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Newbie, totally confused---and looking for a shoulder :(
Hi! I have been lurking around the boards for a week or so and read some of the amazing stories you have all posted. I have also found comfort seeing that some of you have the same feelings and questions as I do....I will say....the abbreviations for everything are a little confusing, but I am picking them up slowly 
My hubby and I have been married for three years TODAY! We have been "actively TTC " for right at a year now. Three weeks ago, I went to a new OBGYN, (was seeing a midwife before) and filled her in on my (and my family's) extensive medical history regarding reproduction. I have always had heavy, long periods that were completely irregular and totally painful. I have had endoscopy done to evaluate my reproductive organs and all they could tell me was that I had cysts, but everything else was normal.
I have been keeping track of my days and taking ovulation tests for the last year, never getting a positive ovulation. When I told my midwife, she said we still had to try for a year before they would test further. Enter new OBGYN....the most wonderful woman EVER! I could not be happier with her bedside manner...and she takes the time to listen and answer all of my (MANY) questions! She informed me that my uterus is tilted (never heard that before!) and that due to my mothers thyroid issues and my trouble conceiving, they wanted to do blood tests. She did the "Day 21" test and thyroid tests....big surprise---"You have extremely low progesterone levels and are most likely not ovulating." Now I will schedule a HSG (Hysteosalpingography) and SA for my hubby.....
Needless to say, we were both devastated....we knew something was wrong---but now that a medical professional has confirmed it----and on our anniversary 
-----it's more real to us.
I know we haven't been "at it" very long---but it's still hard---and I still have so many questions....
I also keep thinking it's our own fault, which I know is crazy---but.... when I was 17 (and yes, having sex with the boy (18) that is now the MAN I married three years ago) we got pregnant. We made the life changing decision to end the pregnancy. I have had regrets every day. December 15, 2011, my child would have turned 8. I was young, uneducated, and completely oblivious that life would go on past prom, parties and drama....so now I wonder every day....was it our only chance???
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Re: Newbie, totally confused---and looking for a shoulder :(
Welcome, and I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this. And please know that lots of ladies that have had reproductive issues in the past and have gotten pregnant. It sounds like your new doctor is going to do everything she can for you guys!
As for what happened when you were young, you made the right choice for you at that time. You shouldn't beat yourself up about it, as hard as that may be. You were brave to make that choice!
I wish you all the luck in the world! I hope you can have a happy anniversary in spite of your doctors appt!
I'm a little confused because as far as I know when you do a progesterone test you're suppose to do it 7 DPO......so if you don't ovulate then how can they do that test?
First- congratulations on your anniversary! We celebrated three years yesterday
Second- welcome to the board. This group of women is incredibly witty, entertaining and EDUCATED beyond belief. We all learn from each other on here, and as long as you can take with a sense of humor, you'll do great. This is my second go-round on TTGP and I love it even more this time around!
Third- I'm so sorry you feel this way. I do not know what it is like to overcome all of your medical obstacles you are now facing, nor do I know what it must have been like to make that kind of decision as such a young woman. I'm sure most of us would feel the same way you do. All I can say is please use us as one of your support systems, and know that your choice was yours alone and you made it for a reason. Take your doctor's advice, question when something doesn't seem right, and take care of yourself.
Good Luck and again, welcome!
ETA: spelling. Woops!
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
Oh hon... (((hugs))) to you. Sorry you are having a rough time... as for your first pregnancy, don't be too hard on your past self. That must have been a horrible decision to have to make and you obviously didn't take it lightly.
I don't think it was your only chance! If anything, it's a good sign that you were able to get pregnant once -- a lot of us on here have never been pregnant, so in some ways we know less than you do.
Keep your chin up and work with your doctor -- it sounds like your OB/GYN is pretty sharp but you might consider an RE. Start charting, that will give you some clues as to your hormonal changes, and will confirm whether or not you're ovulating. It's very empowering; pick up a copy of TCOYF and you'll learn a lot about your body, it will help you understand what the doctors are saying, and enable you to stick up for yourself or provide input if needed.
Again, (((hugs))) and sorry you're having a tough time.
Severe MFI. Me: supposedly all clear but eggs showed vacuoles.
IVF #1 January 2012, ER Jan 14th: 34R, 27M, 23F. Day 3: 18 embies still strong. Day 5: zero "good," one "fair," the rest "poor." Transferred 3. None made it to blast or to freeze. Jan 28: BFN.
Lucky IVF #2: Transferred two beautiful day three embies on St. Patrick's Day. BFP on HPT 7dp3dt. Beta 1 (14dpER)=106; Beta 2 (16dpER)=140; Beta 3 (19dpER)=264! First u/s 4.17.
Hope is the thing with feathers - that perches in the soul - and sings the tune without the words - and never stops - at all - (Emily Dickinson)
Welcome to the board!
The wonderful thing about having the choices we have available today is getting to decide what is right for our own selves. Do not think that this is your fault, or your punishment for any decision you made in your past. I can tell you from my own experience that it is not. Who you are today is partially shaped because of decisions you made in your past. How you view things, handle things etc. You can never change your past but I do know it is very hard to not let it creep into your mind and think "what if". That my friend will drive you crazy.
From what it sounds like, your issues may be correctable and nothing so far should lead you to believe you don't have any other chances.
Best of luck ? and don?t let those awful thoughts creep into your head!
