I need some pep talk...

pria2004

DD is having a hard time adjusting to daycare. This is week 2, and she cries as soon as I take her in there. And there is a lot of separation anxiety and mommy grabbing going on. I try to walk out of there right away but its hard. I can never concentrate on work when I get to the office. Its been awful , just awful. She is fine after a time, and does not cry tears, but is just whiny and complaining. However she enjoys it when the daycare lady takes her outside for a stroll etc. I have been leaving her from 8:30- 11:45 Am. Today I am going to let her go past lunch too. Next week I am going to try all day. But if she continues to cry like this everyday, day after day, its going to be a rough few days, or weeks or even months. Please tell me it will be okie...this Mommy guilt is insanely killing me!!!

PhillySue

Hang in there.   Don't feel guilty.  Katie has been in full time daycare since 6 months.  She absolutely loves it there and some days does not even want to come home but there are still some mornings when she is clingly and cries when I leave.  I notice that she goes through phases.  She will go months at a time and have no care in the world when I leave and then go for weeks crying when I leave.  I know that even if she cries it will only last a few minutes and she will be happily playing soon.  Try not to stress it will get better I promise. 

Mouseygail

Jones adores his daycare lady...but he still has days when he clings and cries...maybe half of the days.  its tough, but he's happy once i'm gone.  Hang in there!!! 

MBandBud

Oh we had this.  I could literally hear her crying down the hallway.  It was heart wrenching.  And to your point working was difficult.  2 weeks into it and while she still whines when I hand her over, the day care providers are awesome about redirecting her.  Literally now I am not even out the door and she is onto something else.

Have you talked with your dcp about a solid plan so that you make handing her over the last thing you do and you know that whoever you hand her to (not sure if she has one provider or a few) will know to redirect her?  This has worked really well for DD.  And the last 2 days no whining even! 

The working moms board is awesome, btw!

Hang in there, it def gets better and I didn't think it ever would!

pria2004

MBandBud:

Oh we had this.  I could literally hear her crying down the hallway.  It was heart wrenching.  And to your point working was difficult.  2 weeks into it and while she still whines when I hand her over, the day care providers are awesome about redirecting her.  Literally now I am not even out the door and she is onto something else.

Have you talked with your dcp about a solid plan so that you make handing her over the last thing you do and you know that whoever you hand her to (not sure if she has one provider or a few) will know to redirect her?  This has worked really well for DD.  And the last 2 days no whining even! 

The working moms board is awesome, btw!

Hang in there, it def gets better and I didn't think it ever would!

 

thanks for the tip. I didnt know there was a board for working moms.