Nesting but not pregnant

sweetpez

Hi, 

I was just wondering if some of you think this is normal or not. I am nesting. I am not pregnant.

I really want a baby, lately last 2 or so months I think about the future baby more then planning our wedding.

I just had a pregnancy 'scare' where I was a week late and I was so disappointed when I found out I was not accidentally pregnant. For a week or so I thought there was other symptoms too, but no.

I should not be like this we are not married yet, I am supposed to work for a year or two so we can save for a house. So how can I stop being clucky?

I have started uncontrollably cleaning and rearranging things so that when he does decide we are ready everything will be ready to go and it will be easier to move the baby stuff in. I even slowly have started baby proofing the house when I buy things I think will this be good for when the baby comes.

I have even started charting my ovulation (even though we use protection always) so that when we do decide (in 2 + years) I will know all the stuff about it and be totally in tune with my body. (like eating only healthy so in this distant future my body will be healthy for the bub and lots more stuff ect:)

There are so many more baby things I should do when I am pregnant but I am starting to do in secret now. 

 What do I do to help me wait??

 

ChicagoLola

I think it's totally natural to start "nesting" when you get married. I know I did! DH and I decided we needed time to enjoy just being married before we started trying for a family. It just made sense for us, and I wouldn't trade that time for anything now. 

So I'd say, talk to your husband about these things, and focus on making your new married life as fun and memorable as possible. You don't know how long the "just the two of you" phase will last, so live it up and enjoy it while you can. I hear everything changes when a baby enters the picture. While I can't wait for the change, I also want to enjoy what I have now.

Babybear70

ChicagoLola:

I think it's totally natural to start "nesting" when you get married. I know I did! DH and I decided we needed time to enjoy just being married before we started trying for a family. It just made sense for us, and I wouldn't trade that time for anything now. 

So I'd say, talk to your husband about these things, and focus on making your new married life as fun and memorable as possible. You don't know how long the "just the two of you" phase will last, so live it up and enjoy it while you can. I hear everything changes when a baby enters the picture. While I can't wait for the change, I also want to enjoy what I have now.

All of this! I couldn't have said it better myself.

SandNSurf

Maybe you could open up a savings account and start putting a little bit away for pregnancy... then when you are both ready and get a BFP, you can go hog wild because yo've got that money.