Exasperated Vent

cherokeemomma87

So I have been trying to clean our bedroom for like 4 days and every time something stops me. Usually its DH going you cant do that now or just wait five minutes for me to finish this really quick. I woke up all ready to clean, and he wants to get a little more sleep. Ok, he just wants an hour or so, well that hour turns into him getting up at 12:20 in the afternoon, and now DS has to go down for a nap and any noise will keep him from going to sleep. So once again I am fvcked. And DH cant understand why I am frustrated and in a bad mood.

Mrs White

Why is your husband sleeping till noon?  Does he work nights?  Is he a teenager? 

TheOriginalSP

Yeah I'm with Mrs White, WTH is your husband sleeping until noon?  Unless he works the night shift there is no reason for that.  Get his ass out of bed!

cherokeemomma87

He works from home, but gets the majority of his work done late at night. So he wont come to bed until like 2 am. I get up with the kids at night so he can get some sleep, but some times I like to let him sleep in a little, because he does help a lot with the kids during the day which is why he as to work at night. 

I just get annoyed because he doesnt really pick up after himself (leaves wet towels on the floor, puts dirty clothes on the floor right next to the hamper, stuff like that). And so most of the cleaning I need to do is his shiit.   

ohashlet

So he needs 10 hours of sleep?

Mrs White

So you say "Hey DH, I get that you don't come to bed till 2am but 10am is 8hrs of consecutive sleep, tomorrow at 10am I am going to clean XYZ, fair warning"

Problem solved.  Seriously though..I do not get sleeping till noon as an adult with kids. 

robinsokj

I think I would ask him to get more work done during the day.  There is no need for 2 full time sah parents in most situations.

ASmallWonder

cherokeemomma87:

He works from home, but gets the majority of his work done late at night. So he wont come to bed until like 2 am. I get up with the kids at night so he can get some sleep, but some times I like to let him sleep in a little, because he does help a lot with the kids during the day which is why he as to work at night. 

I just get annoyed because he doesnt really pick up after himself (leaves wet towels on the floor, puts dirty clothes on the floor right next to the hamper, stuff like that). And so most of the cleaning I need to do is his shiit.   

Does he NEED to do most of his work that late or does he CHOOSE to?  Because if it was a choice, he'd see me choosing to wake his ass up after a generous 8 hours of sleep. 

Mysterious_wife

Man I would love to sleep 8 hours, let alone 12. Just because you SAH doesn't mean he gets to do whatever the eff he wants.  He needs to get his ass up. 

DrBeepersWife

I don't see what the big deal is that he slept 10 hours one night.  DH sometimes sleeps in during the week but he lets me sleep in on the weekends. 

Excitedtostart

If for the most part you guys work it out amongst yourselves, I see no problem with it. I get that some days just get delayed and it's frustrating. If it happens regularly, then I would start vacuuming at 9 am on the dot. Right next to him. 

Also, the clothes thing? Just tell him that anything not in the hamper gets burned or tossed. Then do it - although I might just toss it. If he wants to act like a 9 year old boy, best to start treating him like one.  

+diana82+

So basically he is a teenager.

cherokeemomma87

Excitedtostart:

If for the most part you guys work it out amongst yourselves, I see no problem with it. I get that some days just get delayed and it's frustrating. If it happens regularly, then I would start vacuuming at 9 am on the dot. Right next to him. 

Also, the clothes thing? Just tell him that anything not in the hamper gets burned or tossed. Then do it - although I might just toss it. If he wants to act like a 9 year old boy, best to start treating him like one.  

Hahah... I have taken his clothes and put them in the back of my closet and told him that i had no idea where they were going. When that didnt work I stopped washing his clothes and just threw his dirty clothes into his closet. We have had many talks about the clothes and he is getting better.

Im like the opposite of Horders, I get twitchy when our house gets to cluttered/messy.