2 Middle Names??

chibride4

Hi ladies,

I'm hoping that you can help me. My DH and I are having a difficult time agreeing on a name for our 2nd son, who is due in October. He insists that we use "R" as the initial of the 1st name, in honor of his grandma, and I'd like to use "D" as the middle name initial, in honor of my grandpa. Easy enough... except that there's only one "R" name that I even remotely like (Reid). My DH doesn't love Reid, but he's okay with using it if we can nickname him R.J. So, here's our compromise:

Reid J. Devyn (Last Name)

Too much? We don't have any 4 initial people in our family, so I don't have the slightest idea how you handle this for legal forms, monograms, etc.

TIA!

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What is the significance of the nickname R.J. ?  Is this just DHs way of getting around calling your LO by his first name as he does not care for the name? Will you both call him R.J. or just DH?  

I know people who have 2 middle names and to me it just seems excessive but this is coming from someone who doesn't even have 1 middle name. 

chibride4

His name would be Reid and nickname would be R.J. (There really isn't another nn for Reid anyway.) Just like our other son, who is named Jackson and we frequently call J.B. (his mn is Benz). Or, DH is somewhat open to skipping the "J" and nicknaming him R.D. I don't think that it flows as well. The last option is for me to give in on Devyn as a mn and go with a J name. We already have a TON of "J" names in our family, though (i.e., Jackson, Jack, Jason, Josh). Help, I'm so torn!

cikangell

My friends had a son last year who they gave 2 middle names. I think it's perfectly fine, and kind of cute, too. They handled the monogram dilemma by using the same initial for both middle names. It sounds to me like this is a topic you and your DH need to keep open, because you still seem somewhat uncertain.

Good luck, and fwiw, I think Reid is a great name..:o)

Annya26

It doesn't bother me in the least when kids are given two middle names. Sometimes it flows better, sometimes there is significance and I don't think its a big deal personally.

There is a good chance that if mine turns out to be a boy he will have 2 middle names as well, after my father and the baby's father. 

Qmommy

CHeck out the baby name board... that's where my response is.  

honeybee #1

There's absolutely nothing wrong with giving the baby two middle names. Unfortunately, as far as monograms and most legal forms go, you would likely end up dropping the second middle name. My DH has two middle names, and I'm not sure that anyone other than his parents and the two of us are aware of it, he only gives his first mn when asked for his full name. You may want to consider hyphenating the two middle names though, it would get around all of that.

KMLP

My son has two middle names and my daughter will, too.  If his name needs to be shortened, it is just shortened down to Larsen John, instead of Larsen John Patrick.  I think the most important thing is that the names flow well with each other.

mamaofboys

Sorry, just over here checking another question when I saw this post.

DH has 2 middle names. I absolutely love it. It is pretty unique. Obviously birth certificate has both and occasionally forms have "full name" so he writes everything. But since most legal forms only use "middle initial" he puts the initial of his first middle name. It has never caused any issues or questions.

Do it if you want to. Its not a problem. 

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If the D name means as much to you as the R name does to DH it seems like the D name will almost be canceled out with the 2 middle names from what PPs have said and that would stink for you  Names are so hard. You guys still have time so maybe between now and when your little guy is born you can come up with something you both love and not just like. 

 

I knew a Reid growing up and I always loved his name. 

calliesmom6

Personally I love the name Reid (it's our LO-to-be's name and DH's name so I maybe bias ) but it seems a little silly (to me) to give your baby 2 middle names so that you don't have to call him Reid. This is the name your LO will have for the rest of his life and I wouldn't want to have to call my LO by a name I was just ok with.

I understand your husbands desire to honor his grandmother but have you considered naming your LO Devyn Reid? I like the way that flows and maybe if you go for a 3rd and it's a girl you can honor his grandmother by giving her an "R" name. There are tons of cute girl "R" names but I agree that boy "R" names are hard.

tracij12

calliesmom6:

I understand your husbands desire to honor his grandmother but have you considered naming your LO Devyn Reid? I like the way that flows and maybe if you go for a 3rd and it's a girl you can honor his grandmother by giving her an "R" name. There are tons of cute girl "R" names but I agree that boy "R" names are hard.

 This...I love Devyn Reid!

kregan2@hotmail.com

Any kids that we have - including this one (our first) will have two middle names, precisely because of a similar compromise - I wanted our kids to have my last name and my husband's - because I have a hyphenated name. He thought it was stupid, so we agreed instead to have my last name be a second middle name for the kiddo. So it'll be A.M.R.W (for a girl). 

gigibonita

My father has 2 middle names, infact, we are giving our little one, one of his middle names. 

LO will have two middle names. No big deal for us, DH and I have one middle name each.

What ever makes you happy, signifies importance to you and feels good!

 

 

blairmcclure

My son is due in November, and I'll be giving him two middle names as well. His full name will be Dominic Anthony Stephen (then my last name). The middle names are after my dad and step-dad.

From what I understand, all four names will be on his birth certificate (obviously) but for legal purposes, he would just use one middle initial on legal documents.

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chibride4

Thanks, everybody! After all that, I'm leaning toward dropping Devyn as a middle name and honoring my grandpa through the baby's Hebrew name instead. (Ahhh, the beauty of being Jewish). The top choice at the moment is Reid Jonah, so my husband can still nickname him R.J. Case closed (sort of)!

missjulierenee

My step daughter's name is Caitlin Mary Ann (last name) Mary is after her mom's mom's middle name and Ann is after my MIL's middle name. If you feel it is right, then go for it.