When did you have your shower?

TMW428

I feel like it is some breach of shower etiquette to have one too early, however with multiples, I'm wondering if there is a little more leeway since you look like you are further along than you are, and people like to see a big belly at showers.  My due date is 11/24, but I will deliver by 11/10.  So, in reality I may go any time between mid-October and mid-November.  I feel like that rules out October and September is tough with Labor Day and other family events planned.  Would end of August be considered tacky?  I would be 27 wks, 2 days.  Would love to hear when others had their showers and any advice, if it's better to do it sooner rather than later.  Thanks!

ksiana

I'm not doing mine till after the girls are born. That's what we did with my son as well. It was a blast. But we also did it that way because I had some of my ILs coming up and they wanted to be a part of the shower. They'll be coming up this time too. I think with having multiples... earlier is better due to PTL and possible bedrest. Don't worry about being tacky... people that think that can kiss off.

klr210

doing mine at about 30. I'm doing everything earlier this time around though. Im 27 weeks now and look plenty pregnant for anyone needing to see me large and round. I've been preparing for the babies for weeks now. I felt like I wanted to start when I had the energy to do the large projects and have everything done by 30 weeks just in case. My biggest concern is energy to get things done since I get more and more tired each week. So, actually I would prefer to be having it sooner than 30 weeks but forgot to get back to my mom regarding scheduling so it was the earliest poosbile time.

sescms2004

I had my shower at 27 weeks and I am SO glad it was not later.  I had already been on bedrest for 6 weeks, so I was weak.  It took every ounce of energy I had, and I was exhausted after it was over, having lots of BH contractions, shakey (didn't get to eat enough), etc.  And, that was even with sitting for most of it.  It takes a lot out of you just to make conversation for several hours with lots of people, smiling, laughing, etc.  And, I had a belly (but not huge) by then.  Also, having it early will give you more time to see what you will need to go out and purchase on your own, give you more time to get things washed, prepped, put away.  You never know how early your LO's will get here, so I definitely say sooner rather than later for a shower.  Everyone will understand, believe me.....twins is a totally different ballgame!

mrsg052904

I will be 26 weeks at my shower.  I am already uncomfortable when I sit for long stretches so I can't imagine having a shower way beyond 26-28 weeks.  I wouldn't worry about whether or not people think it's tacky.  People will always have their opinions... Good luck!

April320

I don't think there's anything tacky with doing it a bit early with multiples - people should understand that you'll likely deliver early and it's hard to do stuff like set up the nursery, etc. at the end since you're so uncomfortable. And by 27 weeks, you'll look plenty pregnant that no one should question you having a shower - at that point, I was measuring almost full term  

My shower was scheduled for 23 weeks, since I didn't want to travel too late and it was in Ohio where my family lives.  But then I was put on bedrest at 20 weeks, so we had to postpone it after invites went out and everything.  We finally had it two weekends ago, when we brought the babies to visit my mom.  It was lots of fun, and everyone loved getting to see the babies. 

 

jamie217

Mine was at 30 wks, my Mom planned it and it was suppose to be a surprise, I was worried since it was so late, but I had a pretty easy pregnancy for twins and it ended up being fine.

HisGirlCridey

I had my first one at 24 weeks because it involved traveling nine hours away to my ILs. My last shower was at 31 weeks.

TMW428

Thank you for all the responses, and some things I didn't even think about, like needing the energy to wash and put things away, finish the nursery and still shop for other things we'll need.  These are our first children, and twins at that, so it's completely uncharted territory!

jboricua

we are having a ''sprinkle'' in 2 weeks, the babies will be a month old by then,

reason why we didnt have a shower sooner was because SIL was having one and wanted us to have it together, which I refused to,

 

monkski

i had one at 26 weeks and one at 28 weeks. I was so happy they were early because I still had a lot of shopping to do afterwards still and if I would've waited much longer, I wouldn't have been able to do it. I looked like I was huge anyways and I don't think anyone gave the timing a second thought.

caitdana

I was 27 weeks when I had my first shower. Thank goodness I did because less than a week later I had the girls!

natb22

I had mine at 28w and glad I did.. a few weeks after that I was sooo uncomfortable. And I was pretty big  by 28w.

s270453

I dont think thats to early at all!  My shower was at 30 weeks and I got put on bedrest at 28 weeks, so they had to move my shower to my house so I could stay on the couch.  Not fun!  I also couldnt go through things and put them away as easily.  I had a very easy pregnancy till I got put on bedrest out of nowhere, so I didnt see it coming! Ended up having my boys at 34 weeks, so good thing it was at least SOMEWHAT early! 

addison1060

I had my shower at 29 weeks and was already on modified bedrest at that time. Basically I had to sit in a chair and couldn't get up and socialize with my guests. They had to come to me. Every time I tried to get up from the chair someone was yelling at me to sit back down. It was not ideal.

I definitely do not think 27 weeks is too early. Go for it! 

kmb585

Had mine (well a "Sprinkle" b/c these are not my 1st children) last weekend (~28 weeks) and I am sooooo glad I did not wait any longer.  I feel like I am really slowing down these days and as PP mentioned there are things that need to get washed, put away and bought after shower so having it earlier is better to allow time for these things to get done.

In fact yesterday I went to BRU get some things we needed with some GC's from the shower/ aka sprinkle and ran into a friend of mine who is 36+ weeks w/ a singleton. She was just zipping around the store picking things up, while I waddled around and had to ask customer service to get some stuff for me b/c I did not want to walk back across the store.  Pregnancy with multiples is just a whole different ball game