re: vanverth's post

stever

I read an article the other day, sorry I can't cite it, saying that more Americans would prefer boys than girls.

I thought that was lame but the comments were entertaining. One in particular stated, "boys will break your stuff, girls will break your heart."

 True? Thoughts?

robynlesley

I don't know... I had a feeling that I'd only have a son (as I pretty much always knew I'd only have one) so WANTING a specific sex never really crossed my mind.

But if things were different in my life, I'd want a girl for a 2nd. I wouldn't want another boy (but would love one). 

stever

robynlesley:

I don't know... I had a feeling that I'd only have a son (as I pretty much always knew I'd only have one) so WANTING a specific sex never really crossed my mind.

But if things were different in my life, I'd want a girl for a 2nd. I wouldn't want another boy (but would love one). 

I hear ya! If we have another I'd be terrified of a boy who's as, um, destructive as  my M. He's the sweetest, happiest boy ever but he's allllll boy.

That said the idea of a girl teenager scares the bejeezus out of me. 

Strunella

Boys will break your stuff....girls will steal your clothes?

But seriously, I've always wanted a boy.  And I'd be totally happy if a possible #2 were a boy too.  Even though I've always been a girly girl, I feel like I relate better to the laid back attitude and interests of boys.  

Peppernut

I'm happy with our multi-girl setup.  We even have girl cats.  I do admit the the thought of the teen years fills me with terror!

If we manage to have a third, I kind of hope we get a boy, just for the change. 

indianasunshine

I always wanted a girl because I felt like I knew what to do with one.  My mom is an only child and so am I, so my boy exposure was limited.  We called Miller Lorelei until our amnio confirmed that he was a boy.  DH was in complete shock when the tech showed him the boy parts.  I was crazy excited about it!  We went to BRU afterward to change our registry from neutrals to more boy-specific things, and I was running around with a silly grin on my face yelling, "It's a boy!"  DH remained in shock for awhile.

I can only explain my crazy excitement as my love for a challenge!  And I wouldn't trade him for anything now. 

ateytelb

I have had a teenage girl who is 21 y.o. now. Yes, it was a tough relationship and still is. Only now starting to get better very slowly.  I think 90% of the outcome is controlled by genetics though. When she was younger she was very easy-going, and I was not prepared for what was coming. Once she hit puberty, she turned into ... well.. my ex H  - they do have similar personalities. Having said that, she is my daughter and I love her very much. I am not sure what my LO's will turn out to be, but definitely not my ex since they have a different father

EastCoastBride

stever:

That said the idea of a girl teenager scares the bejeezus out of me. 

This, along w/ all the stuff that is marketed to little girls.  The Bratz dolls, overly sexy clothing, etc.  This all makes me scared to have a girl!

Similar to Robyn - I had a dream, a very, very VIVID dream, years ago where I had 2 boys.  It was so vivid, I woke up saying "I'm only going to have boys".

So, I never really entertained the idea of having a girl.    And now that we're one and done - thats even more cemented now.

mama.bear

" the idea of a girl teenager scares the bejeezus out of me"

As it should! LOL

A mother-daughter relationship is a very complex one.  

littlei3776

I wanted a boy first....I have 2 older brothers and LOVE it.  If I have a girl I wanted her to have an older brother.  I knew the chances of having a girl is slim in my family. My parents have 12 grandchildren and only 3 are girls.

My friend also made a funny statement about being a mother of boys "At least with a boy you only have to worry about one pee-pee with girls you have to worry about many"  :-P 

Pesky

we'll see.  So far I love having a girl and DH has said if we ever had an "oops" he would hope for another girl.  I love having DS but totally different dynamic.

gimmietimmies

I was always good either way. But we were really hoping for a boy with S, but not upset at all she wasn't (nor were we having her just to try for a boy either). I'm just freaked by teenagers in general, they're horrible! L went from a happy sunny kid to a surly growly moody teen in less than a month.

And if anyone thinks girls aren't destructive, they haven't had K near them. Her girly girl appearance is an act to fool the weak hearted. DH and I decided she's either going to be a stunt woman or a demolitions expert. She's tough. She was playing tag with a group of kids and she took down a 13 year old, and he was crying uncle (L's friend was warned...he too was fooled).

Steph_NJ

I didn't have a preference when I was pregnant with LO, but I was floored that I was having a girl. I was just so sure that it was a boy!!

After it sunk in, I was pretty worried about it. I have had some rough patches in my relationship with my mom and have only a brother, so I didn't have any good examples of relationships between women in my family. And the teenage years with a girl are rough.

After having had people actually ask me if DH was disappointed it was a girl or reading about how girls aren't valued in some cultures, it broke my heart. I got really protective and just wanted to do the best I could for her.

Now I love having a daughter and hope for another -- it would be great for her to have a sister to bond with. Friends of mine that have sisters really have something special.

Also, as my aunt pointed out, girls/women keep the traditions going in families. May not always be true, but my mom, aunts, and girl cousins have always baked my great-grandmother's cookie recipe together at Christmas time. DD joined us for the first time last year and I got teary seeing my mom help her to decorate the cookies...

stever

littlei3776:

I wanted a boy first....I have 2 older brothers and LOVE it.  If I have a girl I wanted her to have an older brother.  I knew the chances of having a girl is slim in my family. My parents have 12 grandchildren and only 3 are girls.

My friend also made a funny statement about being a mother of boys "At least with a boy you only have to worry about one pee-pee with girls you have to worry about many"  :-P 

Hahahaha... Love it!

stever

gimmietimmies:

I was always good either way. But we were really hoping for a boy with S, but not upset at all she wasn't (nor were we having her just to try for a boy either). I'm just freaked by teenagers in general, they're horrible! L went from a happy sunny kid to a surly growly moody teen in less than a month.

And if anyone thinks girls aren't destructive, they haven't had K near them. Her girly girl appearance is an act to fool the weak hearted. DH and I decided she's either going to be a stunt woman or a demolitions expert. She's tough. She was playing tag with a group of kids and she took down a 13 year old, and he was crying uncle (L's friend was warned...he too was fooled).

My kind of girl!

SFAug07

I thought for sure Sarah was a boy. Having seen her compared to the boys her age, I am so happy to have a girl (and to be having another one). She is just much more relaxed and layed back than the boys. When we found out we'd have another girl, I was very excited. I grew up with a sister and it was great. I just think same sex kids can relate better to each other and one big driver for having another child was to give Sarah a sibling to grow up with.

Puckchick07

I heard about that study and wasn't surprised at the results. Although, I was very happy to have a little girl. I admit, I have a slight preference for the next one to be a girl too, but I think more because I'm not around boys...and seeing how loud and rough (4-9 years old) my neighbors boys can get scares me.