STTN Are we the only ones?

KristenFMR

Are we the only ones whose baby is still not STTN he is 9 months old and my little guy still wakes up at 2am each morning wanting to come back into our bed.  We started the bad habit or letting him sleep with us because he had Reactive Airway disease and we needed to count his breathing at night.  I knew it was going to be a pain to get him out.  He goes down to bed pretty well on his own but at 2am wants to be in with us.  I go in to calm him down and he will not settle. 

 I talked to my pediatrician and he said not to let him cry more than 10 mins in the middle of the night becuase he would get to upset and take a long time to settle back down.  He suggested moving him into our room in a pack n' play b/c he thinks it's seperation anxiety and if he is near us he may be ok.  We have been doing this for a week and he still wakes 1/2 of the time but also has STTN half of the time.  What should I do? 

 Anyone else out there still dealing with sleep issues?

Genevieve_kris

::enters post to raise hand and clink coffee cups in sympathy::

With teething and a nursing strike, DD has been about 70% in bed with us for the past week, which helps the sleep, but it is still not STTN.  We had been down to about 5% bedsharing, and have obviously regressed. 

I also keep seeing posts on facebook from my aunt that her 9 and 12 year old sons (my cousins) still often wake her up in the night.  So basically we may never sleep again.  I need a vacation

hillek5

It does sound like separation anxiety.  If you're only a week into keeping him in your room, it may just be that he needs more time to adjust.  If he's sleeping some nights, then maybe you're making progress.  Just keep it up, and hopefully he'll be STTN soon.

Does he get really worked up if you let him CIO?  At the 10 minute mark, is he full-out crying or just fussing?  I'd be tempted to keep letting him CIO if he's just fussing a little.  I know that DS will fuss, sometimes cry, and usually put himself back to sleep within 10-15 minutes.  He's still waking up at least once more nights than not, but this system seems to be helping us cut down the number of awake nights.

 

Chrissy1019

DS still wakes up around 2-3am and nurses. We were pretty much able to stop the bedsharing cold turkey but that was only because he handled it well. If he had a hard time with it I would probably still be doing it. Everyone keeps telling me that I should cut the middle of the night nursing but he's been sleeping so well that I'm petrified to rock the boat. I feel your pain.

KelzinBoston

Not even close...in fact w/ teething and a cold the last week or so has been his worse sleep stage to date.

KristenFMR

He gets really upset if he cannot come into bed with us and is full on screaming like we are murdering him.  That is what makes it so hard.  And as soon as he hits our bed he's out like a light.  Since we both work we usually give in because we need sleep as well.  But I don't want an older kid in my bed

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jnolts

Still not STTN here with an 11 month old.......we just can't get a break from teething! She's cutting her 1st molar, which will now make 9 teeth.....hoping for a break in teething soon so we can get back to  STTN.

Hang in there, I feel your pain! 

olga&shaun

Umm, DD is over a year, and she STILL won't STTN..!!! And I really wish she liked sleeping in bed with us, but she hates it! At least then I could just give her a cuddle and she'd fall back to sleep. I have to get up at least once a night, pick her up, and hold her till she falls asleep. Otherwise she gets hysterical. And I just can't do CIO.... <mommy fail>