How many kids? poll

ejs04414

This is our first! We plan to have 3 or 4.

ksiana

We are wanting a big family, but we didn't expect twins for our second pregnancy either. We have a 2 yr old boy right now, then we'll have the girls here soon. But we're gonna wait for a couple-few years before deciding if we want more. Which we probably will. We did have our number set at 3, but that has changed and we're open to having more now.

KBaker421

This is my second child. I honestly would like to have a 3rd but DH gives me a side eye every time i mention it.  It really just depends on our financial situation when the time seems right i guess.  We're already having to crunch some serious numbers for this one.

PurplePanda83

It took us 2.5 years to get pregnant. I would love to have 3 possibly 4 children, but right now I'm just excited to finally have 1. I would definately like at least 2. I am an only child and would really like my daughter to have a sibling one day.

VitaminC

This is it for us.  I'm having a tubal during my repeat section.  If my age, (35 now, amost 36 at delivery) finances and space in our house weren't an issue.  Then I would love to have a third.  But it's just isn't in the cards for us.  I have to say that I would be a little nervous to be outnumbered anyway.  So three would have been great under the right circumstances.  But two will be perfect for us.

Amanda&EricB

This is our first child. We are still discussing how many children we will have in our family. I've always wanted more than one, preferably 2-4. However, due to some issues, most especially my mental health being off meds during pregnancy, we're unsure whether we are going to go forth with more pregnancies. I guess the biggest test will be how I do post-pregnancy, with PPD or whatever.

Also, I was just diagnosed with GD so I'm nervous about potentially having that during subsequent pregnancies.

BabyBLove

Our plan is no more then two, but honestly, we'll see how things go with one, and then we'll be able to make a more accurate decision! We both grew up in a family of two kids, so that's our limit - both financially and emotionally! We want to be able to travel and have extra money for things, so two would be our financial limit.

xtinaxmariex

I want 4, DH wants 2. We may just end up compromising at 3. I always pictured myself with a big family though, so I guess we'll have to see. We've decided to see how it goes with the first one before planning on any more. We at least agree that we want more than one though

Onward

Well.... it took us 4 years just to get this one.  We have kind of said we will play it by ear to see if we want to go for any more.  Plus, we don't want them too close together (would love 3-4 years apart), and with my endo issues, it may just not be feasible in 3 years.

Honestly... I have 5 frosties left over from my IVF.  We may try a FET (frozen transfer) with those in a few years and if none of them "take"... we'll be done.  I'm not going through IF treatments again.  If we get lucky again, great.... but I feel like the chances are a one in a million.

In a perfect world I think we'd have two.  Maybe three.

SpaceGirlSpiff

My H and I have always said 2... I think that's still our goal number.

But... I don't even want to start thinking about a second for at least a few years.  I want this one up and walking, and potty trained would be nice too, first.  And obviously, we want to make sure we're in the position financially/stability wise to take on a family of 4 ..... This one was a surprise, though I'm sure we'll be OK.  But it does make me feel a little stressed once in a while that I wasn't as FULLY prepared as possible first...

But since when does life follow our roadmap.

Life is never set in stone though that's for sure.  We could end up deciding only one is enough for us, or we could decide we want THREE ...who knows what life has in store.  We'll just take it as it comes.

UZ2Bee

This is our third and final.

I was one of three (I had 2 brothers) and honestly never felt like one of us were left out or that we were ganging up on one another.  2 would have been fine but it just felt like something was "missing" from our lives.  DD says it is good we're having another baby so that she and DS don't have to reach so far across the table to hold hands when we say grace for supper!  Now, there will be one more person to fill our circle and it will be a perfect fit.  That about sums it up - one more person will just fit better and is currently missing!

Three is it for us though - I work full time and want my kids to be able to experience lots of extra curricular things so this will be my limit emotionally, physically and financially.

mabma80

We are on our third and last. After this one, we'll have three boys. Was really hoping for a girl, but that's what God thinks we're good at. LOL!

DH and I have talked about, already, that later on we may adopt a little girl (maybe kindergarden age).  We always said three kids and that's what we got.  But if we had a number four, it would depend on what the other three were.  

So, as far as pregnancies, this is my last.  Next thing, if/when we choose to, will be adopting. : ) 

bluejetta

This is our first and we hope to have one more - we'll see how that goes.

