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am I going to be this tired forever?

I have two great sleepers (DD still gets up once a night to eat, but otherwise sleeps 7pm-7am), and I am still absolutely, positively, bone tired at the end of every day. I have a very hard time staying up past 9pm. Can't watch a movie with DH...I just fall asleep. I feel so fatigued in the afternoon that I just feel like there's a veil over my head.

It's so bad that after some urging from my husband I went to see my doctor (who, coincidentally, was also a 2u2 mom at one point), who ran some bloodwork which all came back normal. She told me there's nothing wrong with me, it's just my life. Crying

So, those of you who have been doing this a while...will it get better, or can I just look forward to being this exhausted for the next 18 years??

Re: am I going to be this tired forever?

  • It's recently gotten a little better for me now that my youngest is STTN, walking, and able to play better with my older son. Which means I go to bed at 9:30 now instead of 8:30, lol.

    I think that having one child this age is tiring, let alone two. It's funny you posted this because my husband and I were just talking about this issue this morning: how unrelenting children are. I really notice it when we take the kids out for a fun but exhausting day at the beach or the splash pad or something like that. When we come home, I'm tired just from following them around everywhere, hoisting them into the waves or on to the equipment, and being "on" for them the whole time.

    All I want to do is sit down and relax for a few minutes. But the kids need dinner, diaper changes, baths, and books read to them before bed. Their swim suits need to go in the laundry, the diaper bag needs to be cleaned up, bottles need to be washed and refilled, ect. ect. I'm sure you know how it is; it never ends. That's why I'm so tired all the time.

    I look at how it gets easier and easier with my older son though and I can see that when my younger one is that age, how much less tiring it will all be. However, that's probably when we will lose our minds and get pg. with #3, lol.

    GL to you!

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  • I am very tired most days too. DS2 still wakes at 4 to hang out and then 6 for the day. I know we've got good reason to be tired but I'm also thinking about changing my diet. I may eliminate sugar and simple carbs. I think eating that kind of stuff gives me energy temporarily but then I feel awful. I don't feel like I have a whole lot of time to think about my meals but I'm thinking of really making an effort to do no sugar and I'm betting it will help. Just an idea.
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    I am very tired most days too. DS2 still wakes at 4 to hang out and then 6 for the day. I know we've got good reason to be tired but I'm also thinking about changing my diet. I may eliminate sugar and simple carbs. I think eating that kind of stuff gives me energy temporarily but then I feel awful. I don't feel like I have a whole lot of time to think about my meals but I'm thinking of really making an effort to do no sugar and I'm betting it will help. Just an idea.

    This is a good point. We eat pretty healthy around here, but we could also do better. It would probably also help if I cut out caffeine (I currently drink about one cup of coffee and sometimes one soda a day) and alcohol (1-2 glasses of wine three or four times a week), but those things help me survive 2u2! Wink

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    I look at how it gets easier and easier with my older son though and I can see that when my younger one is that age, how much less tiring it will all be. However, that's probably when we will lose our minds and get pg. with #3, lol.

    GL to you!

    Oh, there will be no #3 for me. I'll be 39 soon, and I just feel too damn old to do this again. I wonder if age is also a factor here.

  • Join the club. The baby sttn but wakes up at 6. Forgot what it feels like to sleep like a normal person. My body feels beaten up from all the chasing, lifting, and picking up things and lack of sleep. I don't think it will get easy until they are like 5 and able to really do things for themselves like get dressed and climb out of the bath and car alone, etc!
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  • For me it got better when #2 was about a year old.

    However... this weekend both of my kids slept until 8:00 and 8:30.  We'd gone to bed at 10:30.

    I woke up panicked (and refreshed) and realized it was the first time in 5.5 years that I'd slept that late and that well.

    All I could think was:  WOW..... maybe we're turning a corner and my kids won't be getting up with the light of day EVERY day for the rest of my life!!!

     

    But again - it wasn't as bad once the baby had been STTN for a few months and got even better around the 1 year mark.

    Hang in there!!! 

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    Oh, there will be no #3 for me. I'll be 39 soon, and I just feel too damn old to do this again. I wonder if age is also a factor here.

    I wonder too sometimes if age is a factor.

    Now that I'm staring down a possible #3 at 40 (would deliver at 41) I'm completely freaked out.  I know women do this in their 40's but the mere thought of even pregnancy drains me to the point of wanting to cry.  I can't wait for this 2ww to be over.

    DH who's done this at 27 and then again at 39 and 41 swears that age has nothing to do with it and sleep deprivation just sucks no matter what.

    Of course - DH is in the best shape of his life right now and I'm far from it.  That could have a lot to do with how we handle the activity levels and lack of sleep.

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  • I have a pastor who had 2u2 about 20 years ago.  He and his wife always refer to our stage as "the tired years."  It does get better.... I'm much less tired than I was earlier on.  I'm still totally beat by the end of the day but it's not nearly as bad as it was.  Hang in there.... "the tired years" do become a thing of the past.
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    I look at how it gets easier and easier with my older son though and I can see that when my younger one is that age, how much less tiring it will all be. However, that's probably when we will lose our minds and get pg. with #3, lol.

    GL to you!

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