I caught this, too. OP, I would recommend charting a few cycles to find out if you are in fact ovulating. Doing the "CD21" test at the wrong point in your cycle will provide very misleading results. CD21, for a textbook cycle, would be 7DPO, which is when the test should be done. If you're not textbook, you might as well be taking the test on CD3. KWIM? At the very least, I would as for a referral to an RE to get some monitoring going to ovulation, in addition to charting, before you go treating something you can't be 100% sure you have going on.
I'm sorry for your troubles - I know it's very difficult. I hope you get some solid answers soon. And also, happy anniversary
P/SAIF Welcome
Invisible Finish Line
3T's Traveling Ovary Blog
7DPO Progesterone: low. CD3 BW: normal, HSG: clear
DX: severe MFI (low all 3) and low T. Undergoing replacement therapy.
Congratulations on the anniversary and welcome to the board.
This is such a great place full of wonderful women who can relate to what you are going through. Try to keep your chin up and realize that you figured out what is wrong and now you can move forward in the right direction.
4th BFP-August 2014- Due May 12, 2015
Welcome & Happy Anniversary!
I'm so sorry to hear of your struggles, but it sounds like you are on the right path with your new Dr.
GL to you!
EDD 07/29/2017
Welcome to the board. Happy Anniversary! It is my third anniversary as well!
I am so sorry to her about all of your struggles. It sounds like you now have a doctor who knows more than the previous. I hope that she creates a plan that works for you!
Lots and lots of luck to you!
Edit: wording.
Welcome!! I think most of us can relate to some or all of these feelings. Sorry for your struggles about the decision you made at an early age. One of the hardest parts of TTC is dealing with the emotions. Between trying to stay optimistic and positive to trying to avoid feeling angry or jealous when others around you are PG, it get's tiresome. Although it is hard to hear what you felt was true all along, at least now you know....and more importantly you have a plan.
Many people kept telling me to wait, and "it would happen in time", blah blah but I wanted answers. So I found a RE that gave me answers waaaay before a year mark. So, once you accept your plan I think you will find peace in it. Not everyday, but most days
GL to you!!
Welcome and bestest of luck your way!!
I have to back up the pp's... don't beat yourself up for 17 y/o you and don't let 25 y/o you beat yourself up either. What's done is done and many, many girls have been in your shoes. Many, many women are still walking in the same shoes as you today. Sounds like you've got a great OB! Take care of yourself!!
I may be wrong (lol---wouldn't surprise me!) on what it's called....she counted 21 days from the start of my last period and had me get blood drawn on that day???? But thanks SO MUCH for the information and compassion
You guys are all so fantastic! It's great to see how caring and helpful someone can be without even knowing you
Ps....I was just reading another recent post---learned what MUD means....and you are all HILARIOUS!
Yeah, that's not going to be helpful for you without confirming you actually ovulated. It's generally referred to as the "7DPO blood work" around here, as that's when it should be done. As I explained, if you have a textbook 28 day cycle with ovulation on CD14, CD21 IS 7DPO. However, with your cycles being long, there's no way it would have been 7DPO for you, making the test useless and inaccurate. It's testing progesterone, which is responsible for sustaining early pregnancy. It's low early in the cycle, and rises after ovulation. If your level was low when blood was taken prior to ovulation, it would have indicated that you're not ovulating, but could be completely normal pre pre-O levels. You'll need to chart your temps (read the newbie link at the top of the board and visit fertilityfriend.com for info) or be monitored via ultrasound with an RE to find out if you are, in fact, ovulating. I'm glad you like your OB, but dealing with your hormones really isn't her job. It's your RE's. Feel free to PM me if you'd like. I actually have low progesterone and can explain further if need be.
P/SAIF Welcome
Invisible Finish Line
3T's Traveling Ovary Blog
7DPO Progesterone: low. CD3 BW: normal, HSG: clear
DX: severe MFI (low all 3) and low T. Undergoing replacement therapy.
I would do what other PP's said and start charting so you can determine if you actually O or not because Doc's assume "all" women ovulate on CD 14....ya right lol I O between CD 17-20 and actually right now this cycle I haven't O'd at all yet and it's CD 28. I wish you luck and welcome to the board!
Welcome to the board! You have definitely come to the right place for support. There are a lot of women on this board experiencing similar reproductive issues. It's so nice to know there are others out there going through what you are, so you are definitely not alone!
On the plus side, it sounds like your new OB is going to be a great fit for you! I wish you the best of luck!
Chemical Pregnancy
Welcome to the boards! I've only been here a month, but I'm loving it.
I'm sorry that you've discovered "issues," but on the upside at least they sound fixable and now, on your 3 year anniversary, you can start trying with all the support and everything that will help you get pregnant as soon as possible!
I hope you can stop blaming your past self for doing what you determined was right for you then, and that your near future includes a BFP!
Together since 5/08 ~ Married 6/19/10 ~ TTC #1 since 8/10
BFP#1 3/26/11 ~ EDD 12/2/11 ~ Ectopic Twins left tube 7w3d
BFP#2 11/2/11 ~ EDD 7/14/12 ~ Robert Edgar born 7/18/12
BFP#3 9/28/13 ~ EDD 5/20/14 ~ Benjamin Clarence born 5/15/14
All of this. It sounds like you could benefit greatly from temping. I was surprised to see that I wasn't even ovulating until CD23 when I started charting/temping! Good luck to you!