This comment takes the proverbial cake

anna7602

I'm in Miami this week, visiting my parents and dozens of far-flung relatives and family friends who want some quality time with DD. We just visited one particularly sweet old woman who is 84 and saw me and my siblings grow up. She has pictures up in her house of DD, etc., to give you an idea of the relationship we have with her. Anyway, we're chit-chatting and she pats my knee and says, "so what has the doctor said about more children?" I look at her kind of blankly and she explains, "is there a medical reason you're not having more?" Ah, tact, how I miss you!

KelliLynee

Oh man! That does take the cake. So, what in the world do you say back to a sweet old lady?

webMistress0609

My jaw just dropped. Holy crap, the nerve!!

If it makes you feel any better, the week Ari was born, I had at least 2 or 3 ILs ask when we were going to start working on #2, & suggest that we should really do that by the time Ari was a year old.  

Meg&Jesse

Yeah some people just don't get it and some people just don't understand why you would space your kids on purpose for one reason or another. 

Kersbear

Wow, that was pretty blunt and out there for her.  Before I got pregnant and had Casey I used to get comments all the time about having more, but never that direct.

shaindelr

Meg&Jesse:

Yeah some people just don't get it and some people just don't understand why you would space your kids on purpose for one reason or another. 

Or why you might have only one... I've started point blank asking people if they're financing the "next one" if they say something like that.

Harper'smom

Yikes! Is she tactless or just a ballsey old lady? I try to dodge a certain checker at the grocery store who loudly questions when Harper will get a brother while a line of people behind us stare waiting for an answer.

rainlily

Wow.  I don't think I would ever comment on someone's reproductive decisions.  I used to get it all the time before getting pregnant with DD#2 (and #1 since we waited "so long").  It is none of anyone's business.  Some of the same people that would ask when DD#1 would get a sibling made comments about how "they guess I had to hurry due to my age". 

radak

rainlily:

Wow.  I don't think I would ever comment on someone's reproductive decisions.  I used to get it all the time before getting pregnant with DD#2 (and #1 since we waited "so long").  It is none of anyone's business.  Some of the same people that would ask when DD#1 would get a sibling made comments about how "they guess I had to hurry due to my age". 

Yup, this. 

glasgow_girl

shaindelr:

Meg&Jesse:

Yeah some people just don't get it and some people just don't understand why you would space your kids on purpose for one reason or another. 

Or why you might have only one... I've started point blank asking people if they're financing the "next one" if they say something like that.

I think I'm going to use something like this and tell people we're waiting for a backer, would they care to contribute?

catdwg83

rainlily:

Wow.  I don't think I would ever comment on someone's reproductive decisions.  I used to get it all the time before getting pregnant with DD#2 (and #1 since we waited "so long").  It is none of anyone's business.  Some of the same people that would ask when DD#1 would get a sibling made comments about how "they guess I had to hurry due to my age". 

 WTF?? I'd be pissed