I wanted to respond to this from below, and wanted to make sure you saw it.
If I am remembering correctly, your original paperwork was for a child a bit younger than M, right? And you had to redo parts of it to be approved to adopt him?
If that was not you, sorry!
If it is you, I am only asking because we are at the point where we are considering what age(s) we want to adopt. Any insight into what made you change your mind would be appreciated. It helps to hear other people's stories.
Yes, initially, we planned to adopt a child or 2 siblings, between the ages of 2 and 6. We chose those ages because we wanted to adopt an "older child," but were worried about adopting a school-aged child because of the possible additional difficulties he/she would have adjusting. We worried that the older the child was, the more likely they were to have attachment difficulties and the harder the adjustment would be because of language difficulties in school.
When adopting from Peru, you have two choices: you can wait for them to match you to a child, or you can adopt a waiting child. We started out expecting to be matched, but we were also always open to a waiting child. As we became aware of the delays in families receiving matches, we started to realize that a waiting child was most likely going to be our path.
When we found M on the list, it was just after his 7th birthday. Since our range was 2-6, we considered the situation long and hard, but ultimately decided that everything else was a match, and he had just turned 7, so we were okay with the situation. After we decided to go ahead, we were provided with updated medical information that claimed that recent bone aging actually places him at a year and a half older than his birth records...so 8.5! We were already committed to the idea of making M our son, and changed all our paperwork to adopt an 8 year-old.
We were told that all M's paperwork would be changed to reflect his new age of 8 years old, but that never happened. Although his size, teeth, and the bone testing all indicate that he really is older, we are sticking with the younger, original age officially. This sets him at a perfect spot developmentally, and there's no reason to rock his world and place him "artificially" behind his peers. As he grows, a year will be inconsequential anyway, so to the world (and himself), M is now 8. In reality, he's probably closer to 9.5.
Would I do it again? In a heartbeat! Does it entail all the difficulties we were concerned about? In M's case, yes. But from the beginning, we set out to bring home a child that might not otherwise get a chance at a family. With M, we all got exactly what we were looking for, but didn't exactly know (or, in my husband and my case, were a bit nervous about).