Are your kids ever alone with your pediatrician?

MediaBride

Today a DE Pediatrician was found guilty of molesting and videotaping over 80 patients... most of which were toddlers.  One article I read said that most of them were in the 3ish age range and that he liked them b/c they could not communicate well enough to tell (I guess).

The thing I do not understand is how and why was he alone with a 3 year old?  My oldest DS is almost 4-1/2 and he has NEVER been seen alone by any of the docs in the practice that the kids go to.  I can't even imagine why I would ever let him in the room alone?  

So it has me thinking - has your DC ever been seen by his/her pediatrician alone or have you ever left him/her in the room alone with the doc?  If so, is there a reason?  I'm honestly trying to figure this out.  Obviously this is a sick, sick man, but I'm just curious if it's commonplace in other areas to not go back to the room with your children - esp as a toddler??

CleoKitty

Never.

I remember when he was arrested and wondered the exact same thing. 

mollynpatrick

Oh, HELL no!

MelandJeff

Hell to the no.

That would never, ever ever ever happen.

When DD was older, they took her alone (she was 13 or so) and asked her questions about her home life in private, but that is different. And she was old enough to tell me if something happened. And old enough to punch someones throat if they tried anything.

r9stedt

Uh. NO.

jen5-03

No. In fact, they are usually sitting in my lap throughout the exam.

superslug

Nope, I've always been in the room with them and from what I can remember my mom was always with me when I was younger, too.

MediaBride

It's just disgusting - about the colored ice etc:  https://www.reuters.com/article/2011/06/23/us-crime-pediatrician-idUSTRE75M7HP20110623

 Who would leave their 3 year old in a room alone with their doc?????  WHY?????? 

AggieCouple

No. I really don't understand how that sh*t went down either.

shopgirl78

No.  When DD had the flu mist, I was pregnant and she was taken to another room (as not to get me with the live virus) but I could still see her.

 

sooosie

Never.  And that story makes me sick.

belle204

Nope. She's been going to the same one since she was born and love him to death but that would never happen (her being alone).

jamie.renee

Never.  My oldest just turned 9 and between all of our moves etc we have had several pediatricians.

meghans30

My 6 yo has never been alone with any kind of Dr. - EVER! 

MediaBride

Ok, so this is so sick and twisted.   My hubby's cousin lives in DE and just posted on FB that his kids went to this guy years ago and switched b/c they thought somethign was odd about him.  Apparently he had an ice cream maker, movie theather, disney puppets etc and even a few kiddie rides (!??!?!?!) at his practice.  He said that he would take the kids into another room to pick out a "treat".

OMFG.  Makes me sick to my stomach.   

tammy79

No, this is so disturbing. 

CleoKitty

God.

I just read an article that mentioned some of his crimes in greater detail and I feel nauseous. I don't think that his punishment can be severe enough. 

veloelle

Never. In fact, our old pedi told DD at her appointment that he had to examine her privates, and he could because I was in the room and talked a little about why it was ok, with me in agreement. I really like that he didn't just say "because I'm a doctor." and over my dead body would my 3 year old be in a room alone w/ a doc. As a parent, i'd have refused and changed DR. Have any of the parents talked about it?

JenniC1135

No, and this is precisely why my kids also don't go to a pediatric dentist who doesn't allow parents back with their kids.  I know several friends / parents who take their kids to a dental office (more than one practice, but various friends who have chosen dentists with this policy) where the parents don't leave the waiting room.  F that.

Cbidt's girl

What about the nurses and office staff? They had to know. I'm not reading any more... I don't want the nightmares.

MediaBride

JenniC1135:

No, and this is precisely why my kids also don't go to a pediatric dentist who doesn't allow parents back with their kids.  I know several friends / parents who take their kids to a dental office (more than one practice, but various friends who have chosen dentists with this policy) where the parents don't leave the waiting room.  F that.

WHAAAAAAAAT?  Not a chance in HE!L.  

Sxia

Hours after DS was born, he was taken off with nurses to get some mucus cleared out of his throat. The entire time, I was listening to him. The only reason I didn't go with him was because it was 3:00 in the morning.

Other than that, never been alone.

belle204

JenniC, we have a pediatric dentist office here that has that policy. I didn't realize it when I scheduled an appt. for A and my mom told me about it after the visit b/c she took her since I had to work. I switched for that reason. I just couldn't get on board with it.

Zenya

no way.  I thought the same thing when I read it.  And agree on the dentist.  no.effing.way.

It seems that he specifically targeted a low-income area where the kids would be more enamored with the 'treats'.  Rot in hell. 

shouldbworkin

Never.  Due to their lack of ability to communicate, I'm there to speak for them.  Same thing at the dentist or any other health care or personal care professional.

