FFFC!

checkrdtop

Go!

 

Mine: I feel slightly bad about calling out a co-worker on her pregnancy (by email not out loud for the whole office to hear). I am not out completely at work yet (people must just think I'm getting fatter) and I have disliked being asked about it. But she is ALWAYS in my business, if she hears me having a personal conversation she will send me an email asking me questions about what she heard so really what is fair for the goose is fair for the gander.

capulet

There was a post a few days ago on 2nd tri by a woman who thought pregnancy was awful because she couldn't drink red wine or eat rare steak with soft cheese like her friend she had lunch with every week.  Everyone was piling on her for being whiny, so I didn't join the party (I mean, I know there are people for whom pregnancy sucking = feeling like crap each and every day, being on bedrest, etc.) but I thought, "Hmm, I've done all three of those things since I got pregnant..."

HazelBee22

I am a little frightened to find out the sex of the baby.

I want to know more than anything, I am so so excited to be having a boy or a girl, but I am scared for our bank account. Right now it is all I can do to walk away from adorable baby clothes, toys, fabrics, decorations, etc.

I will seriously have to avoid the mall for the next 4-5 months.

Mrs. Met

I dyed my hair last night b/c I didn't want to smell all of the bad fumes in the salon nor did I want to pay $$$ if it wasn't going to come out right (my dr. told me that it's safe but hormones usually screw up how the color comes out). It actually came out much better than I'd hoped and I am rolling my eyes at the few who noticed and gasped "OMG, but your pregnant."

Chargersgrl33

I felt stupid for going to the doctor Wednesday for pain.  It was pretty bad and makes it so I cant stand up straight but I feel like a baby.  At least they are doing an ultrasound today just to see what's going on in there. 

SiannaBees

I'm really sick of my grandma at this point. A little background on this one. She is not my biological grandmother. My mom had me with her first husband and later met my dad who adopted me when I was 18 because my biological dad wouldn't let him until then. This grandma is my adoptive dad's mom. She has always hated my mom, and hates me because i'm not biologically her granddaughter. My mom tried to share some ultrasound pics of mine with the family on the 4th since we found out it's a boy and my grandmother blew her off and started talking about my cousin's baby and brought up his baby every time anyone tried to mention ours. Definitely hurtful and at this point i'm tired of it. I do not plan on having my child around her because the woman is crazy. She slapped me the last time I saw her because I said something about the dirty nasty dog toy she had on the counter next to the food.

getnmarried910

I wish my MIL would stop spending her money on our kids (or spending it in general).  She doesn't have a job right now (company downsized), and I'm sick of her spending it on them and then listening to her complain about how she has no money.  She goes out to eat several times a week, shops constantly, and has no firm budget, yet she complains about not having money.  I know she wants to help with our kids, but we don't need her to help clothe our kids.  DH finally started telling her they don't need anything, and not to buy them stuff.  She thinks she can tell everyone else what to do with their lives and money.  When I bought DH a new polo at JC Penney's on Saturday, she asked if we could afford it.  Yes, we can afford the $9 shirt (yay clearance stuff!).  DH works two jobs.  During the school year, I make a little money watching a friend's kids.  We have two incomes (plus my small one), we live on a budget, and yes, we have a clothing allowance.  Don't tell me how to spend our money when you can't control your own finances.

iluvmylab

I think people who spend hundreds of dollars on cribs are nuts.

06hoky

I haven't shaved in 3 days because I've been oversleeping everyday and have to run out the door for work.  MH was not so thrilled last night when he was in the mood LOL!  I really need to get my routine back in line.  Can this total exhaustion please go away!!!!!!

TwoBoxers

I'm annoyed with my DH because I've had to cook dinner all week.  The deal is he cooks I clean up the mess but if I cook he still doesn't clean up the mess because he hates dishes.  Granted every night hes had a good reason not to cook but still help with the dishes then.  I know its sad and wrong that i'm annoyed but I am. 

NNGnome

SiannaBees:

I'm really sick of my grandma at this point. A little background on this one. She is not my biological grandmother. My mom had me with her first husband and later met my dad who adopted me when I was 18 because my biological dad wouldn't let him until then. This grandma is my adoptive dad's mom. She has always hated my mom, and hates me because i'm not biologically her granddaughter. My mom tried to share some ultrasound pics of mine with the family on the 4th since we found out it's a boy and my grandmother blew her off and started talking about my cousin's baby and brought up his baby every time anyone tried to mention ours. Definitely hurtful and at this point i'm tired of it. I do not plan on having my child around her because the woman is crazy. She slapped me the last time I saw her because I said something about the dirty nasty dog toy she had on the counter next to the food.

