If DC's sex was a delivery surprise for you...

CubbyMama

...did you have a feeling or preference regarding the baby's sex? 

And, if your feeling was wrong or your preference didn't come true, do you think it was harder to get used to it at delivery than it would have been at the big u/s?

We're pretty sure we don't want to know the sex this time, and that we don't really have a preference one way or the other.  I'm just a little worried that since both of us feel like it's another girl, it might be harder to adjust if it's actually a boy and we've spent months picturing a sister for DD. 

I'm going to try not to get too attached to my prediction (which was SO wrong with DD, anyway), but wanted to hear your stories to help me decide for sure.  My big u/s is the day before Thanksgiving, so we have a lot of time to ponder the decision!

MrsStubbs

I so wish I could go back and give 4mo to get used to the fact that she was a girl.  He so so wanted a boy and was a little disapointed when she was a girl. A couple of hours later everything was wonderful.

I want another little girl so bad I can't stand it. DH still wants a boy.

GL, Alot of time? Thanksgiving is going to be here before you know it.

Temp86398625009737

I thought it was a boy, since EVERYONE including L&D when I checked in toldme I was having a boy due to the way I was carrying.  So in my mind, it was a boy!  She was a girl...I was estatic though, since I really wanted a girl

shouldbeworkin

I thought for sure that DD was another boy.  My PGs were SO similar.  Both DH and I were completely shocked and thrilled when we found out we had a DD.  It was one of the most amazing experiences in our lives.

~Kat~

I absolutely knew that DS was a boy. We had his name picked out for 5 years before he was even born and we were unsure of a girl name the whole time, so it was really good that we had a boy! I think my "boy feelings" were stronger toward the end, up until about 30 weeks I could have gone either way. We are going to find out the sex next time just because we didn't find out last time. There are pros and cons to both ways of doing it.

VivaAmore

We tried to find out at the U/S and the tech couldn't even guess for us. My gut told me it was a girl and I ended up being right, but during the last 20 weeks I kept reminding myself that I could be wrong and tried not get too attached to one or the other.

I know some people like being surprised, but I hate it. I would much rather know and have the extra time to mentally bond with my "son" or "daughter". This is just the way my mind works.

cooker71

I'm probably in the minority, and I know it doesn't mean much, but I had this weird gut feeling all along last time that Nora was a girl. I don't think we would have been disappointed had it been a boy in the delivery room, as much as totally surprised!

I have that feeling again this time (girl), but we're finding out the sex so I'll lt you know if my predictions were right again.

mamarazzi

I'm really glad we found out at the big u/s.  We'd planned on being surprised, but I had started to really convince myself we were having a girl and I was afraid if I spent my entire pregnancy thinking we were having a DD and then ended up with another DS that I'd be devastated at the birth.  We're having another boy and I was briefly disappointed but I've totally grown to love the idea of two little boys and am so excited for L to have a little brother.  I was a hot hormonal mess postpartum last time and I just didn't think that adding disappointment to my already unstable emotional state would be a good idea.

We do plan on #3 being a surprise, though.  I really want to experience the "it's a..." moment.

Grantand

I have two, and didn't find out either time.  Both are boys.  With the first, I was pretty sure it was a boy (DH thought girl) but we didn't have a preference so there wasn't the disappointment factor at all.  With my second, I had NO idea - I went back and forth my whole pregnancy.  Kind of wanted a girl, but also thought two boys (27 mos apart) would be sooo fun and cute, so I guess you could say I didn't have a preference that time either.  For me, the delivery eclipsed all thoughts about gender.  That is to say, of course we all just want a healthy baby, duh, but I had spent time thinking about gender the second time around (didn't with the first) only that thought didn't cross my mind at all during labor.  I have to admit, once we got home and I had time to think about it, I was a tiny bit sad that we didn't have a girl.  Not sad that HE wasn't a girl, just sad that we didn't have a girl.  Probably doesn't make sense to you, but to me it is very separated.  It isn't, "I wish CAL were a girl," it's "I wish I had a girl."  Hard to explain the difference.  I heard DH tell the baby one time, "Your momma wished you were a girl," and I cried and told him that wasn't the case - I love Cal just the way he is and wouldn't trade him for anything, but I would love the experience of raising a girl, too. KWIM? 

