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2nd Trimester
If one more person....
Tells me that I am not a "happy pregnant woman" like I should be, I may very well go postal! I am very happy to be pregnant and excited for the day to come when I finally get to meet my LO... HOWEVER, I am tired of everyone asking me a million questions about MY body, if I plan to breast feed, giving me their opinion what I should name MY child, etc. It is annoying!! I actually have started replying to the question "Do you know what you are having?" with "Yep! A baby!" I don't like strangers or people I don't know well (heck even my own family actually) touching my belly.. I have personal space issues and people just touching me is a huge issue for me.. I have 21 weeks left and I am not sure if I can make it would out hurting someone. Am I strange? I know there are women who don't mind the questions, who don't mind the touching, etc. but I find it annoying and rude, honestly! I don't ask people about their bodies why do people feel because I am pregnant they can ask me about mine?
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Re: If one more person....
I don?t know what it is but it seems like when friends, family, co-workers and even complete strangers get around a pregnant woman, a part of their brain goes missing and they feel like they can say or do whatever they want to you ? like it is ?open season? or something lol . Now what your spouse says is a little different because if your husband is anything like mine he likes to tease me like he did when we were dating. He knows all my insecurities and how to make me laugh at them.
I am barely showing? depending on what clothes I am wearing, but one of my co workers who has two children my age seems to think she can say whatever she wants. Every week it is ?WOW you are really popping out there aren?t you?? or finds a way to make a joke how I am just going to get even bigger than I can imagine and that I might gain as much weight as she did (60lbs). And if I gain 60lbs I gain 60lbs? I will get over it as long as my baby is healthy. I know that she does not mean it to be rude (not the type of person she is) I just think it might come out wrong the way she says it ? still don?t like it though lol
The touching has already started! I don?t mind my husband or my mom and dad touching my belly but my SIL who I love dearly makes me feel uncomfortable about it because there really isn?t anything to feel yet lol. I mean I really don?t care if they touch it but I am afraid that there will be so many people all over it later down the road lol.
One of my good friends at work said the best part about my pregnancy so far is my aggressive behavior lol. I am more of a passive person who does not like to make waves and will be kind of a push over just to keep peace. Now I am not rude, but I don?t like to be pushed around anymore and I have no problem vocalizing that now? I guess it is getting me in mama bear mode to protect the LO
Atleast we have one another on here to vent to
Good luck!
This is exactly how I feel. I am so freaking excited to have this baby it's not even funny. But I have an issue with strangers asking me all kinds of personal questions about MY baby and pregnancy. I have never been one to ask a pregnant woman questions about her pregnancy. I feel it's personal and if she wants to share, she will. I was at Maternity Works the other day and the lady working there started asking my questions.
Lady: Is this your first?
Me: Yes
Lady: Are you excited?
Me: Of course, isn't every pregnant woman?
Lady: Well a lot of women say they are nervous.
Me: I'm not nervous at all, this pregnancy was planned and I'm ready.
Lady: Really?
Me: What do you mean, really? Do you not get that a lot? Are most pregnancies accidents?
She didn't have anything to say after that. I also have an issue with personal space and don't even like my MIL touching my belly, it freaks me out. So don't worry, you are not alone. I will continue to give smart ass remarks when someone insists on knowing about my pregnancy even though they've never seen me before in their lives.
BFP #1 3/13/13, MMC 4/17/13, D&C 4/19/13
BFP #2 8/7/13, Beta at 4w6d = 3,796
This is exactly how I feel. I am so freaking excited to have this baby it's not even funny. But I have an issue with strangers asking me all kinds of personal questions about MY baby and pregnancy. I have never been one to ask a pregnant woman questions about her pregnancy. I feel it's personal and if she wants to share, she will. I was at Maternity Works the other day and the lady working there started asking my questions.
Lady: Is this your first?
Me: Yes
Lady: Are you excited?
Me: Of course, isn't every pregnant woman?
Lady: Well a lot of women say they are nervous.
Me: I'm not nervous at all, this pregnancy was planned and I'm ready.
Lady: Really?
Me: What do you mean, really? Do you not get that a lot? Are most pregnancies accidents?