I am sorry to hear this, we have the same issue with my MIL and my eldest Nephew, who is not biologically hers, my BIL and SIL are not married, and both my SIL and my eldest nephew are not always seen as part of their family bacause of it, it bugs me so much as, as far as I'm concerned, if you love the person they are family, just becasue there is no blood tie or marriage doesn't make them any less family, my MIL & FIL actually tried to take our family wedding pictures without my SIL (even though she has two children who are biologically their grandchildren) as she wasn't married to my BIL, and my nephew is contantly left out of conversations and gift giving..it makes me so mad , I wish I could change it.

 My FFFC - I have felt the baby move for about a week now, and although I was really looking forward to it, it is kind of freaking me out, I jump every time I feel it, then feel bad as I should be lookng forward to it, but it is such a weird feeling, I always new the baby is in there, but feeling it move is so odd..I am hoping I get used to it soon.

NoodleM

I'm guilty of so many things mentioned, the drinking wine (only a half glass on 3 occassions) and eating 'bad' pregnancy foods, dying my hair (but a slightly lighter shade so no one would wag their finger at me even though *I* know it's safe), thinking people who spend hundreds of dollars on a single baby item are nuts, etc.

There's a girl at work that I do NOT like. I make it clear by just not talking to her at all. Whenever you speak, she butts in and turns the conversation to being all about herself (about the most f'd up stuff too, like zippers she uses for skin in her horror fashion line, how she's broken 5 guys noses, etc). I'm not the only one that doesn't like her (it's a workplace of 12 or so people, and I know at least 8 have an issue), but I'm the only one that shows it. I'm actually considering confronting her today and telling her why people don't like her in a attempt to help her help herself. DH doesn't think I should do it cus she's 3 years older than me and will be offended.

domesticatedhuman

I'm tired of people who have had c-sections being defensive about them.  I haven't noticed anyone on here actually be rude or judgemental towards people who have had a c-section so I don't get why there seems to be this stupid divide.  If someone is talking about a natural birth are you too petty and defensive to just wish someone the best and not take a completely unrelated persons attempt at a natural birth as a knock at you for having an entirely different set of circumstances?

MrsKatieK

I found out yesterday that my mom has decided to keep her current job and that she and my dad will not be moving closer to us. I had been hoping that her first grandbaby might sway them to move closer (an hour and a half away now). Instead, it looks like they will be moving further away (closer to two hours) so that she is closer to her job.

Fletcha

iluvmylab:

I think people who spend hundreds of dollars on cribs are nuts.

ITA... I'm contemplating not even buying one until we really feel the need for it... We're either going to have an Arm's Reach or a PnP in our room for the first few months so I honestly don't see the need for one for a while. Either that or JUST get a crib and do the side-car thing and then slowly transition away from our bed and then into their room when they're ready. Then of course there's the whole teething/crib being bit to shreds things... I cringe when I think of all the beautiful, expensive cribs people are buying that will just turn into chew toys a year from now.

Ricola

SiannaBees:

I'm really sick of my grandma at this point. A little background on this one. She is not my biological grandmother. My mom had me with her first husband and later met my dad who adopted me when I was 18 because my biological dad wouldn't let him until then. This grandma is my adoptive dad's mom. She has always hated my mom, and hates me because i'm not biologically her granddaughter. My mom tried to share some ultrasound pics of mine with the family on the 4th since we found out it's a boy and my grandmother blew her off and started talking about my cousin's baby and brought up his baby every time anyone tried to mention ours. Definitely hurtful and at this point i'm tired of it. I do not plan on having my child around her because the woman is crazy. She slapped me the last time I saw her because I said something about the dirty nasty dog toy she had on the counter next to the food.

I know how that feels. My step-grandma (my mum and step dad got married when I was 3 years old) always ignored my older sister and me, but my younger brother, who is her biological grandchild, was  the king. He got the best and biggest birthday presents (a sailboat for kids once!) while my sister and I did not get anything, not even a card. She always said that my step dad made a big mistake marrying my mum with 2 kids, because he deserves better. After asking her many times to stop that behavior and treat all of us the same, and she never changed, my parents cut off all ties with her. It must have been hard for my step dad, but he stood up for his family.

Fletcha

domesticatedhuman:

I'm tired of people who have had c-sections being defensive about them.  I haven't noticed anyone on here actually be rude or judgemental towards people who have had a c-section so I don't get why there seems to be this stupid divide.  If someone is talking about a natural birth are you too petty and defensive to just wish someone the best and not take a completely unrelated persons attempt at a natural birth as a knock at you for having an entirely different set of circumstances?

