What the heck?

CaptainD

I don't post much but I am having issues!!  I can't stop thinking about having another baby but I will be 40 in Jan!  Plus, I am so worried that attention will be taken away from my little girl. It really is getting to me!!  Advice?

KerryHS

Had my third at 42.  Don't let age deter you.  Just decide whether or not you want another child.  I thought I was done at 40 and changed my mind at 41.  My LO is 6 months old today.  My first two are 11 and 9.  We are one happy family.

Peppernut

We didn't even start until I was 40.  

I share the worry about how the baby will affect my little girl, though.  I love her so much, and I am so afraid she'll feel replaced or jealous.  I had a terrible relationship with my little sister from day one.  I just remind myself that a lot of people are really close to their siblings, maybe she will be one of those lucky ones... 

Piranha54

got pg and had my first when I was 41 (she was a week early otherwise it would have been 42).  Go for it.

MyPunkinPie

Just had my first at 42 and plan to have another next year.

If you think about it, you're right: attention WILL be taken away from your D. It has to be. Think of it like the spokes of a wheel: when you add a new spoke, the others have to make room/ adjust for the new one but once everybody finds their place, you have a smooth-running wheel again!

choirgirl

I had DS at 38, and am not 41. We've been struggling mightily with secondary infertility for a year now.  We are on a break cycle and have one last pull-out-all-the-stops IUI next month if it doesn't work. Then we probably have to stop trying any way other than all naturally. 

I'm so sad that my eggs seem to have suddenly aged, because that's the only thing they are left with thinking is wrong.  I have many of them, I ovulate on my own, DH has a fantastic amount of great swimmers (less fantastic but still OK in shape), no thyroid or clotting issues, and with the addition of one daily pill, my hormones are in great shape, and my lining is pretty darn good, though it's a teeny bit suspect (possibly too thick) so they will address that in the last IUI.  This hijack of your post is just to say, if you think you want to, get on it now!!

vanverth

My morning sickness started the day before my 40th birthday (thought I had an ulcer.)  We are one and done because DH is older (47) and is not bouncing back as well as he could.  Otherwise, I would be pregnant now.

Maggee206

I once read that you never regret following the desire to have more children but you often regret the other.

 

Good luck deciding and TTC if you do follow this thought. 

ateytelb

Maggee206:

I once read that you never regret following the desire to have more children but you often regret the other.

 

Good luck deciding and TTC if you do follow this thought. 

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