Thinking about TTC again soon

holly321

Dh and I are pretty sure we will ttc within the year, and have told several family members, and have gotten a lot of negative responses.  Did everyone else experience this too?

At least ob just laughed when I told him we weren't really using condoms. That is the closest we have gotten to support from anyone.

CaitlinJ22

we never told anyone. Its not anyone's business in my eyes. We didnt start TTC until DS was 9 months, and people still thought we were nuts for getting pg so fast. We are planning on ttc #3 soon and we tell people we want a 2-3 year gap, but we wont tell them when we will ttc...its not worth the comments. 

juliane2004

OOOOH YES. People were shocked that I got pg with DS so fast.

This is why we aren't mentioning trying for #3. My mom would kill me.

kcisthebombdotcom

We never told people when we were TTC because of comments. Plus, if we had a difficult time getting PG I didnt want to hear 4000 times "are you pregnant again yet?"

I dont know why, but it is still somewhat taboo to have kids close in age. Didnt phase me-I love it. I think its because a lot of people are in a bad financial position and affording multiple children close together is not in their budget.

moonfaerie

We didn't tell anyone when we were TTC either, but my parents had 3u3 so I figured that my family would have been all for it. Surprisingly, their reaction was worse than DH's family's reaction to the pregnancy announcement. My fam wasn't critical, but they weren't over the moon with joy either. Of course they love Chloe like crazy so it's a total non-issue now.

I wouldn't tell people because I wouldn't want to hear their opinions. DH and I are quite capable of deciding what's best for our family, thankyouverymuch. And if people want to make nasty comments when they find out, eff 'em. If they don't live with you or pay your bills, who cares what they think?

Arielle27

Yup! We said that we were ready to ttc by the time DS was 3 months old. People told us we were crazy and that we will see how hard it is having one ...

Well, as soon as we had the chance we tried and succeeded! Most people don't know that we're expecting yet, but the reactions have actually all been positive from the people who do know (our parents, siblings and 3 close friends), which is nice!

mrsseguin

We never told anyone we were TTC again when DS was 5 months old.  It's a personal decision.  I'm sorry people are being negative.

sahmommytimestwo

Everytime we mentioned TTC, I got a lot of negative remarks. When we finally decided to try, we didn't tell anyone and it really wasn't anyones business. Good luck on your TTC journey, sending baby dust your way!

Iamsmalls

Ha! I'd probably be one of those people with the negative reaction....well, maybe not negative but certainly "cautioning". I think some people are cut out for managing the "2 U 2". We are not....but we're managing anyway. I think having kids farther apart would have been much easier but at least we are moving through the tough baby years when a lot of our friends haven't even started down that path yet.

holly321

We weren't going to tell anyone, but my mom works at my pharmacy, so she knows if I am on bc.  So if my mom knows, dh feels his mom should know, and so forth.  Wishing we didn't tell anyone.

Ruby_Soho

We didn't tell anyone we were trying but when we announced I was actually surprised at how delighted and supportive our families and friends were. Well except FIL, he'd been hounding us for grandchild #2 since DS was about 4 weeks old so we knew he'd be on cloud 9.