I don't really like the general defensiveness against anything even slightly natural-minded... bf-ing, cd-ing, med/intervention-free birth, co-sleeping, etc. It's not a competition and you don't have to justify not doing something the way we might chose to. If you're so ok with your choices, why get defensive if someone else is doing it differently. That doesn't mean "we" think we're better, it's just the choice we think is best for US personally. But I guess that's human nature... everything is a competition or a difference is seen as a threat sometimes.

robynlynn83

domesticatedhuman:

I'm tired of people who have had c-sections being defensive about them.  I haven't noticed anyone on here actually be rude or judgemental towards people who have had a c-section so I don't get why there seems to be this stupid divide.  If someone is talking about a natural birth are you too petty and defensive to just wish someone the best and not take a completely unrelated persons attempt at a natural birth as a knock at you for having an entirely different set of circumstances?

I'm not defensive at all and I don't think other moms on here with medicated births/c-sections are either.  I think my birth experiences (minus the two emergency c/s's were great).  My hang up is the p!ssing contest it turns into on medicated vs unmedicated, home vs hospital etc.  Birth is birth.  Same end result.  Just like breastfeeding.  While my chest isn't anyone else's business, there is nothing wrong with an epidural etc. 

People get judgy on both sides and it's such a personal thing I do not understand why it becomes a debate.

partyg1rl

I feel really bad for this one, but I know I'm not the only one in the family that feels this way....

I don't like my BIL/SIL 3 kids as much as I like my other nieces and nephews. I feel so wrong for saying this but they aren't disiplined or cared for very well so they are really really naughty kids, they are mean to my other nieces and nephews and my DD, in a word they are brats! I know that they are just a product of their parents (if you can call them that?!) and it's not their fault that they are this way but I just can't make myself get over that. They deserve better than what their parents give them, and they need positive attention from other people (and I try and give them that) but I secretly get disappointed when I hear they are going to be somewhere that we are, or that they are coming over to my house!

capulet

robynlynn83:

domesticatedhuman:

I'm tired of people who have had c-sections being defensive about them.  I haven't noticed anyone on here actually be rude or judgemental towards people who have had a c-section so I don't get why there seems to be this stupid divide.  If someone is talking about a natural birth are you too petty and defensive to just wish someone the best and not take a completely unrelated persons attempt at a natural birth as a knock at you for having an entirely different set of circumstances?

I'm not defensive at all and I don't think other moms on here with medicated births/c-sections are either.  I think my birth experiences (minus the two emergency c/s's were great).  My hang up is the p!ssing contest it turns into on medicated vs unmedicated, home vs hospital etc.  Birth is birth.  Same end result.  Just like breastfeeding.  While my chest isn't anyone else's business, there is nothing wrong with an epidural etc. 

People get judgy on both sides and it's such a personal thing I do not understand why it becomes a debate.

Agreed.  I do fully support other moms' decision to do natural childbirth, and I think everyone should.   I just know, especially having gone through labor once, that it is not for me.  I will admit to getting defensive about my c-section sometimes, but I don't think it's for that reason.  I had a pretty positive experience - recovered easily, had no problems bonding with or BFing DD, etc., and this after an induction (which I do regret) and several difficult hours of labor.  So I do react defensively when people suggest the worst-case scenario is a typical outcome, or something to fear any more than people should fear, say, fourth-degree tearing as a typical outcome of vaginal birth.

And I will confess to being a bit of a lactivist .  I try not to judge because BFing turned out to be really easy for me and I know it's not for everyone, but I do wish that everyone who was physically and medically able to do it would try.

GoldenPeaches

iluvmylab:

I think people who spend hundreds of dollars on cribs are nuts.

ITA, and 600 dollar strollers, 400 dollar bedding sets. Spend whatever money you want to if you can afford it, but it just seems wasteful to me. 

uncharch7

GoldenPeaches:

iluvmylab:

I think people who spend hundreds of dollars on cribs are nuts.

ITA, and 600 dollar strollers, 400 dollar bedding sets. Spend whatever money you want to if you can afford it, but it just seems wasteful to me. 

agreed, even though i'm a tad hypocritical because we're getting a $400 stroller. i justify this to myself because we are spending next to nothing on literally everything else. my one big want/need was a heavy duty stroller that i could use for everything and would last us until we didn't need a stroller anymore. i just don't see the need to spend that much $ on a nursery or toys that will last all of a few months and not get a ton of use.

today i decided i really dislike the word "mommy". i'm ok with mom/momma, but not mommy. 

