Frustrated with DH... (venting)

cutie9621

We are going on a vacation at the end of July. Part of me does not want to get pregnant this month because this would make DH super protective on our vacation and I just want to relax.

This is the first month that I have really relaxed about things and am not really paying attantion to timing or anything else. I want a month off to clear my head.

DH says that because I am doing these two things I am going to get "knocked up" this month. Every time he says it I get a little excited. He is building this up and if it doesn't happen we will both be dissapointed.

I wish he would just drop it and let me take my month off in peace.

blindvictory

cutie9621:

We are going on a vacation at the end of July. Part of me does not want to get pregnant this month because this would make DH super protective on our vacation and I just want to relax.

This is the first month that I have really relaxed about things and am not really paying attantion to timing or anything else. I want a month off to clear my head.

DH says that because I am doing these two things I am going to get "knocked up" this month. Every time he says it I get a little excited. He is building this up and if it doesn't happen we will both be dissapointed.

I wish he would just drop it and let me take my month off in peace.

I'm sorry, but this just really rubbed me the wrong way. I don't care if it'd make my DH super protective, I would never wish to avoid pregnancy for the sake of my own relaxation.

Enjoy your month off... it sounds like you're still pretty actively dwelling on TTGP. I'd say if you're going to relax, go all out.

the struggle and hustle

cutie9621:

We are going on a vacation at the end of July. Part of me does not want to get pregnant this month because this would make DH super protective on our vacation and I just want to relax.

This is the first month that I have really relaxed about things and am not really paying attantion to timing or anything else. I want a month off to clear my head.

DH says that because I am doing these two things I am going to get "knocked up" this month. Every time he says it I get a little excited. He is building this up and if it doesn't happen we will both be dissapointed.

I wish he would just drop it and let me take my month off in peace.

 Maybe get off the TTGP board if you want a month off to clear your head.

BN+JL2010

I am not trying to be snarky, but if you don't want to be pregnant while on vacation why didn't you put off TTC all together until your vacation was over? I mean, I am assuming (by your post) that you are actively TTC, correct? So why start if you have conditions for when you do and don't want to be pregnant. Just saying.

DChunt09

michyme123:

Maybe you are not quite ready to start TTC then? Our family has a trip planned over Christmas (Disney World). I LOVE rides but am still trying...I know it won't be the same since I can't ride much if I get pregnant, but I want a baby so much that I really don't care (even though I would really really miss Splash Mountain..)

This is kind of what I was thinking as well. It seems in life there is always something going on. Everyone is different though, and if you don't take vacations often, I can see where you are coming from. 

I would suggest using protection if you are really trying NOT to conceive this month. Be honest with your Dh about how his remarks are making you feel and then let it go. Have fun on your vacation. 

fyziksgirl

You know, I changed my mind. Going to avoid the drama here and just say:

To the OP, good luck relaxing this month and on vacation!

Hansen2B

I know how you feel. That is how I was before I took off for my vacation last month. The best thing you can do is try and relax and enjoy it. You have no control over the future and what may be. Take time to enjoy the things that you can control. Last month I was in the same position and I finally just went with it and had fun on vacation. I am so glad I did and it was actually the first time I responded to any drugs and ovulated when I got back. So, I think there is much to be said for taking your mind off what your body may or may not be doing and just LET GO Think about the people who don't get a break and/or vacation and be greatful.