Intro.. better late than never! (LONG)

AshNichole23

Hi Ladies!

As my ticker indicates, I'm quickly approaching my 37 weeks mark and soo excited to be meeting my lil princess shortly! I'm going to be a single mom and thought I'd share a brief version of my story!

I've known my X for about 8 years, his nephew is my best guy friend. I've been apart of that family and invited to all family things for many years.  He has pursued me for quite some time, but he is 10 years older than I and I was hesitant due to the possibility of complicating things within the family.  I finally began going out on dates with him and things heated up quickly! Although, trust me ladies, I made him wait and work for the "grand prize" lol.  He was planning to move up to Sacramento for work at the end of last year, so one night he surprised me with an amazingly romantic get-a-way, and I finally gave in! Needless to say, our princess was made! haha.

A lil TMI, but I was on BC (the NuvaRing) and YES, using it properly and on no other medications (I'm a nursing student, I know these things!) and we were only together this special night.  

He ended up not moving, we were all "in love" and making plans for the future. Once I told him WE were pregnant, the tables definitely shifted.  He made it very clear he did NOT want this baby and was not going to stand by and be supportive or involved in any way. So I knew from the beginning that I was choosing to parent on my own.

I have seen him 4xs, including the day I told him about the pregnancy (all civil conversations), but nothing has changed. He is a 34 year old child who doesn't want to grow up or claim any responsibilities in his life.  I'm in my final month and I'm sure he feels like his world is closing in on him.  We live in neighboring cities and have run into each other multiple times throughout the pregnancy.  He knows it's getting close and is probably freaking out.  He has no blocked my number and we no longer have ANY contact. I could obviously call him from another number, but what is there to say?!

Welcome to my complicated life!!  As for future plans, I do plan on putting his name on the birth certificate.  I know who my daughter's father is and I made the decision that I will never keep him from her or vice versa.  Although she will have MY last name.... she is MY FAMILY!  I'm willing to bet my life he will never pursue a relationship, BUT if it were to happen, I feel it would be selfish of me to deny her a possible relationship with her father.... unless it becomes damaging (ex. not following through on visits, promises, calls, etc!) 

I will also include that I am OVERLY blessed with an amazing and broad support team.  Because of the strength and longevity of my relationship with my X's family, they are all standing by my side.  They have expressed their disdain towards him and his decisions and made it clear I will still be invited to everything (so he just chooses not to attend when he knows I will be there).  I also have the love and support of my family and wonderful friends.  But it does get hard, especially after 9 long months of NO MALE AFFECTION!!  And I'm def not even speaking about "intimacy", but even kisses or affectionate hugs.  I've gone cold turkey since the night we conceived!  But I love my lil girl and know there will be a man in our future who will complete our family and be a wonderful husband and Daddy to my lil girl.

The few feeds I have lurked through give me strength and encouragement reading different posts and knowing there are so many other strong woman out there in similar situations!

PrincessFiona9

Well you won't be able to put his name on the birth certificate unless he's there to sign it too, but if you pursue child support and paternity is established his name will probably be added to it.

Otherwise, welcome and can't wait to see pics of the new baby on our board!