FFFC

NewMrs07

Although I don't want my child to be a bully and we're working on controlling his biting, hitting, etc., I'm secretly happy that he's the one that asserts himself and not the one being bullied. I'd rather he be a strong-willed child than a whiny, introverted child that cries whenever someone pats him or her on the arm.

There, I've said it. No flames please, remember it's FFFC! 

Peppernut

No flames here from the bullied child's mom!  Margaux isn't a big crier, though, at least not yet.

richelle021

I think I read somewhere that it's good to let them establish their own "pecking order" so to speak, so I'm slow to react when Caleb's older cousin (she's 4) gets bossy with him.

stever

Not sure what to say to that. I was so passive as a child that my teachers used to voice worry about it to my parents. That's no good.

Still, I freaking hate bullies. M's pretty tough but doesn't bully, just how I like it

mtnrider

stever:

Not sure what to say to that. I was so passive as a child that my teachers used to voice worry about it to my parents. That's no good.

Still, I freaking hate bullies. M's pretty tough but doesn't bully, just how I like it

NewMrs07

I think being in day care makes a big difference. The kids that are in DC get pretty aggressive compared to those that aren't. I've def. seen that pattern in the kids I know.

rsrn02

I hope my child is assertive.  DH and I are whimps.

ateytelb

I think it's good that he knows how to stand up for himself!

mtnrider

NewMrs07:

I think being in day care makes a big difference. The kids that are in DC get pretty aggressive compared to those that aren't. I've def. seen that pattern in the kids I know.

Simon is in daycare and bullying is not tolerated there, nor has daycare made him aggressive in the least bit.  I think you need to find a new daycare and you need to start disciplining Adrian since your repeated use of the word "no" obviously isn't working (per your post on the other board) or you will have a real problem on your hands by the time he starts school.

mama.bear

There is a big difference in being assertive and being a bully. 

My youngest is neither. Kids start their pecking orders early. I wouldn't tolerate my kid being someone else's punching bag. 

 

While R is all boy, I really love his tender side. Oh, and I was a introverted child. Now I'm an introverted adult. 

NewMrs07

Hmmm, I'm sensing some flames here...

NewMrs07

mtnrider:

NewMrs07:

I think being in day care makes a big difference. The kids that are in DC get pretty aggressive compared to those that aren't. I've def. seen that pattern in the kids I know.

Simon is in daycare and bullying is not tolerated there, nor has daycare made him aggressive in the least bit.  I think you need to find a new daycare and you need to start disciplining Adrian since your repeated use of the word "no" obviously isn't working (per your post on the other board) or you will have a real problem on your hands by the time he starts school.

I have to disagree. This week the daycare was on break and Adrian was very good. He rarely hit or bit us. So I do think that in daycare they develop more of a survival instinct and tend to defend their toys and their bodies, especially with the 2 yr-old group. I observed A this week and realized he's not being aggressive to be mean, he thinks that hitting is part of play (thanks DH) and he bites out of frustration. I've been putting him in his playpen for timeouts when he gets like that, and I think it's working. Let's see what happens next week when he goes back to DC.

Peppernut

I'm glad to hear he's responding well!  Maybe he'd do better in a smaller daycare, where they can give the kids more individual attention... if you can find one you like?  ANYway, glad to hear he's improving!

NewMrs07

Peppernut:

I'm glad to hear he's responding well!  Maybe he'd do better in a smaller daycare, where they can give the kids more individual attention... if you can find one you like?  ANYway, glad to hear he's improving!

 

Yeah, he used to be in a daycare that had less kids and I think now he's not used to having more kids in the classroom. I think he's a bit overwhelmed with switching daycares and then having more kids that grab his stuff, lol. We're working on his issues but there's only so much you can do with an almost 2 yr old.