She didn't have anything to say after that. I also have an issue with personal space and don't even like my MIL touching my belly, it freaks me out. So don't worry, you are not alone. I will continue to give smart ass remarks when someone insists on knowing about my pregnancy even though they've never seen me before in their lives.
BFP #1 3/13/13, MMC 4/17/13, D&C 4/19/13
BFP #2 8/7/13, Beta at 4w6d = 3,796
Oh ya!! I'm barely showing but all my friends just rub my belly when they see me, which is only about once a month seeing as we moved to the other side of the state. But holy crap!! Everyone knows I don't like being touched and now that i'm prego they all think it cancels that out and can rub my belly and ask me weird personal questions.
The worst though is I have a friend who went through a very rough pregnancy and broke up with the baby daddy last year and all she can say to me is negative stuff!!! It makes me so made because we have been wanting a baby forever and have been so excited since finding out and she just makes everything about her pregnancy and how miserable she was and am I miserable? Do I cry all the time like she did? etc... I know she had/is having a rough time but she got an adorable sweet little boy out of it and she needs to not make my pregnancy into something horrible like hers was.
All I can say is that as much as I love my friends.. I am kinda happy to live 5/6 hrs away so I can actually enjoy my pg and not be "fondled" by my friends lol, hear horrible pg stories, or be told what I should or should not be doing/eating.
Ugh - obviously, you are NOT the only one! I'm so happy to be having a baby...and I love day dreaming about him and talking to my husband about him. But everyone else annoys the sh*t out of me! Seriously. I'm a really crabby pregnant lady. People at my work are soooo rude (government workers!), no one says thank you when I hold a door open, it's like I'm invincible. So, it's not any better now that I'm hormonal and pregnant.
I can't stand my SIL right now, because she has shown zero interest in my pregnancy (she's my DH's sis and we were good friends before this). She never asks me anything and is obviously very jealous. Then, I have the opposite, where people are too personal and ask too many questions....and the name opinions, and the fact that we're not telling anyone....people look at me like I have three heads! It's all really putting a downer on this pregnancy for me! I hope I can knock myself out of this hormonal cloud and get a better attitude towards people...because I seem to hate a lot of them right now. LOL!!!! But never my Bump ladies!
Surprise BFP# 5 - 9/2/16 - Due 5/13/17
my personal annoyance so far is my hubbys family always saying "HEY MOMMA!" whenever they come over or call.. i know its supposed to be cute, and they are just excited, but it drives me nuts!!! when i wasnt pregnant they never said "HEY DAUGHTER-IN-LAW" whenever they saw me, why this?!?! why now?!?! and come on, EVERYTIME?!?!?! this can drive a person crazy.
and i guess i am just annoyed with the "how are you feeling?" everytime from everyone i see... (its like they have nothing else to talk about, i still enjoy other topics besides babies and the way my body is reacting.) if im not feeling well, you will notice, if im fine, you can tell... trust me.. just give it a few minutes and time will tell you actually how i am feeling today.. this is going to be a LONG next few months...
7lbs 13oz 20 inches long
No you are not!I have some of the same issues too.
If they ask you how much weight have you gained say enough and turn it back on them.
Touch your belly do it to them.
As for a name find the the most obnoxious name and tell them that is what you plan on naming the baby regardless if it is a boy or girl.
Asking about if it was planned tell them of course.
When they ask if you know the sex tell them you are 50% sure it is a girl. It stumps most people.
I totally understand. I don't even like when people ask how I'm feeling because I know they don't want to hear, "I feel like crap." They want a happy answer. Well, there aren't always happy answers to that question! I don't let anyone but DH and my kids touch my belly. If my BFF's around, I would let her, but she lives 300 miles away. My
Edit: posted before i was finished. I tried to stop it, but apparently it didn't work.
I understand ALL of this! I'm 27 weeks along, and definitely showing. In the last 4-5 weeks, strangers have started asking me how far along I am and whether I know the sex. Just a couple of people have touched my belly. I haven't had anyone ask if I plan to breastfeed or how much I've gained, but jeesh! That's definitely TOO FAR!
I did have a strange man in Babies R Us come up to me and recommend a breast pump and a certain brand of freezer bags for the milk. I'm sure he meant well, but it was creepy and weird.
I don't understand why people think a pregnant woman's body and information are for public knowledge and touching!