Any idea on what outcome could be? kinda long.

Rainingdaisys

I haven't been on here for some time.  It was last year and I was pregnant.  Now my baby is 4.5 months old now.  I have a 10 year old also.  My baby's dad and I separated officially in April.  However, last year I knew it wouldn't be long.  He turned into an ass.  We previously discussed maintaining a positive relationship and parenting our son.  But he became angry with me calling me a B while I nursed our infant and in front of my 10 year old and slammed my door, yelled, etc... (short story) He is the one that "officially" stated we were done.  However, we were done long before that happened.  More to the story, but not what I'm writting about.

With my 10 year old, I went through child support (CS) stuff, but this is the first time going through courts regarding visitation, etc...  My baby's dad filed papers.  We had been doing daily visits until I started work in May.  Now we do tuesdays and thursdays 5-8pm and Sundays 1-6pm.  He seems to think I am trying to hurt him and keep him from his son, as even when it was daily for 2 hours it wasn't enough time.  So you can imagine what three days a week is like.  We exchange our son at the police station parking lot.   He wants more time, shared legal and shared physical.  We live in Minnesota.  How likely is this to happen?  I worry about this.  He is trying to control everything and tries to "take me down" by calling the county, the IRS, the city, etc... to make sure they knew I rented my basement.  He informed my mom that by the time he was done with me I would loose my house and maybe even both my kids and that "everything" would come out in court... Whatever that means.  Yet he states I am playing the "poor victim, vendictive woman role"  He used to post on face book for people to "pray for (my) soul", etc...  He even called the preist a few times before I baptised my son, trying to stop it.  To the point where the father changed the time of the baptism as to prevent a scene.    He has been acting "better" since the papers were served on me, but I am still nervous. 

I worry, is my house clean enough...oh no, baby scratched himself---What will dad say?  He always asked how he got the scratch, how does he know that my older child and I didn't cause his thrush, etc...  I worry...

Anyway sorry so long, so much to say, didn't say it all, yet said to much!

I am just concerned about what he actually will get and how long this will take.

Sweet face 82

Keep your chin up.  I can't tell you what will happen, but what I can offer is that I'm going through something similar.  Your STBXH sounds exactly like mine.  Abusive, controlling men continue to try to control the situation by continuing to try to control you.  I worry about the same things as far as any scratch, etc.  Don't let him make you feel bad for leaving a bad situation.  You didn't yell and swear at yourself.