Thank You card question

June2007

Do you send them to people who never send them to you?

I am getting sick of spending extra time/money on sending TY cards to people who don't seem to appreciate them, KWIM? They obviously don't feel they're important to do so it seems pointless and wasteful to bother with the extra effort to send them to some people... (I say as I'm finishing the last of DD#1's Thank You cards) And I'm not talking about a one time event, I'm talking friends and family members who I have attended several events (birthday parties, baby/bridal showers etc) for over the years and I have never received a thank you for. I realize that it's not a mandatory thing and I'm not at all upset that these people dont participate in this etiquette (?) but I do feel kind of like, do I have to send them one?

ETA: wowza run on sentence! Sorry but I'm too brain fried to fix it and I just wanted to acknowledge that I recognize it...lol

eesome

I still do. I was raised to always use my manners, so no matter how someone else treats me, I still make sure I am extra kind.

However-- I do agree with you. The same with Christmas cards. It annoys me when I send one to someone and never get one from them.  

June2007

hijoi:

I do and here's the honest to God reason why: because I am better than they are.  Flame away, but it's how I feel.  In fact, I even thought this as I wrote them out for Nathaniel's birthday party on Sunday.

HAHA! No flames here!

I totally feel like its a waste of effort but I can't stand the thought of not doing it!

susanmosley

hojoi - that is awesome. I think I agree.  

I send TY notes to non senders almost to show them repeatedly what they should be doing - just a wee bit of passive agression on my part.

I have to say though, I don't get the xmas card thing mentioned by pp - I think christmas cards are totally optional - I never expect one just b/c I decide to send one to someone.  And I certainly don't reciprocate to everyone who sends me one - if that is annoying, take me off your list - don't get annoyed uarent on mine, kwim?

LauranBilly

When someone gives me something or my LO someting at an event i ALWAYS send back a thank you. Thats just how i was raised and i HATE IT when biotches dont send them back.. Its lazy, cheap and down right rude not to. I know how you feel with it being and expense aspect. If it is someone that you know could careless if they got one or not id skip em..