oh..THIS question

mrsmacias2008

I get asked this a lot...because I had a CS?

"so, you didn't want to have the boys naturally?"

Um, actually I wanted to. But with them so early, Kimo breeched, and Nick so high up I though he was in my chest...it's a little harder people. It was an emergency CS.

It makes me wonder. When people here the word CS, do they think we are taking the "easy" way out. It's not easy. it's tough and very scary. I have heard people say oh, I would much rather have a CS. It just baffles me.

BoopADoopBetty

"I like to do everything easier. That is why I had them both at once. I always say work smarter, not harder!"

caffinated_tulip

::rubs bridge of nose::

You know, the closer I get to d-day the less I give a raging fvck about being "natural". 

Excitedtostart

I think sometimes it depends on two things. 

A) the number of aggressive naturalists who think that anything less than Mother Nature alone birthing your child is a sin. I feel like I'm seeing a lot more of this type of women (and a few men).

If you live in a place were you have a lot of money (NYC, and I'm assuming parts of CA) you do have a significant population of women who will have elective c-sections, early c-sections, so that they can get back in shape quicker, so it won't hurt, so the baby will be prettier for the newborn pictures, etc.

and then there's the publicity surrounding the high rate of sections, and how we need to get back to allowing birth to take place at it's own pace, which is a good conversation to have, but I think people forget that there are legitimate reasons for sections in the first place.

Sorry for the run-on, I need coffee.  

Excitedtostart

caffinated_tulip:

::rubs bridge of nose::

You know, the closer I get to d-day the less I give a raging fvck about being "natural". 

What, no koi pond for you?  

caffinated_tulip

Excitedtostart:

caffinated_tulip:

::rubs bridge of nose::

You know, the closer I get to d-day the less I give a raging fvck about being "natural". 

What, no koi pond for you?  

It's wolf pack or nothing. 

staycee

Excitedtostart:

women who will have elective c-sections, early c-sections, so that they can get back in shape quicker, so it won't hurt,

back in shape quicker?  who thinks that?   It's surgery, you can't really do much for weeks and weeks after.   And yeah, it doesn't hurt at the moment, but the incision hurts to cough or laugh or sneeze for weeks after

Kissimi21

Some people are just ignorant.  I've had people ask if I had wanted a vaginal birth instead, or say that I was lucky to have a CS because I didn't have to go through labor and delivery.  My response, "Sure, I'd have loved to give birth the way my body was designed to, but then my son's heart rate plummeted and I figured I rather save his life and deal with the extra weeks of pain and healing."  I'm also not shy about showing off my scar to anyone who's rude enough to say I got off easy. 

Excitedtostart

staycee:

Excitedtostart:

women who will have elective c-sections, early c-sections, so that they can get back in shape quicker, so it won't hurt,

back in shape quicker?  who thinks that?   It's surgery, you can't really do much for weeks and weeks after.   And yeah, it doesn't hurt at the moment, but the incision hurts to cough or laugh or sneeze for weeks after

 

Oy. Don't get me started. I had a woman tell me there was no way she was going through labor because she didn't want to look "nasty".  I was bringing her and her sister up to L&D from the ER. Except it wasn't her sister, it was the Nanny. So the Nanny could be there in the hospital with them to take care of the baby.  

staycee

Kissimi21:

  or say that I was lucky to have a CS because I didn't have to go through labor and delivery.   

if someone said that to me, OMG I'd be shooting daggers out of my eyes while telling them about my 31 hours of labor.  Grrrrrr 

 

Elaine&Matt

Well, first born was delivered via emergency c-section, I didn't really have a choice with him. And with Button, I didn't like the possible risks involved with a VBAC.  I was high-risk enough.  So I had a c-section with him.  It was nobody's business but mine, my husband and my doctor.  I really don't care what other people think.  Both boys are healthy and I'm healthy. That's all that matters.

DH's nephew tried to start something on FB after Button was born about the baby being ripped from my womb.  DH had to set him straight!