baby*love

We didn't find out with either pregnancy and I loved not knowing. It is such an amazing moment when the doctor said "It's a girl!" both times. I was all but convinced this baby was a boy so it was such a surprise to hear girl and I was soooo excited for a sister for DD. If we have any other children we definitely won't find out the sex with them either. GL!

butterbeansmama

All along DH said that he wanted a girl. All along I was saying that I think we are having a boy. When Preston was born, my dh anounced that he was a boy with tears in his eyes (tears of joy). He now says that he can't believe he ever wanted a girl, now that we have DS. With our next one, we will not be finding out as well. I like the surprise (all the way to the end) and it really doesn't matter either way, what gender the baby would be.

cokt

We waited with DS and I am so glad we did. Everyone thought we were having a boy including complete strangers. I had hardly anyone guess I would have a girl. I still loved the speculation though. And MH was the one who announced It's a Boy! in the delivery room-it was awesome. I would have much rather heard it that way than have a random ultra sound tech tell me at 20 weeks. We would have honestly been 100% happy with boy or girl though.  If we really wanted one or the other it might have been harder to wait.

leiann2003

I didn't find out with ds #1 and didn't really have a preference. We found out with ds #2 and I'm glad we did because, I'm not going to lie, I was slightly dissappointed that is was another boy and there is no way that I would have wanted to feel that was when I delivered. No flames please, I love my two boys and was only slightly letdown that #2 wasn't a girl. I got over it pretty fast.

Heather&Dave

I spent my whole PG preparing myself for a boy.  All along I had wanted a little girl.  It was such a thrilling moment in the delivery room when doctor announced, "It's a girl!"  I started bawling and couldn't stop.  DH kept saying, she's fine, she's fine.  I wasn't crying b/c I was worried about her; I was overjoyed.

tanzer13

I thought for sure I was having a girl! ?I was so out of it once DS was born that I remember looking at my mom saying "I'm so sorry I thought for sure it was a girl!" ?LOL ?My mom was like, but he is a beautiful boy! ?And my DH was SOOO excited and proud! ?Seriously one of the BEST moments of my life EVER was seeing DHs reaction to it being a boy! ?It is forever implanted in my mind! ?But after my?initial?reaction, which I don't really count since I was so out of it after 12 hours of labor and 2 hours of pushing, I was?absolutely?fine with DS being a boy! ?There was no adjusting or anything on my part. I loved him?immediately!

Oh and FWIW when we get pg in the future they will all be surprise births as well.?

tanzer13

Oh and personally I would think it would be easier to be?disappointed?at the Big U/S since that is all you are concentrating on you know? ?You don't have anything else to keep you busy or to think about other than the 'is it really a boy or girl' thoughts, you know?? ?Where at the birth there are so many other things going on that if just kinda happens and the baby is there and you don't need the time to 'adjust, you just do it because you have to, does that make any sense?? ?

Sunflower777

I was very glad we found out at the u/s with DC no. 2. I hadn't realized quite how much I wanted a girl until we found out we were having a boy. It took me 2 days to get used to the idea. Now, however, I can't wait to meet my second little guy. I don't know if I would've had the same disappointed feelings at his birth or not, but I do feel better having had time to adjust to the idea before we meet him. And I know exactly what PP Grantand means when she says the disappointment was not about DS, but about never getting to experience a little girl. Two totally separate things, I agree!

?Anyway, I'd say after reading all these responses, you probably know what you feel in your gut about when to find out. Good luck!??

WBs_Bride

We were surprised with both kids--both girls. The first time, I was convinced it was a boy because of old wives' tales, and everyone telling me it was a boy. Plus, (flameworthy confession) I actually really wanted a girl so I was trying to "psyche" myself up for having a boy. I was so shocked and happy when they said it was a girl--it was literally the best moment of my life. But, if it had been a boy, I know I would have been just as excited--less "surprised"--if that makes sense--but excited nonetheless. With DD#2, I had a feeling it was a girl all along. I didn't have any real leanings--was happy with girl or boy--but was also thrilled it was another girl. DH and I just loved being surprised each time. Regardless of boy or girl, knowing in advance or not, once you have that little bundle in your arms, you will be overjoyed. Good luck with deciding, but I can't imagine being disappointed in any scenario!