JrsGurl1823

 Ive always wanted to have three. DH was for sure this would be our last..but now hes not so sure hes the kind of guy who loves to see me pregnant, and loves babies.. so if our pulls through this winter and we get a little more financially stable you better  believe I will be seducing someone  lol ( ;

bluejetta

This is our first and we hope to have one more - we'll see how that goes. I'm 34 and turn 35 in December so I feel a time crunch of some degree.

smorzandoj

Probably one more after this one. But we will wait to try until we are both 30 so ds2 will be 18 months and ds1 about 3.

MrsM1113

I'd love to have a big family, although I am a little afraid that I'll keep having boys (a la https://testosterhome.net)... come September I'll be outnumbered 3:1.   

In all seriousness though, I really would love to have 5+ kids.  I've always felt like I would have a big family, but if we only end up with these two, I'd be content.  DS#1 will be three and a half when DS#2 is born, and we'll probably wait two to two and a half years before actively trying again. 

bre86ann

Well, I've always wanted a big family. I let him know right from the beginning that I want 4 or 5 kids. DH kept laughing at me and telling me one was enough because financial reasons (typical male thought process). Finally I got him to agree to 2 at least and "we'll see after that".

Well after DD was born he was over the moon, the proudest father of the sweetest little angel. When we took her off the ventilator and we holding her she stayed with us for about another 2 hours and we were just enjoying every minute of it. After she'd passed away I was still holding her and my OB came into the room and I made a comment that I didn't want to put her down, that if somene didn't come take her from me I was going to stay there holding her all night. My OB asked if she could her and of course I let her (duh). She made a comment about how she's a beautiful little girl and she hoped this wasn't the end for us (we'd had a miscarriage the year before). DH spoke up and said "Hell no, we're going to have a huge family!"

So the plan is 5 total (with #2 on the way) unless something drastic happens. We chose this number because I remember when I was growing up and there were just the 3 of us girls 2 of us would go off and play and the other was always left out. My sister Ashley and I were really mean to Melissa. She couldn't climb up to the top bunk of the bunk bed and was terrified of the crocadile on peter pan so the 2 of us would tell her that the croc was after her and the only safe place was the top bunk and we'd climb up there was fast was could yelling "tick tock tick tock". And that's just one mean thing we used to do. We were horrible to her...and it's not even like she was that much younger than us. I wasn't even 3 yet when she was born...ashley had just turned 1.

kcon1225

We haven't decided how many. I think we will have at least 2 maybe 3. It all just depends. We won't have another for at least another 3 years or so. I have an older brother but we are 9 years apart so I was basically an only child and my husband is the youngest of 4. The next one will defiantly be planned though.

Miss Shasta

I would love at least two. I have had a horrible pregnancy though. Between bedrest & hospital stays, and the constant vomiting, I don't know how I would care for a child and be in that shape. DH & I are very open to adoption, so when Aubrey is 1 or 2 we will probably look into that. I'd hate for her to grow up an only child, but I'd also hate to miss out on taking care of her for 9 months while I was pregnant again.

aggielauren

We hope to have 4. I've wanted 4 kids for as long as I can remember and, when DH and I got to the point in our relationship (before we got married) that we discussed kids, he also wanted 4. I was an only child growing up - I have half and step siblings but never lived in the same house as them all the time, so I think I just wanted a big family because I was always kind of lonely. DH has a brother, but he is 6 years older than him so he felt like they didn't really get close until they got older so he wanted kids that could play together. We both like the idea of a big family. 

We feel very strongly about sticking to that plan. In fact, if we happen to have 4 boys, we will likely try to adopt a girl as a 5th child, so we are open to more but not open to less as of now. But, I do have very easy pregnancies and my labor/birth with DS1 was super easy as well.  

kenandlaura06

We're about 90% sure that we will stop at 2 kids. 

BsMom2011

I would love to just have two.  That said though if the next one is a boy, we may try for a girl which will be 3 for us, but no more than that for sure!

gwendarling

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globalwife:

This one is going to be plenty, I think. We weren't planning to have kids so having this one is more than we planned on. I guess we might change our mind one day, but I don't think so.

We were really on the fence about having kids, so I know where you're coming from. We're going to see how this one goes before we decide on another one. Definitely no more than two, though. 

This exactly for us! I know one thing for sure: I'm definitely not planning on another one until this LO is in kindergarten (and no more daycare - I can't afford $1200/month for TWO kids!) 

but... DH actually brought up possibility of trying for another one sooner rather than later... which is so new and unexpected... I mean, only because we never fit that "let's get married and have a family and just SETTLE DOWN!" mold... sorry for the rambling, clearly I'm still sorting all of this out..

 

justrachet

The is our second and last. DH has already had the snip so that he'll be sterile before I'm potentially fertile again.