Advice!

misstabi84

Hi Ladies, My husband and I are TTC. We have been trying for 2 months, I know this is a short time. I originally said we would try for 4 months and if it didn't happen we would wait 2 years. The reason being I'm a teacher. I currently commute a hour each way to work. Ideally, I would like to teacher closer to home to eliminiate this commute. If we got pregnant within the 4 month window, I could finish out the school year then "hopefully" get hired closer to home. I'm nervous also about interviewing in April/May (if I do get pregnant) 8-9 months pregnant. I feel like this will look like a liability as some women decide to stay home longer. However, the idea of waiting 2 years makes me sad. Now I'm wondering if interviewing in May will be hard to get hired, should I just plan on staying another year or what?

What do you ladies think?

babiesbabiesbabies

I would keep trying. I know a teacher that got hired at 8 months pregnant, but this was before all the teacher hiring crisis is most states. Ultimately it is up to you and your DH, but if I were you, nothing could delay me having a baby if I had all the other things in place (eg. financial security)

LilyPotter218

MH and I put off TTC for 2 years b/c he was finishing law school. We could have done it, but it would not have been great for either of us. I had a few meltdowns along the way wanting to try SO SO badly. I stuck it out and chocked down BCP until he graduated and literally threw them away the last week of his finals.

That being said it is a very personal decision. I would not let the job thing stop me. It would be one thing to not have a job at all, but simply not having the 'perfect' job... I am 31, DH is 28. If we waited for everything to be perfect I have no idea when we would be having kids.

I think the first month off BCP he will still a little wary, but now that we are truly TTC it is very clear that it is the right time. Maybe having doubts about it, is your answer??

misstabi84

I know I will have my job at my current school, and I know things will always work out! My husband says it's up to me on whatever I decide. I just want to make sure we are doing what is right for the baby (when it arrives ).

It was all on whether commuting was worth waiting, I'm saying no

Buona Fortuna

jefa621:

You can't plan your life around a pregnancy that may or may not happen.  You need to do whats best for you in the situation that you are in now.  GL.

 

this exactly.  Smart lady

cldixon

jefa621:

You can't plan your life around a pregnancy that may or may not happen.  You need to do whats best for you in the situation that you are in now.  GL.

this exactly!! 

bellablue2

jefa621:

You can't plan your life around a pregnancy that may or may not happen.  You need to do whats best for you in the situation that you are in now.  GL.

This!

Raggedy1

Welcome to TTC! Because I don't believe that once you start trying you'll be able to stop. LOL.