Yelling while Pregnant

ninakbo79

Hi, all.  This may seem like a stupid question to some. 

My DH and I throughout this pregnancy have had a recurring argument, which inevitably ends up in me screaming and crying rather than staying calm (blame the pregnancy hormones).  And I seem to get louder and more upset each time this argument occurs b/c of my frustration.  I know the stress is not good for the baby, but what about yelling & screaming....could I have harmed his ability to hear b/c it's so loud for him?  This thought occurred to me last night and now I'm worried.

Thank you all for any input in advance. 

atack

I coach all spring and summer, and have been screaming (well speaking LOUDLY) from March until now.  My doctor has never been concerned.  I know pregnant women that go to concerts, I wouldn't worry! 

melandgreg

I have a 5 1/2 year old that constantly tests ONLY mommy's patience, and my fiance is Greek so everyone around us is always yelling. If anything I think it will help then decipher voices AND prepare them for the real yelling world. Make sure your blood pressure stays ok though

Scout05

ninakbo79:

Hi, all.  This may seem like a stupid question to some. 

My DH and I throughout this pregnancy have had a recurring argument, which inevitably ends up in me screaming and crying rather than staying calm (blame the pregnancy hormones).  And I seem to get louder and more upset each time this argument occurs b/c of my frustration.  I know the stress is not good for the baby, but what about yelling & screaming....could I have harmed his ability to hear b/c it's so loud for him?  This thought occurred to me last night and now I'm worried.

Thank you all for any input in advance. 

No.

But if you and your DH seriously cannot come to a resolution on an issue to the point that you are screaming and crying by the end of the discussions (and no, I won't blame pregnancy hormones. That is a total excuse and not a good one at that) you might need to consider counseling to help you work it out. That's not healthy, pregnant or not.

HappyAardvark

My girlfriend's dh was in a band and she would go see him play while she was pg. She ended up giving birth to a subwoofer. True story.

lucylea

HappyAardvark:

My girlfriend's dh was in a band and she would go see him play while she was pg. She ended up giving birth to a subwoofer. True story.

OMG, this happened to my cousin too!  Be careful OP.  

Seriously, though, instead of worrying about how your yelling could effect your LO's hearing, maybe you should worry about how your arguments will effect your LO once they are here.  You say its a recurring argument, which leads me to believe its an unresolved issue.  Maybe PP is correct and counselling is in order.  The two of you need to be able to discuss issues and resolve them without resorting to yelling and screaming.   

+diana82+

I would be way more concerned about whatever this recurring argument is...

backinpgh

Scout05:

ninakbo79:

Hi, all.  This may seem like a stupid question to some. 

My DH and I throughout this pregnancy have had a recurring argument, which inevitably ends up in me screaming and crying rather than staying calm (blame the pregnancy hormones).  And I seem to get louder and more upset each time this argument occurs b/c of my frustration.  I know the stress is not good for the baby, but what about yelling & screaming....could I have harmed his ability to hear b/c it's so loud for him?  This thought occurred to me last night and now I'm worried.

Thank you all for any input in advance. 

No.

But if you and your DH seriously cannot come to a resolution on an issue to the point that you are screaming and crying by the end of the discussions (and no, I won't blame pregnancy hormones. That is a total excuse and not a good one at that) you might need to consider counseling to help you work it out. That's not healthy, pregnant or not.

This exactly. If you don't nip this in the bud now, these recurring screaming, crying arguments are gonna harm your baby's psyche instead.

mabma80

HAHA!!  No.  Baby is fine.  I have two kids, 3 and almost 5, and I'm constantly yelling at them.  Same thing when I was pregnant with each of them, and they were born just fine.  Besides, all the baby hears are mumbles.

It's good the baby hears yelling, the vacuum, etc. so they get use to the sounds.  That way they wont get startled.   

ninakbo79

Thanks for all the input...yes, I am well aware that it's not good that we are having a recurring argument and counseling has definitely crossed my mind...let's just say that the cause of the argument is something DH does on occasion that did not bother me when I wasn't pregnant.  That's why I thought hormones had a part in it.  But, yes, I do realize the fact that he repeatedly does this is an issue in itself.   

cbm3228

+diana82+:

I would be way more concerned about whatever this recurring argument is...

This!  I would be way more concerned about what you are fighting about than hearing loss in your baby in the womb.  I would not think about couseling but I would RUN there....having a baby isn't going to make things any better.

GL!

dragon_chica

ninakbo79:

Thanks for all the input...yes, I am well aware that it's not good that we are having a recurring argument and counseling has definitely crossed my mind...let's just say that the cause of the argument is something DH does on occasion that did not bother me when I wasn't pregnant.  That's why I thought hormones had a part in it.  But, yes, I do realize the fact that he repeatedly does this is an issue in itself.   

If you think it's bad now it'll get worse later.  Any issue you had before birth, no matter the size of it, will be manifested into something bigger.  DH and I rarely argued before DD.  People always viewed as the perfect match. But once DD arrived it was like a switch went on.  We fought so much these past 21 months (thankfully not in front of DD) more than we've fought in the 5 years we had been together prior to having DD.  So definitely get these issues resolved now rather than later.  Also keep in mind that it's not the volume of your voice you should be concerned but the angry tone that your LO's hearing.  Don't make that something that becomes familiar to him/her.

colorschemer

HappyAardvark:

My girlfriend's dh was in a band and she would go see him play while she was pg. She ended up giving birth to a subwoofer. True story.

 

Jen&Peter

I hope not!!! If that was the case, I would be in serious trouble I have 2 boys, 5 years old and 3 1/2 years old.......enough said! Baby is fine.

dairygirl19

You are fine. I promise.

bananatiff

lrachelle80:

I'd be more worried about what the neighbors thought.

 

Ripli

I would think the emotional stress of arguing and crying would be more detrimental to the baby than the volume of your voice. 

megd06

ninakbo79:

Hi, all.  This may seem like a stupid question to some. 

My DH and I throughout this pregnancy have had a recurring argument, which inevitably ends up in me screaming and crying rather than staying calm (blame the pregnancy hormones).  And I seem to get louder and more upset each time this argument occurs b/c of my frustration.  I know the stress is not good for the baby, but what about yelling & screaming....could I have harmed his ability to hear b/c it's so loud for him?  This thought occurred to me last night and now I'm worried.

Thank you all for any input in advance. 

caffinated_tulip

::whispers::

You must be very very quiet, I'm trying not to damage my fetus's hearing. Think of how close your mouth is to your belly, especially if you're yelling down. And he's INSIDE of you. This is why pregnant women are known for being silent as church mice. Shhhh

mmbaby32

Please! I totally can relate with the pregnancy hormones making me scream and cry!  I was the same way with my first and after baby was born didn't have episodes like that until pregnant again.  I scream and cry too!

finally2006

I must just be a quiet person. I cannot remember the last time I yelled at someone, let alone screamed at them... I think if I started screaming at DH, he would laugh at me.

mybabyboysept

MOMMIE I think you are ok now stress is totally different.. try to stay away from that, at least he will be able to sleep during parties ... lol