My Flameful Friday confession

Maybride2

I bitched a week or so ago about how pathetic I think it is that my MIL still buys gifts for my BIL to give to people.

She TOLD me that she picked up an extra gift for DS "for BIL".  She brought the gift to DS's birthday party with a little notecard that said, in her handwriting, "Uncle BIL".  BIL, though invited, did not attend the party.

I just finished writing out the TY cards, and I am not sending BIL a thank you card for a gift that he did not pick out, did not pay for, did not give..........basically had no part of.  I did, however, include the gift in MIL's TY card.  And when MIL calls me to remind me that that particular gift was from BIL, I might just tell her what I think.

Spill yours.  Liven this place up a little!

 

shouldbeworkin

I completely agree with you!  I've had this happen a few times where I received a gift from an older family member who included their grown children on the gift.  I sent the parent the TY note  and not the grown kids.  I may have included the kids on the TY, but didn't write them one separately.  I doubt they even knew they "gave" a gift.

august06mom

No flames from me -- that's probably what I would do.

mlm1128

My dh and I each have a brother that is perpetually single and over 35.  They both go out and buy gifts for our dd all by themselves.  They are always so good at picking to!  My brother gave dd a cashmere sweater and pant set for her baptism that was so girly I couldn't believe he picked it himself! 

There really is no excuse for this kind of crap, but I have a cousin that does the same thing.

katie277s

I agree.  Once someone is old enough to live on their own, they are old enough to buy a gift themselves.  There is no need to have their mom take care of it for them.  Good for you!

ellemoney:)

I agree! I wouldn't send him a thank you either!

**BAC***

I agree with you, he would not get a thank you note from me either.

My grandmother does this for my uncle still, and he is in his 50's!  Drives me up a wall.

kellyjustin

is it a man thing?  my 30 y/o brother has not bought a single thing for either of my kids since my baby shower before 1st dd was born.  they each got a card when they were born and older dd got one for her 1st bday.  nothing at xmas (and we saw them for a whole weekend at xmas!)  i guess his wife is ok with that too.  ughhhh.  they live 5 hrs away but have never come to see them, and have only seen older dd twice when we brought her up there.  im glad no one tries to bail them out!  but mil does bail out 22 y/o bil, that drives me crazy too.