Pregnant with twins...

Sally-26

Hi there, i am 6 weeks pregnant (1st pregnancy) and at my dr's apopintment a couple of days ago, i was told that i was having twins (ultrasound).

I've had fertility problems for about a year now and my DH and i have been trying and longing for a child for a while.

I feel very overwhelmed at having twins, i dont know how i will be able to cope. Please dont think it selfish of me for feeling this way, i really dont know how to describe this feeling. I know i will love my babies so much, im just worried about being able to cope, pregnancy, labour etc.

Has anyone here had twins before? Or knows of anyone that had twins?
I'm desperate to talk to someone.
Thank you xx

natb22

First, dont feel guilty for feeling like that.. we've all felt like that at some point!! It took me nearly my entire pregnancy to come to terms with the fact that we'd be having twins, just take one thing at a time.

Second..everyone on here has twins or higher order multiples so anytime you have a question or just need to vent, thats what this board is for. It has been a lifesaver for me.

Congrats and GL!

AlishaMay

Congrats and welcome!  You've come to the right place, all of us have twins or more, or are pregnant with them.  This board is an incredible resource, and packed with women who are understanding, wise, and kind. 

DH and I also had some minor fertility issues (compared to what others here have faced).  We actively started TTC on our 1 year anniversary, struggled with a loss, then found out we were pg again on our 2nd anniversary - two weeks later we learned we were having twins.  It was such a complex set of emotions.  On one hand we felt so lucky and blessed, but on the other hand so completely overwhelmed.  There was a post yesterday titled 'Re: "I want twins" posts...'  Check that one out, and I think you'll find that we all start out in your shoes, and what you are feeling is not selfish at all, but totally normal! 

Wishing you a happy and healthy pg - take it one day at a time!

aprilsarahjune

natb22:

First, dont feel guilty for feeling like that.. we've all felt like that at some point!! It took me nearly my entire pregnancy to come to terms with the fact that we'd be having twins, just take one thing at a time.

Second..everyone on here has twins or higher order multiples so anytime you have a question or just need to vent, thats what this board is for. It has been a lifesaver for me.

Congrats and GL!

This! Congrats and welcome.  The blessing of pregnancy is that you get to ease into the idea of having babies, so take a deep breath and you will settle into the idea soon enough.

blondek8

Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy!

I agree with all the PP's. Stick around the board, there's lots of people in the same shoes as you are and beyond. Read threads and ask questions. The ladies here are a great resource and great support!

LoveTravel

Congrats and welcome!

doz&koz

Congratulations and welcome to the board!  The ladies here are a great resource and a huge help.

tmbuchmann

I think I went through the same thing you are feeling now (except the inferility part) but the overwhelming feeling of having to care for two babies at once is huge. It took me awhile to get over it and be excited. Partly because there was so much to worry about. I think when I hit 24 weeks I started to get a little more excited and then each milestone after that there was a little more relief and acceptance and then finally excitment.

GL and congrats!

Mrs.NGM

It took us nearly a year to get pregnant and while I was thrilled to finally get pregnant, it honestly took me a couple of weeks to get excited about having twins.  I felt guilty for feeling this way, but I was completely overwhelmed at the thought of two babies.  I think it is a totally normal and maybe even a healthy feeling to have.  I worried (and still worry) about being a good mom to two little infants at once.  

Honestly, being on this board plus joining a multiple moms group has been helpful in seeing that it's totally doable and really an amazing thing (though I don't speak from experience yet). 

SpinningJess

Scroll down and look for a post yesterday about all of the emotions that come with twins - NO ONE HERE WILL JUDGE YOU!!!  Take it one day at a time, it will sink in eventually.  Congrats to you and H!!

Thisgirlslife

Welcome and Congrats!  Don't feel bad about how you feel~ your emotions will be all over the place and all of them are okay.  Having twins is crazy~ but it is pretty awesome too, and perfectly do-able.  You'll be great!!

leviandlandensmom

SpinningJess:

Scroll down and look for a post yesterday about all of the emotions that come with twins - NO ONE HERE WILL JUDGE YOU!!!  Take it one day at a time, it will sink in eventually.  Congrats to you and H!!

Ditto!