."

She's in for a rude awakening.

I hope she gets her act together by the time she has the baby. 

SCasey32

Unfortunately they don't have schools for Teen Moms where we are,
You have to go to continuation school near the end of your pregnancy because they're still in that mind frame where if they don't see you pregnant it never happened.
I know it happens,
and unfortunately this mindset will set her back evern further if she doesn't just give up anyway.

The person who really needs to have the ever living crap beat from them is my Aunt.
When DD#1 was born My cousin came to my Step Dad's funeral with a Hickey on her neck, I yelled at her about how trashy that made her look and how irresponsible she was behaving (lack of birth control and lack of caring)....
My aunt had the nerve to say "If she had a baby it would be ok, it's not such a bad thing."
My Mom darn near broke her neck for saying that, the whole family was floored at how terrible she sounded.
I tried explaining to her that physically having the baby hurts more than any pain in my life and raising the baby was the hardest (yes, most rewarding) job I'd ever had in my life. It's not all fun and games.... and she doesn't understand that yet. She doesn't understand that she doesn't get breaks from being Mom, that her nights out on the town are over and done with, and so are her days of sleeping in . She doesn't understand that she can't spend all her money on clothes and shoes and new phones anymore, or that she can't consider her needs before those of this baby.
She doesn't understand that she can no longer be a kid,
and that she can't reverse this decision.

I do hope that she suprises us all and becomes an amazing mother,
because God knows she hasn't had the most amazing example from her own mother.

Thanks ladies,
this has been pretty hard for me to swallow considering we lived under the same roof until she was nine.

theaustins05

They don't have to be a teenager to disappoint! A same aged family member of mine knocked up his 17 year old junior in high school girlfriend. He's the most irresponsible person I know. They never even touch their baby, he's always being taken care of by everyone else in the family. I think its more of a fear of them neglecting him then of being loving to the kid. The mom isn't even trying to BF even though she has no way of paying for formula and she had a hospital grade pump given to her. And the boy clearly isn't taking to formula well, he's tiny, jaundiced, lethargic, and constipated. Poor baby.

SCasey32

Geeze Louise....
that's just ridiculous. Why bring a baby into the world if you can't or won't take care of it?
Babies are completely defenseless, utterly helpless, and amazingly beautiful.

My husband and I started trying for a baby at 18 (yes I know crazy young but I was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure and was told basically I had to start if I ever wanted to have kids) We went through crazy amounts of hell (hormone replacement therapy is a ***) and when we finally got pregnant we lost the first baby. Finally two years after our journey began we were blessed with a baby girl, and my husband missed the first six months of her life.... go figure huh?
We have been so grateful to be blessed with not only one daughter, but now a second, so you can say it REALLY pisses me off when people take their babies for granted.

calm_angel_2003

So one of my not so close friends sister gound out a couple months ago that shes pregnant. She refused to go to the dr or anything until a month ago. She now thinks she can hide her pregnancy from everyone . She is due sept 21. She just found out that its a boy. They are wanting me to give them DJ's clothes he cant wear. I give them whatever DJ doesnt use or no longer plays with. Yet she doenst want a baby shower or anything its really pissing me off!!!

Sorry to vent on yours OP but it pisses me off too

SCasey32

Do not be in the least bit sorry!

If you're planning to keep the baby WHY would you hide your pregnancy?
Makes no sense to me.