i dont want to feel like this

heysupnatalie

So FI has started a new job where he goes out of town to paint for a week or so and then comes home for about a week and does it all over again. Now while he's gone I miss him a lot and want him to come home but when he gets home all he does is annoy me. We have our bedtime routine and stuff while he's gone and I try and stick to it every day but he messes with it when he gets home and then LO doesn't sleep as well. Anddd neither do I. Im used to co-sleeping with LO by the middle of the night because of his reflux and stuff but when FI comes home theres not enough room in the bed for me to be comfortable and I end up taking LO down to the living room and sleeping on the couch or in the recliner.
Last night I told FI that there will be no discussion about this, but that today he was to bring the recliner up to the nursery and bring the glider down to the living room. I love the glider but I always feel like he's going to fall out of my arms when I am breastfeeding in the middle of the night and nod off. At least the recliner would make sure that there would be no accidental falling and if I do fall asleep it wouldn't be a big deal.
He didn't bring it upstairs tonight because he said, then where will he sit downstairs while hes watching tv at night....um we do have a rather large couch....

I guess what I don't really understand is why I resent him so much lately. I'm fine until he gets home or says little comments about how maybe LO is crying because he's hungry even though he just watched me feed him for a half an hour and I know the different cries my baby makes. I get over it quickly but then at bedtime I get real resentful because he just sleeps through everything. Or he'll wake up and refuse to really help. Am I being crazy for being annoyed about how he sleeps all night long and doesn't have to work in the morning but I am the one up constantly? I know I signed up for being a mom, don't get me wrong I love it, but some sleep would be nice considering he claims to be here for me. The whole thing is, he really doesn't do anything wrong, I'm just being a bitcch and I hate it!

I just don't want to be angry with him at all while hes home. I've never been like this before and my doctor just said its hormones not PPD. I need some breathing techniques or something.

oh_maria

My situation is not similar to yours, but I can completely relate to your frustration/anger/unhappiness. DH keeps asking "if there's any chance he could still be hungry?" after I just nursed LO on both sides. I've been told "And Baby Makes Three" is a good book to read, so we're trying that... 

 

devinjonesrn

My hubby's favorite line is, "I think this one wants a boob."  I finally told him it offended me personally when he asked me if the baby was still hungry and that it made me feel like I wasn't doing a sufficient job meeting their nutritional needs when he asked me that.  If I thought they were still hungry, they'd still be on my boob. 

I think feeling resentful is all growing pains.  I feel that way too, and the other morning at 5am when I was getting up for the 3rd time and hubby rolled over I said, "enjoy your sleep..." (He was mad about this in the morning!  whoops!)  I've been trying to recognize when I feel resentful and make a conscious effort to think of the things he does do to help.  For me the reality of being a mom and a SAHM especially, is WAY far from what I "dreamed" it would be.  Its HARD and the adjustment has been a big bummer.