L8ebugs

I think I'm turning into one of *those* pregnant ladies who can't think/talk about anything other than pregnancy. I totally hijinked a friends' post about sampling wedding cakes (she's getting married next week) into my need for 2 slices at the wedding because I'm eating for two (and hey, I just really like wedding cake...). I'm hoping that when summer is over and I'm back at school and will have all sorts of work-related things to talk about this will change. But jeesh, I really didn't want to be that pregnant lady who everyone avoids because she's a broken record of pregnancy talk!

SiannaBees

Ricola:

SiannaBees:

I'm really sick of my grandma at this point. A little background on this one. She is not my biological grandmother. My mom had me with her first husband and later met my dad who adopted me when I was 18 because my biological dad wouldn't let him until then. This grandma is my adoptive dad's mom. She has always hated my mom, and hates me because i'm not biologically her granddaughter. My mom tried to share some ultrasound pics of mine with the family on the 4th since we found out it's a boy and my grandmother blew her off and started talking about my cousin's baby and brought up his baby every time anyone tried to mention ours. Definitely hurtful and at this point i'm tired of it. I do not plan on having my child around her because the woman is crazy. She slapped me the last time I saw her because I said something about the dirty nasty dog toy she had on the counter next to the food.

I know how that feels. My step-grandma (my mum and step dad got married when I was 3 years old) always ignored my older sister and me, but my younger brother, who is her biological grandchild, was  the king. He got the best and biggest birthday presents (a sailboat for kids once!) while my sister and I did not get anything, not even a card. She always said that my step dad made a big mistake marrying my mum with 2 kids, because he deserves better. After asking her many times to stop that behavior and treat all of us the same, and she never changed, my parents cut off all ties with her. It must have been hard for my step dad, but he stood up for his family.

As bad as it may sound I wish my Dad would. As it would be, my Dad didn't even stick up for me and I think that hurt the worst

seashell_83

I'm pissed, annoyed, frustrated, can't stop crying because our landlord hasn't been paying her bills so our water got shut off.  I can't shower, wash the dishes, do laundry or even cook!  We are searching for a new place to live asap but don't know where we're going to go cus no one accepts pets here.  So we'll either be 35 miles or 2 1/2 hrs from SO's job depending on where we can find a place.. Oh and we most likely wont be getting our deposit or july rent check back cus she's a dumb a$$ b!tc#!!!! 

kwinkle1980

I have come to really dislike my SIL to the point where I don't want to be around her anymore. She married DH's brother 5 years ago, and I was so excited to have a new sister. I tried to be her friend. I invited her places, and she would blow me off. We would plan family activites and she would take it as an excuse to pawn her kid off on us and stay home. For family dinners for birthdays, she would invite a bunch of kids to come with to keep her daughter company, and then never offer to pay anything. I have paid over $200 for a meal with them. She called me boring once, blew off my wedding (which I had ordered gluten-free food for just for her) and every time sheh does do something with us she complains the entire time. I feel very anxious around her now, and try to avoid her.

 On a lighter note, I am really weirded out by the people who worry that their baby gear for a boy is too girly. Your kid will be too young to know what a boy is! Nothing will come of him not having baseballs all over everything he owns!

GoldenPeaches

heathermc28:

I'm pissed, annoyed, frustrated, can't stop crying because our landlord hasn't been paying her bills so our water got shut off.  I can't shower, wash the dishes, do laundry or even cook!  We are searching for a new place to live asap but don't know where we're going to go cus no one accepts pets here.  So we'll either be 35 miles or 2 1/2 hrs from SO's job depending on where we can find a place.. Oh and we most likely wont be getting our deposit or july rent check back cus she's a dumb a$$ b!tc#!!!! 

Not sure where you are located, but you can try the Better Business Bureau if she doesn't get you your security deposit/back rent. Just be sure to take pictures of the condition you left the apartment in. We had to do this with a previous landlord. We'd gone back and forth with them for over a month; we involved the BBB and it was settled that day.  

emjsutter

 I really wish my future SIL was not a part of our wedding. When we we got engaged over a year ago, her response was "that's a really tiny ring."  Clearly, we were both hesitant to ask her as this behavior is typical of her. Since both of my siblings are in the wedding party and FI's mom said the sister was actually really excited; we decided to ask her. FI's mom apparently told her before we even asked her though, which also peeved me since I was still debating! Throughout the engagement, all she has done is complain about having to wear a dress, having to dance, etc. She didn't go dress shopping with the rest of the BMs. Now, she isn't planning on going to the bridal shower the BMs are throwing or the bachelorette party next weekend! We will probably have more fun without her, so I'm not too mad about it. What gets me, is I have a close friend that I wanted instead of her.