DandRAgain

nope...never.

The pediatrician my mom took us to for a couple of years when we were babies (she switched us because we moved and moved back and his office wasn't near where we lived when we moved back) was arrested when we were teenagers for sexual abuse towards children...luckily he was more into teenage boys, so we were ok, but I can remember my mom thinking for a long time if she had ever left us alone with him..she could not remember it ever happening though.

So I'm also on the "no way, NEVER!" because of that...and I would also never leave my kid with a dentist alone as a non speaking toddler.... Taylor asked this last time if she could go by herself, and I was only ok with it because Audrey had an appt at the same time in the room (no doors on the rooms)  next door...so I sat mostly with Audrey, but popped my head into Tay's room and could hear her entire conversation with her hygenist while in Audrey's room.

JenGK

Nope, never. 

I have a non-verbal almost 4 Y.O., and I go back with him at the dentist.  For him, we get an actual treatment room because of his issues with dentists.  However, all the other kids get their teeth cleaned in an open area that in a way reminds me of a beauty palor.  If he could handle it, I would be OK with him going to that area without me when he was school-aged and could talk.  But not now.

shouldbworkin

JenniC1135:

No, and this is precisely why my kids also don't go to a pediatric dentist who doesn't allow parents back with their kids.  I know several friends / parents who take their kids to a dental office (more than one practice, but various friends who have chosen dentists with this policy) where the parents don't leave the waiting room.  F that.

My ped dentist was like that.  they had a wide open room with all of the treatment chairs in it, so I don't think anything would ever happen.  But, I do think they were a$$holes to kids b/c there parents weren't there to see how they treated them.  I hated going there.

joseysbride

This is awful.  Both of my kids have had hospital stays, C was in there for an entire week, and there was not one minute that either of them were in that room alone.  Either dh or I were by their side 24/7.  When C was born, they had to take him away right away, and I took one look at dh as they were rushing him out and said, "go!"

Jinsy80

Never! 

happy_momma

veloelle:

Never. In fact, our old pedi told DD at her appointment that he had to examine her privates, and he could because I was in the room and talked a little about why it was ok, with me in agreement.

 

This is how my pedi handles it, too. He makes it very clear that it's ok because I'm there, but it wouldn't be ok if I weren't there even though he's a doctor.

JenniC1135

shouldbworkin:

JenniC1135:

No, and this is precisely why my kids also don't go to a pediatric dentist who doesn't allow parents back with their kids.  I know several friends / parents who take their kids to a dental office (more than one practice, but various friends who have chosen dentists with this policy) where the parents don't leave the waiting room.  F that.

My ped dentist was like that.  they had a wide open room with all of the treatment chairs in it, so I don't think anything would ever happen.  But, I do think they were a$$holes to kids b/c there parents weren't there to see how they treated them.  I hated going there.

 See, even in this situation, I'd be worried that some creep might lure them into another room to pick a treat, or get a special tool, or whatever.  I'm not normally paranoid, especially by TB standards, but this jumps out as me as a No Way.

rebs

My kids have never been alone with  their pedi.  I have never been asked to leave the room.  I can't imagine it until they are 12/13 and the doc might want to ask them some private questions.

However my kids do go in on their own to the ped dentist.  It is requested once they are 4 at the office.  I was told this is because the kids generally behave better without the parent there and they can get the exam & cleaning done quicker. I come in when the dentist examines them so I can hear what he has to say.  However they go into a large room with 3 chairs & 3 hygenists.  There is a big one way mirror to the room from the waiting room so I can see and hear what is going on.  And if a kid really wants a parent there they have no problem with that.  My DS went on his own for the first time last month (well, with his sister too!).

AndiG

rebs:

However my kids do go in on their own to the ped dentist.  It is requested once they are 4 at the office.  I was told this is because the kids generally behave better without the parent there and they can get the exam & cleaning done quicker. I come in when the dentist examines them so I can hear what he has to say.  However they go into a large room with 3 chairs & 3 hygenists.  There is a big one way mirror to the room from the waiting room so I can see and hear what is going on.  And if a kid really wants a parent there they have no problem with that.  My DS went on his own for the first time last month (well, with his sister too!).

My DS (and' DD in the fall) go to a ped dentist practice that sounds similar to this set up.  They go in with the hygenist who stays with them into a room with muliple chairs/other kids/hygenists.  Parents are allowed to go back, but they prefer you don't unless there is some issue.  There is also a glass door, so you can see in from receptionist's area (not the whole waiting room). 

I would not leave my kid with a pedi unattended and would find it weird to be asked to since he/she is so young.

DS goes with his speech therapist alone (at public school). 

camrude

No they are not left alone.

I hope he gets what is coming to him in prison...and I mean that in most hateful way possible.

Sick bastard.